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[Morgan19]

Hello,

I am new to this forum. I stumbled accross it when I was searching on the internet for "Binge Drinking" and I automatically thought that this forum could provide me with the support and positive thinking that I need right now. Drinking is a problem for me in my life right now and has been for roughly 14 years. I think I recently started to accept that it is a problem since I had my two childeren. Once I have a drink I can not stop myself from having too many drinks to the point where I am totally intoxicated.

I have tried a few different things to try and resolve it such as going to counselling and attending AA meetings. For some reason after time my mind tricks me into thinking I do not have a problem and I end up drinking again. I always get the same result.

I would not say that I drink regularily but when I do I go out with a bang so to speak. Sometimes I will drink to the point of blacking out. I always wake up the next day with enormous guilt and shame. Even if I was not too bad I still always feel awful. Lately I have noticed that I will feel depressed for two to three days afterword.

I have an awesome wife and two beautiful children that I love with all of my heart. I really want to be the best father and husband that I can be. I feel that my binge drinking is holding me back in life. Is there hope for me to change the cycle that I am on?

I look forward to hearing from you.

[JackieClaire]

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:welcome: Morgan19,
Not going to overwhelm you with advice just wanted to say my hellos.

Firstly have a read through the tool box thread. Masses of great information and advise in there. Just click on the link below.

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

Then there's this thread just the place to drop in and meet a few of you fellow Canadians, but you remember you can post anywhere you feel comfortable.

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f9...-co-52343.html

Keep reading and keep posting, glad you found us.

J x
:l

[Morgan19]

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Thank you very much for the adivce JackieClaire!

[stirly-girly]

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Morgan19;1191448 wrote: Hello,

I am new to this forum. I stumbled accross it when I was searching on the internet for "Binge Drinking" and I automatically thought that this forum could provide me with the support and positive thinking that I need right now. Drinking is a problem for me in my life right now and has been for roughly 14 years. I think I recently started to accept that it is a problem since I had my two childeren. Once I have a drink I can not stop myself from having too many drinks to the point where I am totally intoxicated.

I have tried a few different things to try and resolve it such as going to counselling and attending AA meetings. For some reason after time my mind tricks me into thinking I do not have a problem and I end up drinking again. I always get the same result.

I would not say that I drink regularily but when I do I go out with a bang so to speak. Sometimes I will drink to the point of blacking out. I always wake up the next day with enormous guilt and shame. Even if I was not too bad I still always feel awful. Lately I have noticed that I will feel depressed for two to three days afterword.

I have an awesome wife and two beautiful children that I love with all of my heart. I really want to be the best father and husband that I can be. I feel that my binge drinking is holding me back in life. Is there hope for me to change the cycle that I am on?

I look forward to hearing from you.

Hi Morgan and welcome to MWO from me, too.

I see that Jackie got to you before I could about the Canadian thread. There are quite a few of us Canucks here and several of the regular posters on the thread are from Ontario, myself included.

Jackie's also given you good advice about the Tool Box. I would add that you check out the Newbie's Nest thread as there are people there just starting out, as you are, but also older members - especially Lavande - who are there to give good advice and support to the newer members.

There is definitely hope for you to turn the cycle around. For a start, stick close by MWO and read the posts. There is a ton of advice and support for all, no matter what stage of our journey we are on. Then, after reading the various threads on the forums, drop into any of the daily or ongoing threads that you think you would feel comfortable with to help you get to know the other members a bit and for us to get to know you.

Again, :welcome: and best of luck on ridding yourself of the AL monster and to getting and keeping a healthier, happier life.

Stirly

[ATLThrash]

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Morgan-- I just wanted to welcome you and let you know I understand EXACTLY what you are feeling. Near the end of my drinking career (which was shorter than yours but sounds a lot like it) the main issue was not how much I drank but how I felt afterwards. It was like a switch had somehow flipped in my brain and I would feel incredible depression and anxiety even if I had one drink. Finally I realized I needed to just stop and I used the support here to help. It is well worth it! Good luck!

[betty boop]

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Morgan,

Just wanted to add my :welcome: to MWO ......

You have definitely found an amazing place, there is always someone here 24/7 who knows exactly how you feel,

Read lots, and post anywhere you want!!!

Love & Hugs, BB ... xxx

[Supercrew]

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Hi Morgan,
I will say your story sounds similar to mine except I went 12 years longer, and I progressed to a daily binge type of drinker. I wish I would have stopped and recognized my problem 13 years ago. So I will say, yes there is hope. But as a former binge drinker the only way I could ever control my drinking was to not drink. This didn't ever seem like an option for me...what would I do for fun? My life was based on getting drunk. All of my friends are drinkers, every event I attended was based on drinking.

Well I finally jumped in the pool, so to speak, and I found that my life is better sober. People still accept me, I still hang with my friends,, and I have fun, I just choose not to drink anymore.


If I can do it anyone can, but you have to take action and stand by your decision to be sober. I can honestly say that it has been the most rewarding decision I have ever made.

Good luck!

[Unwasted]

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Morgan, welcome. You have already gotten a lot of good advice here. Be sure to read all around the site so you don't miss anything. There are many ideas so try out the different threads.

A book that helped me and quite a few other people here is Kick the Drink by Jason Vale. There is definitely hope so hang in, read, read, read and post - others will always be here to help.

[tonstantweader]

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Hi Morgan,
Welcome from me, too. I was a binge drinker too. Once I opened a large bottle of wine, I knew it would be gone by the end of the night. In the last few months, even one large bottle of wine wasn't enough. It is so great to be rid of the guilt, remorse, and control that alcohol had over me. I spent nearly all my time figuring out when I could drink, how much I could drink and then regretting that I had drunk. Being sober takes dedication and commitment, but you have made a great first step in coming here. As everyone else has said, read all around the site, and get familiar. Once you feel comfortable, consider posting to other new people who come along. Often, when we reach out to help others, we also help ourselves stay sober.

Oh, and L-glutamine helped me with my cravings. You might try that to get you through the first few weeks.