Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

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Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Not tonight... many congrats on Day 5!

Shue... Keep smelling those beautiful trees.

Snap... Especially read below... I understand how difficult it is with your fianc? believing you can change.

Yes, my husband gotta love him was kind enough to point out the Coppola Claret (our fav house red) was on sale for 3$ off a bottle... Too bad he couldn't buy any. Again really! How can you be so dense! Like the rest of your significant others... No clue that starting and not finishing a bottle is an option. Yeh... Why didn't I think of that ( using one of your statements ).

So, yesterday when he came outside and asked what I was doing " are you making friends with those people"... He said with sarcasm. I said do you want to know... Sit down... I tearfully read most o this thread... From day 1. Whoow that was really tough. Really really tough.

In the end he hugged me said he was there for me ... Was proud of me... Bla bla bla.
An hour later he still questioned how and if I planned on accomplishing my mission. Couldn't I just have a couple glasses of wine? Did he really need to be married to a alcoholic.

Still doesn't get it BUT after hearing the tread I honestly think he gets it a little more? I hope!

So if you have the strength to share the thread it may help him see how hard you are working and how much you want this to happen.

I reminded my husband some of the things ( really difficult things ) I have helped get him through over our long marriage.

He did help clean the kitchen last night

Enough!
xoxo

At that point I realize he

[lifechange]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

dear snapdragon,
i'm in the same situation-- with someone who doesn't have to drink but enjoys it with friends and had enjoyed it with me until i started tearing his head off. i think i pushed it far enough that he's ready to accept that yeah, his girlfriend probably is an alcoholic, and maybe that's ok. when you prove to your fiancee that you can stay away from the booze and he rediscovers the wonderful woman he wanted to marry, i think he'll be happy and supportive to have you AF! you'll surely have more productive and less abusive fights!
we've also made a deal to no alchohol in the house. if we go out he can enjoy a glass of wine and i'll have some delicious mango lassi.. that's the plan. i also liked not tonights idea of showing him the link-- if you feel comfortable with it-- to show him how adament you are about not drinking.

[Enough!]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Life... Day 3 is huge! You have the worst behind you. Yes, chillin a bit Fter work is a good thing. Maybe your guy will stand by you with the new " no drinking" rule.

All the best for your day 3!
Enough!

[shueaddict]

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Day 5 is over

Hi all, it ?s late here, past midnight but i just wanted to see jos you are all doing.

I Made it to the end of day5 . On the airplane the Lady sitting next to me ordered wine and when i ordered just water she smiled apologeticaly and said she had a long and difficult week. I smiled back and told her i am to see my parents. I was her only last week and without the apologies.

Well, my parents did not bat an eyelid when I declined any AL. My gran showed surprise but left it there .

[shueaddict]

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Enough, what you did was beyond brave and very very honest; I do not have your courage, yet.

Life and Snap, it is great that even if your partners do not fully understand you they are at least supportive. Banning AL from the house is a huge step.

I am afraid my husband would not want me to be completely AF either but I have not taken that decision yet. I am taking it one day at a time until i feeel better and get my life back of the healthy plan

Good night to you all, stay strong.

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Happy sober Friday
Soooo different.... Usually I am half way through my first bottle with at least one backup if now 2 ( it's Friday) waiting in line! I am truly surprised how mellow I feel right now with my mock cocktail of cran/ grapefruit / tonic and listening to music and the rain while my boys play quitely building connect sculptures in their room. Maybe the kids feel my peace and notice something is different because they rarely are ever quite...they usually run around like crazyheads!!!

Going to have a quite night in with a pizza and movie... having fun by taking part in my own life.

coincidentally ... Peter Gabriel's - "Don't Give Up" is playing
no kidding...
Enough!

