Confused by definitions of problem drinkers

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Confused by definitions of problem drinkers

I just ordered the Extreme recovery pack from here along with an extra kudzu packet. Sounds like some very useful stuff in there.

Interesting to read about other internet purchased kudzu not working - first batch I tried was great but these ones I have now just aren't having any effect.

It isn't just buying this pack and its contents that will help, it's the very action of acknowledging a problem and doing something about it that will hopefully make significant changes in itself.

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Confused by definitions of problem drinkers

$43 delivery charge - ouch! What price health though...

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Confused by definitions of problem drinkers

Jesus.... a simple pool competition, ended up in late night club and then tried to get in Claridges. What the hell is wrong with me.

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Confused by definitions of problem drinkers

And again the day after. I won't be here much longer at this rate. Good luck to anyone with the courage to give up drinking, I can't do it.

[Newyear]

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Owly-
I was thinking about you yesterday and wondered how you did Friday. Have you thought of getting some one on one counseling? You can't keep doing this to yourself. Don't give up. Going out and drinking like this is not fun. Please get some help- you are putting yourself in danger each time you do this.
Lisa

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I am registering with a doctor soon, I've just moved house so don't have one at the moment. I will be sure to mention the problem and hope he can offer me help but I know you have to really want to stop, and I only really want to stop 50% of the time. Thanks for thinking about me, it means a lot.

Just heard my friend has damaged his liver from drinking

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And after the bar shut last night I spent all night in a coffee shop, until 7 in the morning, I must have drunk eight black coffees - why would anyone do that? It's crazy, it's not just alcohol, I just have to be going over the top with something, anything.

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Owly wrote: It isn't just being on my own that makes the drinking uncontrollable, it's the not having any reason to stop. No responsibilities - I run websites which take care of themselves for the most part and have no children or family to look after. I think many people would have a similar problem if you took away those aspects which make drinking impractical for their lives.

I don't think having a family or other responsibilities are the only reasons to stop drinking. What about drunk driving, ruining your health, emabarrassing situations such as having he police called and not to mention he amount of money spent going out drinking excess amounts, etc...

The fact that you are here shows that you are not entirely happy with your drinking pattern, that drinking is in fact affecting your life negatively....

It is a big step to acknowledge this though and you can work from there.

I have tried to cut down on my drinking many times and the amount of alcohol keeps kreeping up to excessive levels again ad again. I'm able to drink in moderation for a few weeks and then I feel the urge to "reward" myself and have a blast! Well, I can't have that blast or buzz without drinking at least 4 beers in a row and after that I don't care anymore ad continue drinking....so for me it is not possible to drink sensibly when I'm out to "have fun", meaning getting enough alcohol to feel "euphoric". That is just not possible with only 1-2 beers or glasses of wine....

I suggest you try abstinence for 30 days and see if you can moderate after that. Then you will know if you are an alcoholic or just "problem drinker" (problem drinkers may be able to cut down for good, but alcoholics will not be able to...the good news is that for every alcoholic there are 2 problem drinker who may be re-programmed). Good luck!

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Hi Owly-
How did you do tonight?
I'm glad you are looking for a doctor. Now let's work on that other 50%...
I am single - not married and no kids - so I understand a little of what you mean about not having some reason to quit. But, you need to know that You are the reason you should quit. I bet you have a lot of gifts and talents that you could share with others.
Have you ever considered volunteering? Now that I'm working on my drinking issue I see that I have time available in my life...then I thought why not help out somewhere? Probably too early to think about it but thought I'd bring it up anyway.

Think of your life as a movie you are watching. You are the main character. What would you want that character to do?

Hope you did ok last night. Glad you are still posting here. I'll check back with you tomorrow - ok?
Lisa

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Welcome

Hello Owly,
Welcome to this site. I am fairly new to MWO, about a month, and though I am still drinking, I have been able to cut back a bit. I think just thinking more about it and reading info on this site about other folks with similar problems also helps me.
I have been drinking for a long time, I am in my late forties, and started in my teens pretty much like you, going out to the pubs and clubs to drink and meet people. It just got worse and worse. Anyhow, I hope you continue to come to this site, there are some great people whom i will probabally never meet in person, who are really helping me.
Take Care
Dan:welcome:

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Thanks again everyone for your responses It is definitely helping acknowledging the problem, even if I still can't conceive of a life without a drink, I do want to want to cut down/stop if you know what I mean.

Last night was terrible, I'm sure you've all been through the withdrawal - and the pre-existing anxiety condition just makes it worse. That almost certainty that you won't survive the day... and now I feel ok, tomorrow I will feel great, and the day after, then I'll start getting bored, and guess what... it's so predictable.

Volunteering is a good idea but the anxiety disorder would prevent that, I can't think about the future, even if it is something like knowing I have to make a phone call or go and visit someone, even a friend.

My girlfriend is very sensitive and kind and she can't bear to see me hurting myself over and over. It's time to stop thinking only of myself I guess.

The alcohol remains in the house, I never touch it or think of touching it - it is purely social and I am a very different person when I'm out.

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My girlfriend just came round and left me.

Then buzzed the door half an hour later and said I had one more chance to control my behaviour.

This sounds harsher than what actually happened, but maybe she is better off without me, she is such a worrier, and I am such a lunatic

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Oh my. This universe was one twisted sense of humour. I was all shook up by what happened, full of pledges and thoughts of growing up, taking responsibility, drinking sensibly if at all. To soak up my turmoil of emotions I turn on the tv and what film is just starting - National Lampoon's Animal House.

[tumadre]

Confused by definitions of problem drinkers

Ha! Yes, the universe does have a twisted sense of humor. :H What did you think as you watched the movie?
Tumadre

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Confused by definitions of problem drinkers

We gotta get you registered properly. Can you tell us what happened when you tried to do it?
Tumadre
P.S. Welcome-I'm rooting for you.