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    Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

    Two days ago I went on line to find how many shots in a bottle of scotch. ... and "MWO" pops up. My wife and brother were arguing that drinking that much in a fairly short period of time was too much. Naturally, I had to prove them wrong..... right???? Of couurse this was just my drinking at home supply. Saw a post saying "AF free in June" - and another about "modding" a term I never heard of....

    I want to comit to the June AF; thought I could start a day early on the 31st.... but, alas - that was not to be.

    BUT yesterday.... I did it. I really did. Not going to tell my wife - she would never understand. You guys do. I see it in the postings.

    Today will be day two. Its going to be harder today due to my lunch at an italian place with some business associates. Oh, how I love a glass (or three) with spagetti and meatballs!

    Had water with lemon in it last night with dinner; wanted a scotch beforedinner as usual; a beer or two with dinner as usual; and a few later. Each time I fought the strong urge - "what the hell - just one would not hurt"; "maybe, I'll mod now" "Hey, I work damn hard - and deserve it" "Super day at work - things went well, one drink to celerbrate a job well done".

    I'm feeling really positive. I have to keep blocking out the 28 days to go. Just today. Just today. Guess I'll have a peice of cheesecake at lunch. Nah, it just substitute one craving for another - fat and sober vs. drunk and not fat. Nah..... water lots of it with lemon... yeah thats it.... water with lemon.

    Who knows .... I may be the guy on the next Flomax commercial!:new:
    AF today, that's all I have to do, I can and will do it.
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    #2
    Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

    Hi 888,

    Just thought I'd add my hellos and welcomes.

    Honestly getting through that first day AF is a huge achievement. Honestly there was a time when I didn't think I'd ever get through a whole hour.

    Rightio to your lunch. One of the best pieces advise I was ever given was make sure you have a glass of something non-alcoholic in your hand before the others start asking what everyone's drinking. No need for massive explanations to any one or you'll get yourself in knots. Just say I'm good with this, they'll look a bit startled and move on.

    And remember you'll feel sooooooooooo good this afternoon while they're all feeling a bit foggy.

    J x
    :l
    It could be worse, I could be filing.
    AF since 7/7/2009

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      #3
      Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

      Welcome 888! Well you did one day well done!!! Now you are going to do day 2, so, maybe try for three. Stay here and keep posting and let us know how you are going. This site is full of help.

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        #4
        Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

        Welcome 888 and well done on day one. ODAT is the way to start, dont look to far into the future, it can be scary. Cravings have been described as a wave which we see coming and then wash over us, if we hang on there they pass pretty quickly. Have you tried L-Glutamine, many of us find it a great help with cravings?

        Hey, I work damn hard - and deserve it"
        May I suggest we 'deserve' to give our bodies and minds a break from AL, thats the true reward.

        Keep safe
        KTAB
        Ethanol is a toxic chemical, why would I drink it?

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          #5
          Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

          Welcome 888! I am just starting out too (again for me!). It's great that you have a plan for that lunch. I find having a plan is very important. I'm taking it day by day too and am aiming for an AF June. Stay strong and you will succeed!
          Whatever you invest in the circle of LIFE is what comes back to you. Multiplied. What you give to people is what they eventually give back to you. Don't do the math. Just increase your LOVE.

          BE HAPPY...BE CONNECTED...BE HEALTHY!           :h

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            #6
            Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

            On to day two; wasn't so bad. Had ice cream at lunch after the meal. The guys had a few glasses of cab. Looked good - but I focused on the ice cream. Skipped dinner and had a buch of chocolate chips. Felt really good pasing a cop who pulled someone over - not the usual "Oh, sh*t, a cop". Today is Friday - decided to leave work at 4Pm rather than stay and go out with the guys as normal. Don't remember a Friday night when I haven't at least gotten a good buzz. This will be the first time in maybe 30 years! Thanks for the encouragement!!!
            AF today, that's all I have to do, I can and will do it.

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              #7
              Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

              Hi 888,

              "Each time I fought the strong urge - "what the hell - just one would not hurt"; "maybe, I'll mod now" "Hey, I work damn hard - and deserve it" "Super day at work - things went well, one drink to celerbrate a job well done"."

              How many times have I had that exact same conversation in my head at around 5pm? Especially the conversations about being "deserving".

              May I add to that...

