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[flowerine]

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Hi, Vintage Girl, congrats on your decision! Hope to see you back soon

[bugalugs]

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stay stong and good luck

[vintage girl]

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Hi guys, just checking in to let you know I am now on day 3 Feeling good apart from sleep issues. I got to sleep no problem but seem to wake too early and can't get back off again.
Still, it beats a hangover! 3 days sober would be awesome for me so bring it on! (reading Allen Carr since yesterday, very interesting book!)

[vintage girl]

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Day 95

Sorry for bumping my own thread, was reminiscing today when I counted that I am 95 days AL free today.

Thread is being bumped for two reasons; firstly, to thank everyone who has posted here and on other threads for the support, the advice and for sharing your stories with me.

I never could have believed back when I posted the OP on this thread that I (me, of all people!) could clock up 95 days AL free.

The second reason is obvious.

If you are lurking, or thinking about trying to achieve some AL free time, please give it a go. You might not think it is possible, but it really and truly is.

My life, my marriage, my relationships, my performance in my job everything has benefitted from this commitment I made back then.

I don't have all the answers, but MWO forums have been my support throughout, and although I am a moderate poster, I am always an avid reader of the threads here.

I have thought about moderating, and I can totally understand the folks who make that choice. For me, the 100 day mark is a big one, and decisions should be made etc etc.

But do you know what? I got all that AL free time by just putting one foot in front of the other, one day, minute and hour at a time.

So, God willing I get to 100, I will just start another goal, another 30 days and see what happens.

Can I ask the long-termers, abstainers and moderators, when is the right time to make that decision, and do you think I am being cowardly, kind of putting off the inevitable for not making it yet?

Any input, as always, is greatly appreciated. Thank you all again

[JackieClaire]

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Well look at you now Vintage G,

Look how far you've come from that first post.

:yougo::yougo: 95 days is fantastic :yougo::yougo:

You probably know how I feel about moderating, too much like hard work.

Anyway all I really wanted to say don't push yourself too hard to make a decision. You're enjoying being AF by the looks of it just go with the flow and see where it leads you. Putting time limits on myself has been my downfall in the past.

J x
:l

[vintage girl]

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Thanks JC. I am so afraid of becoming complacent, I just feel it is probably best to keep on doing what I've been doing for a while. Not blowing my trumpet by any means, I just thought this might help someone thinking about taking that first step.

I can see from your avatar that the Aldi face cream isn't quite working for you? :H

[JackieClaire]

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vintage girl;1111089 wrote:
I can see from your avatar that the Aldi face cream isn't quite working for you? :H

:H:H:H

Complacency is the bugger that got me every time. I'll just have a couple...............then I'd have to sit on me hands for the rest of the night gritting me teeth.

[techie]

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Vintage,

I'm happy you're getting the book. Work out a plan and you can change your life. Yes you can! John xx

[Lavande]

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VG,

CONGRATS!
You have come a long way & you don't want to do anything to screw up now - I completely understand

For me, taking the option of drinking off the table was a blessing & a true gift to myself!
Like JC & many others it was just easier to make that decision. I never feel like I'm missing anything especially because I have gained so much. It's a trade-off & a good one in my book! I plan to play it safe forever

[wanderbird]

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I'm new here too, this is day 5 for me, and I drink in a similair way to you - evening only, but I powered it back and have done so for more years than I recall
I didn't think I could do this, but I am already reaping the benefits, it is SO worth it, I have achieved more in 5 days than I would have in months. This site is great, the people so supportive.
There is a thread in the Monthly Abstainence thread called 'what I loathe, hate. destest etc about alcohol' I have referred to it often and it has helped to reinforce why I DON"T want to drink. It has shifted my thinking a lot -
Good on you for posting

[vintage girl]

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well done Wander, Kudos! And I love that thread too!

[CakeQueen]

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you have done amazing xxxx

[damo180]

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Hi VG,

I am giving you AND me some advice.
Lets not moderate. Lets stay AF.
I am AF only a little longer than you, and have had 2 tough weeks tempted to try moderating.
It has been wrecking my head !!!, also I have been very busy and not been on here too much lately.
This has been a mistake as being on here helps me stay AF, so I need to make time from now on.
I need to keep reminding myself how well things are at the moment in every single aspect of my life.
And its all down to one thing. NOT DRINKING ALCOHOL.

You are doing so well, and I really enjoy reading the positivity in your posts.
Celebrate your 100 days !!!!
You should be so proud of yourself.

All the very best.

Damo in Dublin
x

[scottish lass]

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Congratulations Vintage Girl - I look forward to the day when i can do a similar post - you are a role model for all of us who are stepping out on the same road. It is so great to read stories of such success...

[vintage girl]

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Day 100

Thanks everyone for all the encouragement, support and honesty.

Lav, techie, JC, I totally get that moderating would be so much harder than what I have been doing and I never really thought I would say that as all along, in the back of my head I have kept it there as a sort of buffer.

Damo, you are so right about things being better. The thoughts of moderating, being able to sip a glass of something and then leave it at that are tempting; but I could never sip one glass of anything before. One glass of anything was never enough for me and I don't think 1000 days AL free will ever change that.

Like you, I have been reading Softy's posts about modding with interest, I so admire his honesty and his posts have really helped me to understand how difficult it would be.

Damo, it's not for me either and if you are ready to make the decision to banish thoughts of modding then so am I.

Scottish, Wander, CakeQueen, the best advice I was ever given when I first started out here was ODAT. Just one day at a time for the first wee while and soon enough the days are flying past and the benefits of being AL free keep you going. You are all doing great, keep up the good work!

Thanks again everyone. I love this place!