Failure

[Guitarista]

Failure

Hello, anybody there?

Ok, i'm off into the day. Take care VG.

[vintage girl]

Failure

it's actually quite funny.

it's actually quite funny Greg, you are now acknowledging my AL free time and my my struggles now that I have brought it to your attention so forcefully.

The whole point of the original OP and the sentiments are that there are people who can't communicate very effectively through no fault of thier own, and who are being left out of the clicque because of it.

[Guitarista]

Failure

vintage girl;1118115 wrote: it's actually quite funny Greg, you are now acknowledging my AL free time and my my struggles now that I have brought it to your attention so forcefully.

The whole point of the original OP and the sentiments are that there are people who can't communicate very effectively through no fault of thier own, and who are being left out of the clicque because of it.

Alcohol free time is alway's acknowledged around here, and celebrated, and so it should, no matter how the news surfaces. Just take a deep breath, and dive in friend. Some folk seem to take a little while to warm to new poster's, but most people here will give a new and struggling person the time of day. It took me a while to get responses from various threads too when i first came here. The people who posted above, all give selflessly of their time to support struggling folk here. We all know, we've seen it, and the runs are on the board, and we are lucky to have them around, and giving back.

It's not for me to say if i have anything of value to offer a person newly AF, or struggling, but i sure as hell searched out the folks who had a year or more under their belt, and i sure had question's for 'em when i first arrived. So, anyone reading this, just read, read, and read, everything on this site. I wanted to know what sobriety was like, and how people did it, especially 1 year, 2 years + AF. So go and ask them. Try monthly abstinence area, long term abstainers section, look at people's signature's.....wow! 2 yrs AF? 'I want some of that' send off a P.M. Follow them, stalk them, what are they reading? Thinking? How are they coping? Strategies? Ask.

We must be pro-active in our recovery, take action, and do the work.

I note this thread is in the 'Just starting out' section, so to folk's just starting out......

Get involved. Be patient, persistent, determined, Jump in and Ask.

[choice]

Failure

Hi Vintage Girl,

I saw that you've been AF since Feb, 1 and I had a similar feeling about the site when I was at that stage (time wise).. I kinda think you guys are really on to something about what to do with the sober time. I went through so many changes and just was trying to find my feet here and in the real world. I still am. I do spend less time on the site because I got pretty busy. But I've been trying to get back into it a bit as the support is amazing and I learn so much.

There really was only one thread that I've posted on for a long time in the just starting out section. It was a monthly challenge thread. I don't know.. I kept posting there for a long time and felt comfortable seeing the same people and learning about their lives as they supported me and listened to my ups and downs as a new sober person. I've posted on other threads and received very warm welcomes and encouragement but I think I was worried I was on the computer too much and couldn't keep up with the thread I was on let alone a new one. Such great people all around and sharing daily life and the challenges we face staying sober is so supportive.

I'm not sure were I fit in now but I think as long as I keep posting where ever it is... it helps me and hopefully someone else. Thanks for sharing how you are feeling because I bet there are a lot of folks lurking who probably really relate. And I think that always is helpful.

Take care, Choice

[sunshinetoday]

Failure

Hey VG,
Just noticed I have not seen you in the nest. I have been here less than 2 months, and I know it is hard breaking into some of the regular threads. I kind of just cruise along and jump in and out, and I notice others do that too. I did join the Underoos thread and kept posting till they would know I was missing if I didn't post, and they're all really lovely. Mostly I just pop in on peoples threads and posts a few words of support and then go somewhere else. I always go to the Nest still too. I just want you to know, I am interested in your journey, I am interested in how you're doing. I wonder how you are when I have not seen you check in the nest in awhile. Thinking of you!
SST

[noodle]

Failure

Hi VG,
Just wanted to say I appreciated your welcome when I first jumped into this place, and to everyone else, I've appreciated each and every comment/response/peice of advice and just about everyones posts. This is a one of a kind place, where I fell I can just drop in if I feel I'm struggling, and quite often just to say Hi or see how someones doing who I know is going through a rough patch. I'm all over the place at the mo. and need and appreciate very much all the help I can get. I hope someone may even get something from my ramblings, which are posted with the best intentions !!
Maybe its just me, but I get the feeling a lot of the time people just like to get stuff off their chest, seeing it in print helps exorcise the Demon. I don't respond to every post I read, but like to chip in when I feel I can genuinely help in some way, or offer comfort.
Anyway, just wanted to say (eventually:H) that I've really appreciated the same from you guys - :thanks: