Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

[jennyneric]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

Hey guys! OK this thread was awesome last month, there were lots of people and support, lets bring it back up! Rally with me AFers! We can do this! Even if you haven't been AF the whole month so far that's no biggie, just dust off your wings and get your motor running again and you will be up here flying with the rest of us. Come on now. . . let's see the ground swell of support! On Monday well be 1/2 way there!

[Akasoto]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

Hi All

I've started a thread seeking info on a relapse prevention technique called 'cue extinction' here:

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f9...ml#post1058185

[choice]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

Hi Everyone who is still around.
Congrats AKA on reaching your 30 day mark!! :threesome:
I thought about relapse a lot in the beginning, and I'm glad I did so that I could prepare for what might cause it.
Good luck to everyone following their goals on being AF or modding. Entertaining thoughts of modding are dangerous for me so I am taking a break from this thread but I totally think it's such a personal decision and choice. For me it's a really tricky addiction that I have at bay for the moment and hopefully forever. I don't believe there is only one way to do this. I guess I'm feeling kinda lost here because I'm not sure if people are trying to mod or if they are trying to be AF. So I'm not sure what to say for words of support or encouragement. I do think everyone is doing their best to figure out what to do and either way I wish everyone the best. And sending lots of love to ya all for valentines day! :h:l

[JackieClaire]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

Oh Choice,hun. :l
You took the words right out of my mouth.
I'm afraid for me the thought of modding is so far removed from my reality it can make me very uneasy at times.

Of course every one has my support in their journey but as a just starting out thread and a 28 day AF challenge can I ask should those who wish to mod keep the those thoughts until the end of the 28 days.

Thoughts and input please.

[patrice]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

Hi all
Well I hope I can join in
Day 1 for me and feeling positive - looking forward to feeling good
Take care
Patrice

[JackieClaire]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

Course you can, Patrice.

[Softy]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

Nearly half way to AF February

Come on all we can do this. Top tip - be good to yourself. Indulge in things you don't normally have to compensate for lack of booze. For me it's ice cream. I will happily put on seven pounds as I can lose that later. It's a lot better to be a bit heavier than dead with liver cirrosis.

[jennyneric]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

Hey choice! I just wanted to clear something up that you said. This thread is a monthly challenge thread, the challenge is to be AF all month. The only one here entertaining modding thoughts is me (I think) . The idea behind the "rack up as many AF day as you can" is so if people (like myself) fall off the wagon once or twice they will know that it is ok to continue to post. We are all a work in progress and if you only get 3 days AF this month but last month you only got 1 then there was a 66% improvement this month! You know? I just hope you can feel welcome here. I believe all the people that post here are trying to be AF.

Have a great AF day!

[Ringing Cedars]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

I would like to keep posting although I did cave in last night. I agree for some just hearing that someone didn't make a day af but they can come right back and do their best is encouraging. I have eventual plans of modding again but really want to stay af as much as I can. I look forward to others thoughts.

[Cassia]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

Hey all,

I think as long as we all encourage each other to meet their personal goals, whatever they may be, then we are doing an awesome job. And I also think that it is good to give a wee bit extra support if someone takes a 'break' but wants to get back to it.

Can hardly believe it's the 11th!!!

X

[mollyka]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

Hi all, I haven't been around much so just reading back on the last couple days posts including Choice's. It is a thought that has been in my mind a bit, and I haven't been able to verbalize it.
When I started trying to be sober, the biggest threat to my sobriety was even thinking for one second that I could drink in any way again. Moderation would have been and still would be an absolute impossibility for me. I know that from efforts I made over the years to do just that and succeeding for a week, a month, and then drifting back to as bad and worse than I had been previously. I consider myself strong enough in my sobriety to be able to watch and listen to others successes or failures with modding - but definitely that was not always the case.
For that reason IMO and I stress only in my opinion that 'just starting out' should probably be restricted to folks that are truly attempting to be AF. I am NOT in anyway (please please hear what I'm saying here!) that any person who tries and fails after a month a week a day an hour shouldn't post in 'just starting out' - that's is precisely who should be there. Moderation is a different thing, it is if truth be told what we would all love to be able to do, but unfortunately I suspect the success rate is fairly low and for a newbie - maybe it is a window that should be closed for the period of time that they wish to post in that section. I am also guilty of posting in the wrong area following that criteria - I'm not starting out - I'm here nearly 2 years, certainly not sober for all that time (always sober posting I hastily add) but....but nothing really, maybe I too should move on??!
I don't want to upset anyone, I hate doing that, but I have been feeling a little uncomfortable with the cross over of AF and Modding - there it is I've said it and now I'm pressing the send button with no more agonising!!
Molly

[one2many]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

I totally agree with you Molly and thats is why we have sections for people who moderate or who are trying to moderate.

[Dewdrop]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

I guess I'm a little confused and haven't had time to read back but will do over the weekend. I can't think of modding because that would be the end for me yet I appreciate that newbies will have those thoughts and need the space to express those thoughts. Maybe I've been a bit vacant but I hadn't spotted the modding posts on this thread

I have moved onto other threads since I started but always check into the monthly thread here to support new peeps.

Happy weekend everyone, my grandaughter has a raging temp, runny nose and has been very clingy and whingy, managed to get her settled in bed but don't think she has given in yet...........

Dewdrop :h

[JackieClaire]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

I have to agree with Molls on this one,

For that reason IMO and I stress only in my opinion that 'just starting out' should probably be restricted to folks that are truly attempting to be AF.

I've been here nearly three years and have moved on but I still gain inspiration from members who keep coming back, and starting out on that blooming awful day one again. I've had more day ones than a calender so I honestly know how hard it is.

So of course keep posting if you've caved. We oldbies know how much you're trying. It's not easy. We all gain knowledge from the newbies and the oldbies here.

I can't tell you how chuffed I am when I come here and see someone has ridden out a really bad night of cravings.

I'm trying to think of an appropriate name for a forum for people starting again or even people like myself who have been AF for a while but still can't class themselves as long term abstainers. Still trying to puzzle out how long is long. I mean it's only a couple of years ago I thought 24 hours was a long time.

[Jolie]

Flying Through February AF. . . who's in?!

I think everyone has to make this decision for themselves. My only observation is that if you look around this site, there are forums clearly defined for each situation. Those just starting out, those whose goal it is to totally obstain, and those who are trying to cut back. This is my third time back to MWO - obviously I started in the just starting out section, and probably too quickly (without trying to go 30 days AF), moved on to the monthly moderating section. Wasn't sucessful not just once, but two different times. I have truly never come into contact with so many people that are as unselfish as this group. We all have are problems - some way worse than others - yet we are all willing to give support. I think that's the most important thing - we all need each other.