Ten weeks later

[Softy]

Yes 70 days today. But been with mum all day as I found out last night she just days to live. The care home have stooped her meds and are just giving pain relief. She has stopped swallowing so can't eat or drink. I wnt be posting further for a few days. But I know some follow these posts so didn't want to let my friends down. The only good thing is despite all that's happened today I will stay AF:upset::upset::upset:

[Wagoneer]

Ten weeks later

Oh Softy, I am so sorry for your pain. I pray for you and your Mum. My heart breaks for you. Please stay sober and strong for her and you. We are here for you. So, so sorry. ((((((you and Mum)))))))

[Mema]

Ten weeks later

Softy..I have read your past posts and you have inspired me. I am so sorry to hear of your pain..that has just got to be awful. i will pray for you and a peaceful passing for you Mum.

[Softy]

Ten weeks later

Thank you

I can't find anymore words that are appropriate:upset::upset::upset:

[coalfire]

Ten weeks later

Oh softy I am so sorry. I went through the same thing with my Dad and I wont lie to you. You do have dark days ahead of you.It makes you realise what a miracle it really is when people post 1/2/3 year AF posts because somehow they have survived stuff like this without drinking. How I don't know..but they have.You don't need us to tell you that this is as big of a test as you are likely to get for a long time. I am struggling to come up with ideas which would help and support you. What about using your sobriety as some sort of tribute to her? I am sure your mum loved and wanted the best for you.I could think of no better thank you than lasting sobriety on your part.Every time you are tempted to drink in the next few weeks/days then you could maybe say to yourself...no! not in her name.It might help to drive you on through the grief that is going to come crashing down on you very shortly.Think how proud you would feel carrying out the necessary arrangements sober and clear headed. You could always look back and feel that you were there at the bitter end and no one could ever take that from you.We all have to die and it would be wonderful if you could look back and think that you gave your mum the best death that a human being could have. You are building vitally important memories for yourself this week Softy. I hope and pray that you are able to build good ones. Make her proud of you.

[Kimberley]

Ten weeks later

Bless you Softy. If you can make it through this AF, you can make it through anything. I'm sure your mum would want you clear-headed right now and is proud of how strong you are.

Other than that, I can offer you nothing except a virtual ear, shoulder and hand and wish you, your ma and the rest of your family some comfort at this difficult time.

Virtual hugs,
K x