Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

[Dave_]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

What an inspirational thread. A big congratulations to you all for your courage and determination. I wish you all the very best in your respective journeys and I will continue to watch your amazing progress.

Keep going crew, you're doing great!

[Snapdragon]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Hi Enough - you have a deal!

We're going out for a meal tonight and I've already planned what I'm drinking so I don't have to think about it when we get there - a large glass of lime and soda! I've also offered to drive (shock to my partner - I never usually drive when there's an opportunity to drink!)

Good luck for another day and I'll post again tomorrow.

Congrats to you too Crazy Cat Lady - I can't give up with you all doing so well!!

Snap x

[lifechange]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

so i've been wandering this sight for the past month or so, sometimes with a glass of wine in my hand, wishing i had the courage to sign on. not just the courage, but the will and the strength to feel like i could make the decision to try to stop drinking and join you. i never knew what i would write if i signed on. today, after reading the messages on this thread, i'm amazed at how much i have in common with all of you. i want to thank you for being so honest with your experiences, feelings, hardships.
i am 40 years old with 2 beautiful girls, who for the past years have not been getting the best of their mom. i started drinking when i was 16, partying in highschool, and most of the time i drank until i passed out. i guess in my younger years i was more of a binge drinker. and in the past 10 years i've become more of an everyday mostly-functional-but-heavy drinker. lately i've scared myself by drinking quite often at work, missing work and other events due to being sick, and i've even driven the car a couple of times. i've also realized i haven't gone more than a couple of days with out drinking in years. i always had such hopes of being a great social drinker. it's so much fun and for me to really stop drinking completely means huge life changes. which i want, but find overwhelming.
last night i drank a medium sized bottle of rum that my boyfriend had brought back from our vacation very far away to give to a friend here.
i should say my mom is a recovering alcoholic. she was, from what i remember, a mostly non functioning alcoholic from the time i was 10 until i was 21. we've talked about her alcoholism a lot and about my worries about my drinking some. i guess i could never see us in the same boat. but i see myself heading in her direction and it scares me to death.
so i am at 7:30p.m. almost through day 1.
thank you all again.

[SpiritGirl]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Enough - the last time I had any considerable AF time started when I took my kids up to our family cottage with my parents. It was a challenge because almost all the adults were drinking that week - however I did not. It was the best week at the cottage I have ever had. I woke up early each morning - went to bed with a clear head - enjoyed boating, fishing and all the activities with the kids. I wish the same for you this summer!

I had a difficult night last night. I was a royal cranky bitch! I snapped at my daughter and just felt irritated. I don't know why. I didn't drink and for that I am grateful. I'm happy to be on Day 3. I look forward to Day 4 tomorrow. I hope I do not feel tonight like I did last night. Let's keep it up!!

[Enough!]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Welcome lifechange! I read Posts most for most of the day before I put on my big girl shoes and started this thread. Day 1-3 were tough. First advice... If you don't spill out every last drop of wine NOW you are screwed. PERIOD. Or give it away to a deliver person, neighbor, whatever. This is non negotiable. If I didn't throw it away I would not have made it to day 2.

Your scenerio is much like mine and all the others here, so we understand. Just sending your first post gives you strength.... Doesn't it? Keep posting. We are here for you! Working towards my day 5.
Enough!

[Enough!]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Spirit...
Thanks for your great story. I am totally nervious even hough it's a few weeks off. The entire family drinks. " How many cases should we order" is the question asked! Ouch! Usually all well and fine except now I am going to ( hopefully) be the one with the punch sans alcohol.

So I have to prepare myself. Because I am certainly not going to do Ll this just to go backwards and screw everything up again.

Yes, a week at the cottage without stumbling to bed at 2am... Missing the am jet ski, fishing , etc will have to keepe focused.
Enough!

[not tonight]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Gosh, the energy on this thread is amazing! So many people getting more AF days behind them, and so many new faces!! Great to see!!

Enough, I understand all too well the struggles of getting through a family get together sober. My family is riddled with alcoholics, whether they want to admit it or not. Each time you turn down a drink offer you strengthen your resolve. Enjoy all the fabulous outdoor sports!

I am at the end of day 3 today. The two things that are almost immediately improved in my life is my skin, and my productivity. I have gotten so much done at work and around the hose this evening, which is good, because between the drinking and the hangovers I had really fallen behind with so much . On wards and upwards!

Peace everyone!

[not tonight]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

lifechange;1146668 wrote: so i've been wandering this sight for the past month or so, sometimes with a glass of wine in my hand, wishing i had the courage to sign on. not just the courage, but the will and the strength to feel like i could make the decision to try to stop drinking and join you. i never knew what i would write if i signed on. today, after reading the messages on this thread, i'm amazed at how much i have in common with all of you. i want to thank you for being so honest with your experiences, feelings, hardships.
i am 40 years old with 2 beautiful girls, who for the past years have not been getting the best of their mom. i started drinking when i was 16, partying in highschool, and most of the time i drank until i passed out. i guess in my younger years i was more of a binge drinker. and in the past 10 years i've become more of an everyday mostly-functional-but-heavy drinker. lately i've scared myself by drinking quite often at work, missing work and other events due to being sick, and i've even driven the car a couple of times. i've also realized i haven't gone more than a couple of days with out drinking in years. i always had such hopes of being a great social drinker. it's so much fun and for me to really stop drinking completely means huge life changes. which i want, but find overwhelming.
last night i drank a medium sized bottle of rum that my boyfriend had brought back from our vacation very far away to give to a friend here.
i should say my mom is a recovering alcoholic. she was, from what i remember, a mostly non functioning alcoholic from the time i was 10 until i was 21. we've talked about her alcoholism a lot and about my worries about my drinking some. i guess i could never see us in the same boat. but i see myself heading in her direction and it scares me to death.
so i am at 7:30p.m. almost through day 1.
thank you all again.

