New strategy.. well, the old one revamped, refined and ready

[patrice]

New strategy.. well, the old one revamped, refined and ready

Hi everyone,

Thanks for all of your support... My first day of that fantastic plan got off to a bad start because I woke up feeling sick with a bad head cold and fever which meant I couldn't go to work or do any exercise...

Also, yes the fridge did looked packed with vegetables .. but it seemed there was'nt actually anything to eat..??!!.I couldn't face that new juicer which was still in the box, so I had a strong coffee which set off an immediate desire to smoke, even though I had the patch on and thats when I remembered that the pack I threw away last night still had 3 cigs left. Yes... I retrieved them and smoked them and then felt quite nauseated.

I did take the supplemements and I did eventually eat well, but while I was looking for a jar of olives, I found a can of Irish Guniness. Not sure why it was at the back of the cupboard, maybe I hid it one day.


Anway I drank that can of guinness. This was early, around lunch time. I felt like such a loser for doing that and then those same old feelings of 'Ah well, I've blown it today, I'll start tomorrow' kicked in. So Strongly
It was like a domino effect... but then somehow I said no keep trying now.

And so here I find myself sober, I havent had anything to drink since that Guinness. Its time to go to bed and although I can't say I had an AF day, I am really happy that I fought that idea of having more..
I think I need to learn about adaption techniques when plans go a bit wrong. I did end up drinking lots of water and ginger tea

I hope you've all had/having a great day
Take Care
Patrice

[techie]

New strategy.. well, the old one revamped, refined and ready

Rocky start but now you're off and running. Don't look back Patrice. Move forward taking those little steps and follow your plan. You deserve it and I know you'll succeed. John xxx

[Boh]

New strategy.. well, the old one revamped, refined and ready

Hey that's a hell of a feat! If I had one Guinness and only 3 smokes... Oh man I'd be so tempted to go buy a case and a pack after that first sip. Great self control! You can do this!

[Doggygirl]

New strategy.. well, the old one revamped, refined and ready

Patrice, good for you stopping at the Guinness and 3 smokes. Like Zen said, it must be hard to quit both but people here have done exactly that. I didn't quit them at the same time, but I did quit both so I know how tough both addictions really are. YOU CAN DO IT!!! Take a look at your plan and if it needs a tweak, do it and move forward.

dG

[windy]

New strategy.. well, the old one revamped, refined and ready

Patrice,

You have a good plan. Stick to it when you start to feel better. For now get well.

My plans often get thrown off path, due to what is happening on a given day, and sometimes it needs to be changed or reworked. Having a plan and renewing it is your way of staying on track and getting to the place you want to be. That's why we are all a work in progress.

I look at your episode with the Guinness and smokes as an experiment. It sounds like you were very mindful during it, and taking mental notes to look back on later when an urge presents itself again. Good Job.

Ask yourself why did I give in? What did I get out of It?

I give you a lot of credit for being so honest and reflective about your journey. I find honesty to be a key in the process.

Good luck and keep up the good fight. You are a winner.

[patrice]

New strategy.. well, the old one revamped, refined and ready

Well I'm afraid that the weekend didn't pan out as expected...
Was it the Rugby??
Or am I incredibly weak willed??
I didn't get at all hammered, just 3 beers one day and a small bottle of wine the other... hey but thats not the point is it...
Also I couldnt get on to this website all Sunday ( another very poor excuse..)
Anyway, happy to say.. I'm keeping up the fight, I will just perservere and perservere until I get out of the 'waiting place'

Take Care
Patrice

[FreeFly]

New strategy.. well, the old one revamped, refined and ready

Hi Patrice
I'm a newbie here and on day 2 AF (suffice to say bad night's sleep last night).
Just wanted to say how much I resonate with your guiness/ciggie incident. Can't remember the amount of times I've retrieved fags from the bin and then obviously had to get some wine to go with them and the "just one last time", "def stop tomorrow"thing.

The night I found MWO I'd been playing a nice little game in my head that day. Had been cooking my neighbour supper with about 100ml of cider in the recipe. Why I had to buy 3 bottles (I don't even drink cider) I'm not quite sure. Obviously that got sunk before she arrived. We went to her flat for the supper (I don't have a table for some reason) and got through a bottle and a half of wine. I thought I'd look so "unalcoholic" if I left before we finished the second - new friend and didn't want to look too much of a lush! I then drove (!) to the offie for another bottle of wine and more fags!!

I was so sick of myself that somehow I found my way to this site. I'm very glad I did. I've had a plan for a long time but what I didn't have was any support. To actually say out loud what a problem I've had and to confess some of my "sins" is a great relief. I feel stronger than ever now. I have lots of the tools in the cupboard (really have been planning this for a long time). Today I'm going to put the plan in writing, adding some great advice I've found on here, and hopefully continue to move forward.

Good luck to you Patrice - right there with you!

[Guitarista]

New strategy.. well, the old one revamped, refined and ready

How are you going there Patrice?

Also, i found sticking up inspiring quotes/poetry/prose etc around me helped keep my focus.

And don't forget yer https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html
I like the 'gratitude vs. deprivation thinking' spiel.

CBISAI, well done on 2 days AF. Keep it going.

G-bloke.

[patrice]

New strategy.. well, the old one revamped, refined and ready

Thanks all

I am on day 2 - gritting my teeth, using all the good ideas that everyone is putting forward.
Finding it difficult doing both the cigs and the AL... mmmm might have to revise that a bit
Do the cigs after the AL...

Can't = Yes its pretty grim getting fags from the bin, but I've done it many times and YES yo uare so right, always needs a bit of liquid to go with them.. wine always was the one..

Thanks Guitarista, I value your support. I so so want that freedom you have.

One good thing is that here in Malaysia, wine is very expensive , so I can't really drink it like I used to.

I have a meeting tonight so won't be drinking.. I'm not sure about smoking.. but no drinking

Keep strong everyone
Take Care
Patrice