Beating The Blues

[Softy]

Anyone got any tips? Back at work today and all the work problems are still there. I am the boss of a team of three and am not on speaking terms with one member of staff, their choice. Feeling low tonight despite lovely weather. Have no energy to do anything. What do others do to surf the wave of depression? Day 81 today so having a beer is not on the agenda. None of my hobbies seem to interest me. Reckon it might be an early night and hope to wake up in a more positive frame of mind tomorrow. The black dog of depression is barking at my feet.

::nomonkey::nomonkey::nomonkey:

[mylife]

Beating The Blues

Hello Softy,

So sorry to hear you're feeling blue. If anyone is entitled, you are. I have been having some issues there myself but someone on another thread told me that learning to deal with lifes emotional upsets in a new way is part of this journey. I agree with that. I would recommend a good book to take your mind off your worries -- and of course be kind to yourself. You deserve it.

Have a great AF evening. :l

[JackieClaire]

Beating The Blues

Aww Softy, hun.

You've had a rough trot the past few weeks and you're bound to feel a bit, how can I put this...........crap.

After a series of events last year including the death of my dear uncle I ended up with anti-depressants.

Anyway as for this evening, to be honest I would just right off today. Early to bed, good book, cup of tea and a packet of custard creams.

However if you still feel like this in maybes a week, have a word with the doc.

BTW blooming :goodjob: on 81 days.

J x
:l

[Softy]

Beating The Blues

Music

Maybe I will dig out my Smiths, Morrissey and Joy Division records and wallow in it. Sometimes it is appropriate to let the wave engulf you rather than trying to surf all the time. I suppose it is ok as long as you have a lifebelt that makes you bob back up to the surface. The MWO Massive can be my rubber ring.

[JackieClaire]

Beating The Blues

Softy, you do make me smile.
Chuck some Leonard Cohen in just for good measure.

[Cassia]

Beating The Blues

Hi softy,

I am sorry you are feeling so low. From reading your other posts,
I know that youngest someone very dear to you and now you are going through normal stages of grief. I have no magic words unfortunately. When you lose someone as close to you as a mom, there is a part of you that will never get over it, but you will eventually accept it. You will have days like today often but eventually the good will outweigh the bad. Life will go on as awful as that may seem right now. I know you feel like you are depressed but you have been through a lot. The best thing you can do is accept how you feel and just be for today. Things may look brighter tomorrow.

Peace and strength to u.

X

[Softy]

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Cohen

You are meant to be helping me. If I put bloody Leonard Cohen on I will slit my wrists.:H you have cheered my up already. Thanks for that! I think I said in another thread, my old ma used to say "laughter is the best medicine" however if I have diarrhea I would rather take Immodium than just laugh about it.

[Softy]

Beating The Blues

Cassia;1101587 wrote: Hi softy,

I am sorry you are feeling so low. From reading your other posts,
I know that youngest someone very dear to you and now you are going through normal stages of grief. I have no magic words unfortunately. When you lose someone as close to you as a mom, there is a part of you that will never get over it, but you will eventually accept it. You will have days like today often but eventually the good will outweigh the bad. Life will go on as awful as that may seem right now. I know you feel like you are depressed but you have been through a lot. The best thing you can do is accept how you feel and just be for today. Things may look brighter tomorrow.

Peace and strength to u.

X

Thanks all for the kind words , sometimes just having a bit of a moan helps, due to the wonders of the net I can moan to people all over the world in one go.

[JackieClaire]

Beating The Blues

Well if I'd recommended Abba, you'd be throwing yerself off a tall building.

BTW :h Joy Division

[startingover]

Beating The Blues

Big hugs Softy, like you said, let this one wash over you. It will pass :l

[Cassia]

Beating The Blues

Never underestimate the power of a good moan!!!

[vintage girl]

Beating The Blues

Actually The Smiths might not be a bad idea, some of the lyrics make me LOL they can be so random.

'Under the iron bridge, we kissed, but I ended up with sore lips' :H

Seriously, don't let the work situation get you down. It's natural for you to feel sad at the minute, you have had so much to deal with recently. Feel free to share your feelings here, with us. :l

[Doggygirl]

Beating The Blues

Big hugs softy. You HAVE been through a lot lately. Be good to yourself.

Do you exercise at all? I do find that 30 minutes of going as hard as I can go at it lifts my spirits. Endorphin power I think.

Tomorrow is a new day!

DG

[noodle]

Beating The Blues

I like the custard creams suggestion, whoever said that, and a big pot of tea. At least Mozza would approve (well you may have to knock up a batch of vegan ones for him, or hide the wrapper).
Hugs to you Softy, grief is a huge and most powerfully strange emotion that can spring on you when you least expect it.
Keep on trucking (? that makes sense to me?!), xxxxxx

[coalfire]

Beating The Blues

Softy. I was thinking of diet and exercise too. Up to now I have allowed myself to eat what I want and do no exercise really because its been all al al al in my mind.I am ready now to start phase 2 and today is the start of my diet and exercise program. I am not doing anything really crazy. The diet that always seems to suit my mood (and jeans) best is the "if it hasn't been growing or swimming recently then Im not eating it" diet. It sounds simple but if you look at what you are about to eat you will realise it's strict enough. It gets rid of a lot of junk and all those white carbohydrates that seem to bring me down. That and a 40 min walk at least 5 times a week always seems to send my mood soaring about a month after I start it. Some studies have shown that exercise works as well as an antidepressant for mild to moderate depression. I think many of us tend to put diet and exercise to the bottom of the pile when we are dealing with our alcoholism then we get a suprise when we realise how good it makes us feel.I realise a lot of your depression though is reactive and grief related and thats not so easily dealt with. I have been through bereavement myself and the old truism of time really does hold best. I wonder is there any way of sorting out the situation with the work colleague? Even if they are in the wrong ,it might be worth meeting them 70% of the way just to give yourself a better time of it in work.Could you do a" Im willing to apologise and let it go if you are" kind of thing with them just to get the issue sorted?