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Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Kate Bush / Peter Gabriel
Don't Give Up
1986

Haven't heard this forever... I listened to it a few times

I was tought to fight tought to win not to fail
no one wants you when you loose
don't give up you have friends
don't give up I know you can make it good
it's so strange the way things turn
I saw the earth the trees burned down to the ground

don't give up we don't need much of anyhing
someone has a place where we belong
it's goin be alright
please don't give up

don't give up your not the only one
don't give up no reason to be ashamed
you have us
I believe there is a place were we belong

Ok... I am officially a mush ball!
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[ThisWayOut]

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Amazing Thread. So many common stories. Day 1 here (again). I don't have much to say - same story here except I am guy that doesn't really talk / write much. But this thread is one of the most inspiring I have read in a long time - everyone sharing and supporting each other. So cool. I'm in. TWO

[hadit]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

This is really an amazing thread,I just find the people here are so supportive and are struggling with the same issues that I am. I have been an AL for over 30 years and I have had enough!! I can usually achieve 3 or 4 days AF but then crash again. I cannot mod, I just cannot take one drink........ it is allways the same damn story ending in a 1 or 2 bottle binge,sometimes more! I am a wine drinker,live in an area surrounded by wineries and good food. I have lurked on MWO for quite a while and have read hundreds of posts. I know I need a plan, for me, its ODAT....... tonight (sat) i will be staying home with my wife and will watch some movies.Usually I would be out drinking at some resaurant with lots of other people. The worst time is 4.00 to 6.00 so I will hop on MWO.Thanks for listing and good luck to you all in your goals.:thanks:

[july232007]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Enough and friends,

Today is always a good day to start. I started here four years ago and I check back once in a long while to say hello. Because of the power of this community, I have been alcohol free since July 2007. Like many have said before me, if I can do it, so can you.

Good for you: to take the plunge.

July

[life...take2]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Good Luck Newbies and new posters!

I was 14 days sober --- stopped a 1-2 bottle a day wine addiction --- before I posted. I credit this forum for so much support during the early journey. Going from lurker to poster was a HUGE step in my recovery. Being able to admit I had and have a problem and being supported here helped me tremendously.

Tomorrow I celebrate 5 weeks AF. Let me tell you, nothing feels so good as sobriety. Getting off that destructive merry go round of poison, hangover, wasted days, more poison...my only regret was that I didn't find my way out (and MWO!) sooner.

Be strong and keep posting, reading, and reaching out when you feel vulnerable.

Life is so much better when you can remember it!

[shueaddict]

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Good morning, all.

I tossed and turned last night with one thought only in my head. That my husband does not want to be married to an AL either. Last year i passed out in my son's bed while reading him a story and when i came crawling into our at 3AM I said " honey, I think I need help with my drinking". It was huge for me but he dismissed me very quickly and said "surely not, you just had too much tonight, don't think about it." I went back listening to the hipnosys CD's and manged to curb my drinking again, for a while.

He is also one of those people who can have only 1 glass. infuriatingly, he can keep sipping a glass of red through the dinner, wash up and movie.

But i cannot really blame him for not understanding me since i drank so much behind his back and tried so hard to keep a straight face.

Power to you all, here comes the weekend.

[shueaddict]

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Day 6

Boozer, wellcome to the wine heads.

Man, if i lived in Oz, I'd find it hard too. Australian chardonnay has been my fave at times.

Come posting when the withcing hour comes. If no one answers, read our posts again.

Fingers crossed.

For me too, today i need to toast my niece with salted wine.

[hadit]

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shueaddict, thanks for your post. I am surrounded by wineries.Bad news for us al. I love the sav blancs but can never stop at a glass or 2. I just have to stop otherwise i think it will kill me.:thanks:

[hadit]

Conquoring day 1!!! Who's beating this with me?

Shueaddict, Its 5.30pm in OZ. I have almost managed to get through the craving time for me today and have stayed close to MWO. Tom morrow Day 2 I know is going to be tough!
I can so much relate to your posts. My wife doesn't see I have a huge problem with Al as I have very successfully hidden it for years. Thats the worst part of being an Alcoholic, the guilt makes life hell! I want to stop but know its ODAT for me as I have failed so many times in the past. My wife doesn't drink much, a few glasses of wine maybe at dinner on a Sat and Fri nights. Her parents were heavy drinkers, mine very little. I wonder sometimes whether this is the reason she doesn't seem to think I am an al Anyway, thanks for posting I think I am through day 1 OK and good luck to you. I to want to give up drinking for myself but also for my wife.She doesn't need to live with a drunk, she deserves better:thanks: