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    #271
    Jumping through January AF. . . .come join in!

    Feeling really good Oney. Just feel I let myself become dependent on so many people hubs, doc, psycho, kids and everyone telling me what to do. I'm not good at being told what to do and I just feel I'm back to myself for the first time since my mum died and all the shite happened with my sisters. It is so..........liberating.....hope it goes on feeling like this. Hubs is killed trying to mend bridges but I don't think so - it'll be just back to the same old rubbish.
    Hows the 'puter ban going
    Contentedly sober since 27/12/2011
    contentedly NF since 8/04/14

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      #272
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      Thats GREAT news Molly, I feel a bit the same myself, I used to trip myself up trying to please everyone to the detriment of myself, I am learning to do what I want now and funny enough things are working out just fine...maybe because I am a happier person and that ricochets off everyone in the family, I dunno but I am trying to put myself first and discover who I am again, plus the added bonus that I ain't as bad as I thought I was!!!

      puter ban is em er, going and grand, em

      NOT
      "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

      AF 10th May 2010
      NF 12th May 2010

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        #273
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        Happy Sat. night everyone! This is the second Saturday I have been sober in years...today is day 8! Hubby and I are celebrating our 1st wedding anniversary tonight. He brought me home a dozen roses in different colors, very pretty. We're having a cozy evening at home and dining on some lobster and steamers and I baked him a special Jamaican cake (we got married there last winter). The recipe calls for rum but I used rum extract...just as good! Just came out of the oven, smells divine! He is drinking champagne, I am drinking sparkling soda out of a champagne glass. I even opened the bottle of Champagne. Never was a champagne drinker...talk about a headache. Sticking with my guns and I'm doing just fine sipping my water! Have a wonderful AF night everyone!
        Whatever you invest in the circle of LIFE is what comes back to you. Multiplied. What you give to people is what they eventually give back to you. Don't do the math. Just increase your LOVE.

        BE HAPPY...BE CONNECTED...BE HEALTHY!         :h

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          #274
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          Evening all, I'm doing ok tonight, bout to head out to the gym. Have a great AF night all.
          You always succeed if you never stop trying.
          Everyday we choose the direction of change.

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            #275
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            Nice one Blondie - happy anniversary as well! lucky you not keen on champagne - I never liked it either. It was the only drink ever 'acceptable' in our house in the mornings (christmas morn. etc.) - what a waste!!
            I agree Oney, when we are happy in ourselves it definitely affects everyone - it has to come from inside tho, I actually don't think anyone can 'make' us happy, they can just 'make' us unhappy.......anyhows, off to bed here - just savaged 16 yr old cos he was 15 mins late in and he's still looking at me astonished! Mrs Meekandmild is DEAD!!!!
            Molly
            Contentedly sober since 27/12/2011
            contentedly NF since 8/04/14

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              #276
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              x-post Jenny - enjoy the gym. I actually read a post by you today or yesterday on another thread that I so agreed with and meant to reply and forgot - I must find it tomorrow - we seem to sing from the same hymnsheet
              Molly
              Contentedly sober since 27/12/2011
              contentedly NF since 8/04/14

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                #277
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                Morning Happy Jumpers,

                I'm tucked up in bed with my cuppa and laptop being very lazy this morning and it feels great. Have had a text from a pal who was out on the lash last night and she is still drinking, it was more of an incoherent ramble than a text to be honest telling me I'm her best friend in the world. I'm soooooo glad I am sitting in bed sober and looking forward to my day

                I'm keeping my eye on a couple of things on ebay so a bit distracted but off to check on peeps, catch you all later and Happy Sober Sunday guys - jump over to the Sunday thread and keep JC happy

                Dewdrop :h
                Enjoy today - there will be no other one quite like it....