              "You can have just one this time" (even though the number of times I have had just one in my life , I can count on my 2 hands)

              "What will the others think if you're not ordering wine with dinner?" "You can control yourself just for tonight and start for real tomorrow"

              "Your husband is being a jerk, you need a drink because of him"

              "Your property taxes doubled, even though the value of your both your houses has dropped for the 3rd straight year, how are you expected to deal with that information without a couple of drinks?"

              It's amazing to me how I can talk about all these things to myself in the course of a couple of minutes and most times talk myself into a drink as a result.

              Since coming to this website, somehow I've been able to talk myself out of a drink more days out of a month. I am not AF, but I am really doing better than I was. I hope to string together 30days as well. So far, June has been going well (although there have been only 2 nights) ODAT.

              Good luck to you for a successful June.

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                #8
                Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

                Welcome 888, glad to have you hear as we are all fighting this demon together. Isn't that voice in your head obnoxious??? It seems to make perfect sense when it says "Just have one. It won't hurt.." I am on day two and managed both evenings to stay away from the wine while hubby was sipping his. The L-Glut is a strong anti-craving tool for me. It's a supplement you can get from any health food store in the capsule form and at a GNC in the powdered form. I take 1000 mg twice a day and it seems to ward off the physical cravings but doesn't shut up the little voice. That is all your job... Keep coming here. The encouragement from these great people is amazing. Again, welcome.

                Tips
                Tipplerette

                I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

                "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
                ? Lao-Tzu

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                  #9
                  Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

                  Day three AF. Just fighting the urge for a few minutes each time. Dinner out in the city with my wife. Fought the urge. ... and beat it. Sunday is going to be fine and at the end of Sunday will be day four AF.
                  AF today, that's all I have to do, I can and will do it.

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                    #10
                    Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

                    Hi 888,

                    Just wanted to say hello & welcome to MWO!
                    this is a good place & I think a lot of us have found it by accident ~ I know I did!

                    In case you haven't seen it yet, the https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html has lots of great ideas to help you make your plan.

                    Congrats on your 3 AF days, great work

                    Wishing you the best,

                    Lav
                    AF since 03/26/09
                    NF since 05/19/09
                    Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:

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                      #11
                      Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

                      Keep going 888 you can do it we have all been there I'm heading for week 3 to-morrow and am doing the af for june so keep it up you don't want to have to start again on day 1you will soon have a week up your sleeve your half way there

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                        #12
                        Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

                        Fell off two nights ago. Day 2 AF.... should have been day 9. I hate to admit it here in this forum... but, I really had a great time. Going to really focus day by day.
                        AF today, that's all I have to do, I can and will do it.

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                          #13
                          Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

                          You just took an important step 888 - Congratulations.. the easiest thing to do when we fall off the wagon is to fall off the MWO message boards because of embarrassment. That you came here, came clean and are hopping on the wagon again says that you mean business. You are going to beat this beast even if it means falling down, picking yourself up, dusting yourself off and starting again. Keep posting your victories and your challenges. That way the people on this site can be there for you to cheer you on. You won't get a lot of criticism here. We have all been at this for varying periods of time with varying degrees of success. I am on day 9 and have beat my all-time record of 6 days. Small victory but it took me 3 years of trying to do it. The difference this time is 100% commitment. I have hit the 'proverbial' wall. Keep at it and keep posting. There are lots of wonderful people here to give you advice.

                          Take care

                          Tips
                          Tipplerette

                          I do this for my children, my grandchildren, my health, my peace of mind, and mostly for the opportunity to learn to live with my true, unfiltered, clear-headed, vulnerable self.

                          "If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
                          ? Lao-Tzu

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                            #14
                            Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

                            Tipplerette:
                            Thanks! Wow you really hit the nail on the head. I really thought not to come on the MWO board precisely for the "embarassment" issue. Lots of things going through my head : "I'll mod now"; "Hey, its summer - what a dumb time to quit"; "screw this whole thing - I am what I am". Then I go back to "I have to do this". I am going to kill myself if I keep this up. Another Friday night tonight - going to leave work early so I will not be tempted. Thanks so much for the encouragement. Good luck to you as you move on to day 10!
                            AF today, that's all I have to do, I can and will do it.

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                              #15
                              Damn this is hard.... but cravings die after a few minutes, come back then die

                              The Toolbox thread is really good!
                              AF today, that's all I have to do, I can and will do it.

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