Hi Lifechange,
It can be daunting, the idea of giving up drinking entirely. I can't really envision it, so I have decided to take each day at a time. Alcoholism is a progressive disease and I can see in my own drinking habit that mine is accelerating. I have been on this site for over a year and have found that when I am tuned into MWO daily I can stay sober. When I drift away I start drinking again. This site has so much to offer in the way of support and information. We can't fight this alone.

Great job on getting through day 1. Looking

[DJL]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

I joined this thread because titled for day 1ers but it looks like i'm a couple days late. i'm headed into the evening for day 1. hope to be back tommorrow.

[Enough!]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Welcome DJL... Even if you are just starting out you are not far behind us!

Listen all... I am having the hardest time making dinner tonight ( cornish hens ). I am a reay good cook and the idea if supstituting chick broth for white wine is killing me! I want a glass of wine right NOW!!!
I am having terible cravings tried my Amino acid trick and it laughted at me!
Having blueberry ice tea and NOT lovin it!
Simply things... Are difficult.
Enough

[Queenbug]

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Hey Enough, sorry I didn't get on earlier...long day at work and now I can't sleep....but Day 4 done and 5 on its way!!! Well done you too!!! Hope that you are sleeping soundly and having more of the nice dreams!

Stay strong .... I'll try and catch you tomorrow xx

[sdlovespackers]

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lifechange--your post spoke to me so much!! Much like you I started out drinking the same way in high school, also have a parent that is an alcoholic and have a beautiful son that wasn't getting the best of his mother. I recently read a book that just came out in June: "Best Kept Secret" by Amy Hatvany...AMAZING!!! (And I'm NOT a reader!!) Although her and I's drinking stories may have been different, the feelings she felt about her drinking and her feelings about her drinking around/in front of her child spoke to me and touched me so deeply, that I haven't touched a drop of alcohol since reading it. I didn't think anyone could ever possibly know or feel the shame I felt everyday I put that glass of wine to my lips...this book made me realize I wasn't alone, and that I needed to stop feeling sorry for myself and instead start feeling blessed for the things I do have and blessed for the many times I didn't wind up hurting myself, my son or someone else or end up in jail. I know what you mean about feeling like it would be overwhelming to be without alcohol...but the thought of being without my son overwhelms me even more! I've been at this "going sober thing" for almost two years now...something clicked this time...I honestly think it was reading this book!! Don't waste another two years like I did--you and your kids deserve better!:l
Everyone here is awesome....keep posting, keep reading....good luck!!
SD

[Enough!]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Queen.. Congrats on making it Through 4 on to day 5 tomorrow ! I know that is big for you. I wil be on 5 as well.

I read something in a thread yesterday and it stuck with me. I have though to myself a few times the last few days " how am II going to not drink... It will be so boring". This hit a nerve...

*That fun is what happens when you start showing up in your own life!

So forget how much "fun" getting hammered is and simply "show up" for the simple pleasure of remembering the last half hour of a movie or being able to drive your son somewhere at 8pm.
Enough!

[Donewithpoison]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

This is my very first post, and I'm a bit nervous about it- yet so very grateful to have found this online community. I have been reading posts on MWO since early June, and I decided on July 1 that I was going to stop drinking for the entire month. With the help of reading posts here, it is now July 14, and I am on Day 14 AF. Wine is my poison of choice, and I want it out of my life. I'm amazed at the kindness, compassion, and constant support I read on this site. Thank you for helping me. :new:

[lifechange]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

i agree with you, donewithpoison, this is an amazing site. i feel such energy, power and will to change in the people contributing. for me its inspiring and contagious.
yesterday i spent a lot of time reading another thread focussing on planning-- and decided my goal for day 2 is to come up with a plan of action for this first week. especially concerning what to do when cravings come or when i feel super stressed out. i realize emotional stress, with the kids, my man, his kid and ex wife, etc is my biggest trigger.

enough, how did you get through the craving last night? i saw your last posting was fairly late and you still seemed pretty ok. you are so supportive of everyone and i would like to be there for you, but as we are in very different time zones, i am usually asleep while you are cooking dinner.-- a most dagerous time-- i also love to cook and do so for a living, so i know how difficult it is to substitute wine. i won't be making risotto for a very long time.
this drink substituting is also difficult. i always feel like i have to be drinking something. i drank so much tea yesterday!!

spirit, i was wondering what you told your family during your holiday together? did you explain why you weren't drinking? and did they accept your decision fairly easily or did they pressure you?

i'm so grateful for today.