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    Just about finished day 11

    Well I am just about finished my 11th day AF. I have learned a lot about myself over these last 11 days including....

    - The first 3 days are the toughest. I am feeling a lot better than I did a week ago.
    - My trigger times are between 5-7 pm. If I keep busy during these times and stay off the couch it is a lot easier.
    - My kids seem a lot happier than they did a week ago. (lol)
    - When I first stopped drinking, all I could think about was drinking. Now I can think about other stuff
    - My house has never been cleaner
    - I feel happier, more energized and more fun to be around.
    - My thoughts are clearer.

    I am well on my way to being Af for all of Jan.

    Now the next thought............. Can I drink in moderation in Feb? Hmmmmm......

    I know I have this little devil sitting on my shoulder saying...... " way to go !! See... You're not addicted. I am sure you can drink in moderation".

    Scary stuff !!!!!!

    Thanks for your comments and support

    Jim
    I would rather have a frontal labotomy than a bottle in-front-of-me.

    AF since Oct 23,2013

    I watched this and found it incredibly empowering.....
    http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

    #2
    Just about finished day 11

    Hi Jim,

    Well done on 11 days sober - it's great that you can pinpoint the positives that have come out of this. As t moderating, you are right to be cautious. Been there, tried that, failed miserably. Some people can successfully moderate, but many more can't in my experience.

    Whatever you decide to do, good luck,
    K x
    Recovery Coaching website

    "Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending." - Carl Bard wl:

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      #3
      Just about finished day 11

      Hi Jim
      Fantastic to hear all the positive changes! I think its wonderful how quickly we see the differences and how soon we can break our habits.......
      Maybe come Feb the thought of a hangover will be just to much and you will chose to stay AF
      "In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer ."
      AF - JAN 1st 2010
      NF - May 1996

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        #4
        Just about finished day 11

        Hi Jim,

        Congrats on your 11 AF days!
        When you hit 30 days, ask yourself honestly - can you really drink moderately? At that point I just knew the answer was NO! I was very happy with myself & proud of my accomplishment. The last thing I wanted to do was screw up again. For me it's just easier to not drink at all.

        Think very carefully before you take that plunge.
        Wishing you continued success!

        Lav
        AF since 03/26/09
        NF since 05/19/09
        Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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          #5
          Just about finished day 11

          Great job! Personally, I think it is too early to think about moderating. I am 2 months sober and no way could I moderate even if I wanted to. Not worth all my hard work. All the positives I would lose by picking up a glass of wine would be washed away in a Chardonnay blur. Maybe in a year. Or 10. Nah, probably never. Give yourself some time for your brain to understand how good it feels wthout alcohol. You'll be pleasantly surprised. Best of luck!
          February 27th, 2013. A New , Successful Start. :h

          When everything seems like an uphill struggle, just think of the view from the top!!

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            #6
            Just about finished day 11

            Well done on day 11 i'm on day 10. Its good that identifed your triggers and got yourself a plan. Keep it up.:goodjob:

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              #7
              Just about finished day 11

              Sounds Brilliant! I am on day 4 and I already am thinking more clearly, feeling more love for my partner, enjoying spending time with my son, sleeping better and am more motivated

              I believe I will be able to drink in Moderation as I have doen in the past but for now, its one day at a time reminding myself that I am not going to drink today

              Keep it up!

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                #8
                Just about finished day 11

                Hi Jim, congratulations on your 11 days, that is great. You are thinking a lot about what you are feeling, and experiencing, and how your life is different sober - this is great. Focus on January, one day at a time, and try to achieve your goal.

                Moderation works for some, and not for others. You have some time to think about that still.

                All the best,
                Hill
                Sober since Feb 7, 2010.

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                  #9
                  Just about finished day 11

                  Congratulations WBG! It really is a great feeling having that constant "drink" urge lifted off our shoulders, isn't it?

                  I have gone back and forth with thoughts of moderation in the future myself. I'm really not sure if I really even want to get back in the drinking arena and have that problem again! You're probalby the only one who can make that decision for yourself! :goodjob:

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                    #10
                    Just about finished day 11

                    Well done WBG, on Day10 myself and all your thoughts and goings on are similar to mine. As each day goes by, I am becoming less moody, and really enjoying sobriety.
                    Modding doesnt seem to work for me as I gradually slip back to my old ways, but lets do January and see where it takes us .
                    I wish you all the best
                    Still trying !!!
                    AF 25th June2014

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                      #11
                      Just about finished day 11

                      great work WBG and others who have replied to your thread that have some AF time behind them. That little voice will be with you now trying to fool you into thinking thats its o.k. to drink. Give yourself more af time...it is your greatest gift to yourself. In my case I have tried modding hundreds of times and very quickly ended up flat on my face. I am in my seventh month sober now and know with all my heart that I do not want to be controlled a chemical ever again. I am in such a clear head space at the moment that nothing could improve on it...certainly not a poison like al which is very similar chemically to drain cleaner. The memory of the buzz is just so strong, but it does dim as time goes by. I wouldnt trade my peace of mind, improved relationships with my children, better health both mentally and physically for a temporary mind altering drug that will ultimately kill me. Much strength and grace Saff
                      I am a part of the family of humanity. Not one person on this earth is a stranger to me. Rev. Ted Noffs

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                        #12
                        Just about finished day 11

                        thanks everyone for the kind words and encouragement.

                        I found out a few months ago that my job would be ending at the end of Jan. Obviously I have been worried about the future.

                        I just got word of a new job that I will be starting !!!!! Guess what my first words were to my wife ?? "Let's celebrate and have a drink!!!"

                        Thanks to my wife, she talked me through it and now we are going out for dinner AF !!

                        I will tip my glass of lemon water....... Although I would really like a glass of red wine

                        Finishing day 12 AF and onto lucky day 13 !!!!

                        Jim
                        I would rather have a frontal labotomy than a bottle in-front-of-me.

                        AF since Oct 23,2013

                        I watched this and found it incredibly empowering.....
                        http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

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                          #13
                          Just about finished day 11

                          thats brillant Jim, they are the triggers we need to get through and you just nailed that one, and well done to your wife. Its great to have that support.:goodjob:
                          Still trying !!!
                          AF 25th June2014

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                            #14
                            Just about finished day 11

                            Congrats on your new job WineBeGone! And kudos for celebrating the good news AF! That is such an inspiration to me as I have been sober for 6 days now, also a wine lover. And we have our 1st wedding anniversary coming up this weekend and since anniversary's are always celebrated with a bottle of bubbly, I will have to make mine sparkling water with a squirt of lemon also! We got married in Jamaica last year so maybe even one of those cocktail umbrellas as well might be in order.
                            Whatever you invest in the circle of LIFE is what comes back to you. Multiplied. What you give to people is what they eventually give back to you. Don't do the math. Just increase your LOVE.

                            BE HAPPY...BE CONNECTED...BE HEALTHY!
                            :h

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                              #15
                              Just about finished day 11

                              Congratulations WB! On both the no drinking and the new job!! I have to say I am really impressed -- especially with all that wine you have around your house!! I'm on day 18 myself, and feeling great.

                              Hope you all have a wonderful AF evening!

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