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Softy;1095537 wrote: Day 72 Today and staying AF is the thing I will do to honour my mums memory. Yesterday underlined the value of life. You only get one ride on the fair. I am going to live and breathe every minute I get. Wasting hours feeling hungover would be an insult to my mums memory:h:h:h
DGSobriety Date = 5/22/08
Nicotine Free Date = 2/27/07
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Softy I am so sorry to hear of your loss but I am in admiration of the way that you are responding to this awful situation. I think staying AF would be a lovely way to honour your Mum's memory :l
Dewdrop :hEnjoy today - there will be no other one quite like it....
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Beachbump;1095540 wrote: As I said...I admire you.
Don't know where in the world you are - but how does funeral and the arrangements work? Do you have a support system besides your sisters? Are they younger or older than you?Last drink 6th September 2013
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Softy,
Sending condolences to you and your family. I am very grateful to hear you were there for her and your family. I am also grateful to hear that her passing was a gentle ride.
A tribute is a wonderful idea!!
Stay a stubborn bloke. :l:l
Love,
CindiAF April 9, 2016
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I am so glad to see you are sober today. I was worried that it would be too hard, I really was. I was on standby for a relapse post. I am glad to see you are made of sterner stuff. Stay close Softy especially on the funeral day. Do you know when it will be yet?I am a sobriety tart. AA/Smart/RR philosophy, meds/diet/exercise/prayer,rabbbits feet/four leaf clovers/horseshoes. Yes please.I will have them all thank you very much.Bring them on
There is no way the bottle is going to be stronger than I am.
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So sorry for your loss, Softy. It is hard to lose a parent. I lost my dad on Boxing Day.
In my experience, thus far..... when he passed it was a feeling of relief for me, his wife and with no doubt, himself... He had cancer and was very sick for a long time. I watched the man deteriorate the last 6+ months of his life. It was the worse thing I had gone through seeing I could do nothing to save him.
Anyway, here we are at almost 4 months since he passed. I can tell you that this grief thing is a roller coaster thing from Hell. I did OK the first couple of months. The reality of his actually being 'gone' didn't feel 'real' (even though I watched him dying up till 2 hours before he passed).
It has only been the past 3 weeks that I have been an extreme emotional mess. The reality has set in, I have NO one to talk to about it (support is soooo important!!) and I cry all of the time; everywhere and anywhere!!
I have isolated myself, I have drank a few times, which exasperated the pain. At first it numbs it until I have that 'one too many' then I am soooooooo depressed and bawling.
I am overcome with absolute grief.... now.
I just wanted to say that it will come in waves and having a support system, which it sounds like you do, is so very important. Talking to people, or even grief counselor would be a good thing.
I am going to start seeing a counselor tomorrow. I thought I could handle this, seeing he was really sick and is finally at peace, but there is something going on with my head now that I need to talk to someone.
Again, I am sorry for your loss. I just wanted to share with you what I am going through. At first everything was 'ok' and 'peaceful'. Then as of late it has hit me like a Semi-truck.
xoxo
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Dear Softy,
I wanted to let you know I am thinking of you. I was able to be present when my father crossed over (and for a change, I was sober). It is a rare privilege to be able to hold a loved one's hand while their physical life ends. The next weeks will be hard but you have on-line friends thinking of you.Free at Last
"What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi
Highly recommend this video
http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html
July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last
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MWO massive
Massive support from you all is greatly appreciated at such a difficult time:thanks:
My normal weekly "weeks later" post this week will be eleven weeks later. It will be the day of the funeral. I will be making that post because I no longer drink.
KEEP ON KEEPING ON!Last drink 6th September 2013
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Well done softly we are all thinking of you and your family, Wishing you continual strength at this sad time in your journey.
:congratulatory: Clean & Sober since 13/01/2009 :congratulatory:
Until one is committed there is always hesitant thoughts.
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