What do you hope to gain?

[nollie]

What do you hope to gain?

To be healthy and to know that I'm not significantly increasing the risk of my breast cancer (or any other cancer for that matter) returning
To regain self-respect
To be a better person, less self-centred
To be at peace with myself
To sleep better
To learn something from this mess that I can use to help others in some way
To let my children feel proud of me
To never see my husband searching for hidden bottles again or the worry etched on his face
To lose weight
To feel clear-headed
To live for the moment and feel joy for life itself
To be a stronger person, able to deal with life's challenges without the need to 'take the edge of things'
To live a more spiritual life

[missyabby1]

What do you hope to gain?

Sobriety

To be true to myself. To my true self.

Missy xxx

[mightymite]

What do you hope to gain?

To feel clear headed again.
To have my DH sleep a full night in our bed without leaving because I am snoring.
To not embarrass my DH and children
To feel proud of myself
To feel healthy
To lose weight
To never wake up feeling like sh*t
To getting my memory back
To have clear eyes and a glowing face

[Stompy]

What do you hope to gain?

Great Post:Things I'm looking to get are:
- Feel better,
- Look better,
- Get Fitter,
- Have more money,
- Confidence,
- Time,
- Achieve more in work and college,
- Ambition

Even after a few weeks I think I am making progress on the above (apart from the money bit as I am still catching up on years of waste)

The above are all pretty aesthetic but some that really resonate with me are real long-term goals:
- being at peace with myself,
- piece of mind,
- self-respect,
- being a better person, friend,son, brother, uncle
- someone who can be relied upon and is respected

What I don't want :
- To lose sense of mischievness and fun (actually keeping on drinking is more likely to erode this)
- Becoming a self-righteous anti-drink preaching bore :-)
- Lose the desire to go out and embrace social ocassions.

[Prairie Fairy]

What do you hope to gain?

Waking up in the morning and not checking the phone log to see who I called - because I can't remember

[K9Lover]

What do you hope to gain?

Prairie Fairy;1198476 wrote: Waking up in the morning and not checking the phone log to see who I called - because I can't remember

I think this behavior is what disgusted me the most about myself. I would have full conversations with people and have no idea they had taken place. Waking up at 3am and scrambling for the phone to look through ?sent? texts would give me the biggest anxiety attack. Once my daughter said ?That song you made up last night was really funny mom?. And I would have to pretend I knew what she was talking about?but really I was thinking ?What song?? I also drove drunk more times than I?d like to admit to, but somehow embarrassing myself seemed worse (I know it?s not, but it seemed like it). What a horrible feeling to lose control like that. I?m so thankful I don?t have to stress about that anymore.

[Prairie Fairy]

What do you hope to gain?

Oh yeah - last nights Conversation with the BF was terrifying. Phone log said we had talked 2.5 hours night before. WTF?

The I got the ultimatum last night of if you want to be with me - you know what you have to do. And I had to play detective and rile him up to find out WTF. Terrified the crap out of me. It's a family sit he's known about but it seems the wine made me share more of the long time multi-generational history and now he is so pissed there are family members that I or my kids are around - he won't be.

But OMG - it could have been anything - he was so mad and I didn't know why. This can't go on.

Playing the hypnotics today 24/7 as I am home with flu. Hoping to get a jump start on reprogramming the booze brain.

[Peacefull]

What do you hope to gain?

I echo all the posts.

I hope to gain freedom, hope and peace.

I am feeling it starting to transpire and feel lighter already. I am enjoying every single day and grateful that the light bulb went on. It just feels so different this time, I am not stressing about the holidays, get togethers where alcohol will be flowing. My past failures were based on all these fears. I am free, not thinking about alcohol and do not in any way at all feel deprived. Plus my clothes are starting to feel comfortable again, woohoo.

Peace

[Turnagain]

What do you hope to gain?

This is a great thread....lotsa wonderful 'hopes'.

I'm giving a hearty AMEN to DoggyG's post. All these things are possible....Being AF is incredible.

[Prairie Fairy]

What do you hope to gain?

Bumping thread.

I reread this one - even though it's a new one - when I feel tempted to "crack" because •all• of these are things I hope to achieve. I lurked forever before I joined (a year) and even then it took time to stick my toe in the try for 30 day AF pool.

It's Day 5 - it's Sunday Sinday - where I would binge like crazy...so it was time to reread. And make sure any lurkers who might be hurting, wondering, and hesitant could see it.

Onward.

[Nelz]

What do you hope to gain?

mauritiusdodo;1197385 wrote: Another thread to motivate me!

I hope that in stopping drinking I will:

Be a better person
Lose weight
Save money
Get healthy
Regain my confidence and my lust for life

What are your hopes?
Im fairly convinced all of your goals are natural by products of living an AF life.....I wish you the best in your journey

Doggygirl;1197691 wrote:

I have lost weight. I'm up a bit right now, but still down 40 pounds from when I quit drinking.

DG

That is FANTASTIC and inspiring, well done

Prairie Fairy;1198476 wrote: Waking up in the morning and not checking the phone log to see who I called - because I can't remember

Guilty as charged, Ive done the exact same thing, only it was on message boards.


This is a great thread, LOVE IT

[Prairie Fairy]

What do you hope to gain?

Bump - over in the Nest the wise Lolab, Lav and Byrdie are attempting to get 3 of us who are in the grips of the monkey chatter to pull our heads our of our collective asses. I think it was Lolab who suggested finding our early desperate posts and reread them to remind us why we were breaking with the past.

So - here I am on the mobile - at the shop that carries my favorite Malbec. I need dinner - which I get here as well - but I think after reading this I'll order a pizza or make a frozen dinner. I walk in those doors tonight and I will not win. I will not defeat the alien.

So. I will not go in. I will not fight a battle I can only lose. Today I will be stronger than AL.

[BelleGirl]

What do you hope to gain?

You go girl! (well DON'T go into that shop). As one of the other one with "head up the ass" I had to make the laundry room off limits this afternoon. The heck with the laundry. I can fold it later. Almost to dinner time and then I am pretty safe from the beast. Let's get through this!

[Prairie Fairy]

What do you hope to gain?

With you BelleGirl

BelleGirl;1204900 wrote: You go girl! (well DON'T go into that shop). As one of the other one with "head up the ass" I had to make the laundry room off limits this afternoon. The heck with the laundry. I can fold it later. Almost to dinner time and then I am pretty safe from the beast. Let's get through this!

Dinner - herbal tea- and a BUTT load of supplements on tap ASAP!!!!

Time to here the pop of my head snapping lose of my nether regions. Or at least - getting me to white knuckle stage.

Keep saying to myself - "I ?AM? stronger than AL"

We can do this.

[FreeFly]

What do you hope to gain?

Not one of the 3 - but definitely another newbie who has had her "head up her ass" for sometime, well frickin ages actually. Tucked in bed now - made another day. You can do it Prarie, you too Belle. See you in the nest tomorrow racking up another