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    #1

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    Good morning all,

    I am new here and have visited this site on many occasions without posting..it is time to get this monkey off my back and regain control of my life. I have been drinking for the last fifteen years 4-5 days per week, 3-4 glasses of wine per nite....I don't drink to get drunk, I have a wonderful family, friends and job. I love the taste of wine but don't like the fact that it is what I look forward to at the end of the day. As of today I am committed to being alcohol free until Easter...then we will see which road to take. This will be harder than I think but am committed to my health.
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    #2
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    Hi Sistah! Sounds familiar. Glad you posted. This is a great place to find support. I've been here about a week. I'm not totally AF, but working towards that and have cut down A LOT. I'm not missing it either. I feel so much better and have a lot more energy. I'm happier than I've been in a long time. I don't feel trapped anymore. I see a much brighter future!

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      #3
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      Hi sistah and welcome.

      Deciding to quit drinking and reclaim your life is a brilliant idea. You certainly are right about it not being easy but it is worth it. There are alot of people here are willing to help you on your quest. So just ask for what you need and someone will always have an answer.
      Good luck to you.
      Hippy
      I finally got it!
      "All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think, we become" Buddah

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        #4
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        Hi and welcome to mwo sistah,There is a great community here with lots of great advice and support,post your feelings and thoughts as we all can relate to what your going through, good idea to have a plan so well done on going for alcohol free till easter,Then you can decide were you want to go from there. good luck and hope to see you around the boards.


        :congratulatory: Clean & Sober since 13/01/2009 :congratulatory:

        Until one is committed there is always hesitant thoughts.
        I know enough to know that I don't know enough.

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          #5
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          Hey Sista, can I join you? I split a bottle of wine most nights with hubby and have been doing so for 8 years. My mind thinks the same way yours does. I don't like the urge to drink I feel each night around supper time. It is quite compelling and fighting it is difficult. So if we do this together, it might be better. Whaddya think, Sista??

          Tips
          Tipplerette

          I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

          "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
          ? Lao-Tzu

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            #6
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            Hi Sistah,

            Welcome! This is a great community of like-minded people!

            You want to remain AF through Easter - What's your plan? Success doesn't happen just by accident.
            A firm commitment & a solid plan will do wonders! Look in the https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html for good ideas to help you put your plan together

            Tip, do you plan to forego splitting the bottle of wine most nights with your husband? Is he on board with your decision? It's nice to have support at home but it's not mandatory - I sure didn't have the support. That's where the commitment & plan really come in handy

            Wishing you both the best!

            Lav
            AF since 03/26/09
            NF since 05/19/09
            Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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              #7
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              You just hit the nail on the head, Lava. He does not push alcohol on me but feels we have NO problem by drinking a bottle of wine per night so he does open the bottle and offer me a drink some nights. He, of course, does not have the alcoholic tendencies and "forgets" to have wine on some nights. I, however, remind him and most times we do. So although he is not the problem or promoting my drinking, we make our own wine, it's delicious, cheap and plentiful and it's pretty mild on top of that. That's why I keep reneging on my one month commitment. It's only a "little" problem you see. But what worries me as I am sure it does our friend, Sista is the fact that this brain of mind REALLY craves it every night whereas hubby and many others have a glass or two of wine if it's suggested or if they remember. I always remember. A plan is a good idea. Tool box here I come.
              Tipplerette

              I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

              "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
              ? Lao-Tzu

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                #8
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                Hi Sista, and everyone else, I too have the most strongest desire to hit the bottle between 5 - 7 pm I call it 'Danger Time' If I can get through that I'm fine. Like you Tipplerette, I'd NEVER forget wine - o - clock, though drink far more than you seem to - 1 - 2 bottle most nights are no problem, more on a weekend. Great to meet you all - I think I need lots of help and advice! x

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                  #9
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                  Hello all,

                  Sistah, I can completely relate to your post. And you too, Tipp and Noodle. I never drank to get drunk, however what bothered me was looking forward to my wine each night. However, unlike some of you, my husband is a very light drinker. For him, a 4 oz glass of wine is just fine and nothing is okay too. So, he quickly picked up on the fact that our bottle of wine was disappearing each night despite his having only one glass.

                  Having this problem is really difficult for me to accept, but I'm slowly dealing with it! From what I have learned here, accepting that we have a problem is a big part of the battle.

                  Wishing you all good luck and strength with your journey!

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                    #10
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                    Hi Tipp,

                    I'm right there with you...thank you to all those that replied and have offered words of encouragement. Peace.

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                      #11
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                      Sistah and Tipplerete, it's great that you've recognised the problem early. It tends to escalate. I used to split a bottle with my husband once or twice a week in the good old days, and often had none at all. Gradually it built up to splitting a bottle most nights. Life at home became less happy. I started opening one and pouring a glass while cooking dinner, before he came home. At some point I was drinking my half before he came home. Some nights I'd open one of my own and hide it so that I could drink before he came home, or later after he'd gone out. So one or two half bottles a week became one or two bottles a night on my own within just a few years.

                      As Noodle said, recognising your triggers and the worst urge times for you is important. mine are also 5 - 7, so keeping busy is a good idea at that time. Certain meals trigger the desire for a particular type of wine, but I learned during my month AF that it's not necessary and you feel proud rather than deprived when you kick that one.

                      You may be able to relearn good drinking habits, but often an initial time AF helps you focus. After a month AF in February I tried moderation. It kind of worked, but just didn't make sense to me. I didn't know why I was doing it. As drinking alone is my problem area I've decided to forgo that but will allow myself a glass of wine if I go out, but no more than two, and only if I'm not driving. My plan involves drinking lots of water, taking supplements, taking time for daily exercise, keeping busy and listening to the hypno CD's.
                      Good luck with yours.

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