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                  #278
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                  Morning Dewdrop! I'm dancing with rage here! My beloved daughter - who I truly do love to the ends of the earth has asked me for a loan of 2000 euros as a deposit on a new apartment -WHERE IN THE NAME OF GOD DOES SHE THINK I HAVE THAT SORT OF MONEY LYING AROUND!! She will pay it back in March but it is just the presumption that I would have it, will have to ferret around tomorrow morn - my morning off - will be working till 9pm and try and find some money that is allocated to something else that I won't need till March, and then we move on to ONLINE BANKING!! Grand if you just want to pay your phone bill but.......... oh bugger - sorry for ranting - just money is a biggy at the moment and it is a barrier to my independence so I NEEDED THIS LIKE A HOLE IN THE HEAD!!

                  Morning everyone hope you have a lovely Sunday
                  Molly
                  Contentedly sober since 27/12/2011
                  contentedly NF since 8/04/14

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                    #279
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                    Awwhhh crappers Molly, can you just say no???
                    "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

                    AF 10th May 2010
                    NF 12th May 2010

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                      #280
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                      one2many;1042228 wrote: Thats GREAT news Molly, I feel a bit the same myself, I used to trip myself up trying to please everyone to the detriment of myself, I am learning to do what I want now and funny enough things are working out just fine...maybe because I am a happier person and that ricochets off everyone in the family, I dunno but I am trying to put myself first and discover who I am again, plus the added bonus that I ain't as bad as I thought I was!!!

                      puter ban is em er, going and grand, em

                      NOT
                      Hiya Jumpers. What an inspiring thread.....

                      Now Oney, this is amazing. Its exactly how I feel too. And the same as you, since I am happier, people around me are too. I am actually encouraged to do the stuff that makes me happy. And if sitting on the pooter for hours on end does it, then so be it. Its grand
                      Living now and not just existing since 9th July 2008
                      Nicotine Free since 6th February 2009

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                        #281
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                        You have helped me a lot Starty, whether you know it or not, you got me questioning myself in the first place and helped me to see that yes, I DO matter. Thanks hon xxx
                        "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

                        AF 10th May 2010
                        NF 12th May 2010

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                          #282
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                          Aww Molly it's a difficult one but maybe take a step back for a day, why do we parents always need to jump right in and fix things ?? The problem as kids get older is that the requests for help may become less frequent as they stand on their own two feet but they inevitably are for something bigger ie deposit for flat. However on the bright side she is asking for a loan until March and she will pay the loan back, right?

                          Could you manage to help her out with say half of it and maybe she could get the other half somewhere else - a loan, overdraft, other friends/family. There are always other flats and time to save the deposit. Anyway just a thought and maybe you just wanted to vent.

                          Dewdrop :h
                          Enjoy today - there will be no other one quite like it....

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                            #283
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                            Absolutely Dewie, venting I was!! Oney, 'no' isn't really an option - she and I have a very healthy relationship with money - she has always had a job, has taught piano since she was 14 at school and she has my CC no off by heart and always always pays back. The prob. is that she has no idea what is going on here and with my marriage - I'm not going to land that on her in Canada until she needs to know or until I can tell her face to face. Dewie, she has already given notice on her old flat and has fallen head over heels with this one, and I really would love her to be there. I will find the money and as I calm down I know it is just that she doesn't understand where I'm at. So yep all will be fine.
                            Starty, you are so right, this place is my lifeline and there is no way on earth I would let anyone come between me and here!! I think maybe that's why I imploded on hols - of course I could have found an internet cafe and all that but - hindsight, and yes, this is a brilliant thread - it's like a friend that you only see twice a year and you pick up where you left off - no agendas no judging, just the 'permission' to do what I did this morning VENT - and had several lovely people in such a short space of time to calm me down:thanks:
                            Molly
                            Contentedly sober since 27/12/2011
                            contentedly NF since 8/04/14

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                              #284
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                              Totally agree with Dew Molly.....It would be different if you had thousands sitting in the bank.....

                              I think offering her half the amount is a really good idea, it's not saying no but meeting in the middle...
                              "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

                              AF 10th May 2010
                              NF 12th May 2010

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                                #285
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                                Sorry X posted Molls x
                                "It's not your job to like me, it's mine!"

                                AF 10th May 2010
                                NF 12th May 2010

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