An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Great post Molly.

Recently, i could see myself returning to old drinking levels very soon. I actually took time off work to drink. A huge alarm bell right there. I conveniently ignored that little signpost and carried on, but i pulled myself up after sitting back and looking at the facts.

Now i stand strong and tall again. Proud of who i am, and proud to be an alcohol free man.

Keep up the good work.

[ronnie]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Good for you Mr G....your doing great honey xxxxx

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

G'day Ronnie,

Thank's. How are you going?

[ronnie]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hi Mr G,
Im ok now, but a few hours ago I felt like pulling my hair out and I was getting really angry with myself because all I could think about was having a drink. But thank god I got over it but I must admit that was a bit tough going for a while.
Going to get my PJ's on soon and snuggle up with my dog on the sofa
How are things with you xxx

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

All good here thanks Ronnie. Just back from a very enjoyable and positive music recording session with a band i sometimes play in. For me, all this craving business is just in my mind. I don't have to be my thoughts, or follow them or obey them. I have to learn to let them go or change them, replace those thoughts with others. That's why distractions can work well. Get's us out of our thoughts for a bit.
Keeping my boofhead positive and with direction and a life plan helps me.

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

ronnie;1207329 wrote: Hi Mr G,
Im ok now, but a few hours ago I felt like pulling my hair out and I was getting really angry with myself because all I could think about was having a drink. But thank god I got over it but I must admit that was a bit tough going for a while.
Going to get my PJ's on soon and snuggle up with my dog on the sofa
How are things with you xxx

Can you learn from this? If you know why you were craving booze, (if there was a particular reason you can put your finger on) you might be able to see it coming next time, and not find it so tough. Great going on not drinking anyway.

[ronnie]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

I got stressed out and angry with a teeball umpire.....he was a total prick......lol I think in future I will just laugh in their face and walk away......lol

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

ronnie;1207342 wrote: I got stressed out and angry with a teeball umpire.....he was a total prick......lol I think in future I will just laugh in their face and walk away......lol

Ah, i see. Maybe that umpire was a bit cranky with their match fee.

AA have a spot on saying. H.A.L.T. Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. These are potentially dangerous situations for us. I've noticed it to be true for me.

Keep up the good work, and don't get cranky on the cruise ship.......

[Juja]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

ronnie,

Funny how we consider letting the stupidest things give us permission to drink. Glad you made it, and sorry it was so tough.

Going to a surprise b'day party this afternoon. Champagne will flow, and I do love the stuff. Do I love me more? Hope so. I'm a little concerned, but plan on staying strong--no pushers there, which is good. Will have to keep 12-12 in my head.

Have a good one!

[ronnie]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Good luck juja.....stay strong....and YES you do love you more because you are a winner and you will feel so proud of yourself in the morning when you wake up smilling instead of frowning.
remember 12-12
xxx

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Juja;1207345 wrote: ronnie,

Funny how we consider letting the stupidest things give us permission to drink. Glad you made it, and sorry it was so tough.

Going to a surprise b'day party this afternoon. Champagne will flow, and I do love the stuff. Do I love me more? Hope so. I'm a little concerned, but plan on staying strong--no pushers there, which is good. Will have to keep 12-12 in my head.

Have a good one!

Hi Juja,

Why not just go along and enjoy the party and the people. You don't need to drink. Then again if you are concerned that you might drink, then don't go. Our sobriety must take priority above everything else. We must be ruthless with it, and protect it. Real friends and family will understand in the end. Either way, i trust you have an exit plan in case you feel at risk. I used to always (and still do), make sure i drove myself to and from, or had my own transport arrangements. I'm not trying to be a party pooper, but i suppose you know yourself best.

Have a good one!

[WineSucks]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Day 3

I've been reading this thread for the past couple of days and I find it so very helpful!

Juja - I'm so proud of your progress......you can do it this afternoon but I absolutely agree with everything G said.....I've actually had to stay away from certain situations and people, for that matter, just to be AF. Good luck my friend!

It seems like everytime I get some AF time under my belt, I go on vacation, drink and the whole vicious cycle starts all over again. I was doing okay, then we went on vacation in the beginning of September, after a particularly stressful couple of months. I decided to drink. Nothing too horrible; however, it started the cycle all over again and here I am struggling to get out.

I started counseling last Monday because I really want to do the work this time and get to the bottom of things. Also, I've noticed that along with HALT......Bored is a major factor for me. I also noticed that for some reason, I tend to want to drink wine when I'm cooking.....not sure what that's about but my family has to eat, so I need to figure out how to work around that issue.

It's a beautiful day here, so I'm going to go enjoy! Hope everyone has a great day and I'll check back in later (I'll need the support, especially if I'm cooking dinner tonight!).

[merry]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

The problem I have I don't seem to be able to relax when others are drinking and I'm not

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

merry;1207451 wrote: The problem I have I don't seem to be able to relax when others are drinking and I'm not

Hi folk's,

Nice to see you Wine suck's. Keep away from that cooking sherry. The thought associations that Molly referred to are true for me, and true for most of us from what folks say and experience around here. We can and do break them with different healthier routines.

Merry, i was exactly the same in the first day's, weeks, month's of alcohol free living. Be patient and keep working on you and your sobriety. I had to completely, and i mean COMPLETELY AVOID any sort of social event where i knew there would be booze, until i had a couple of months AF under my belt, and i felt strong enough, and committed enough in my sobriety to put myself in social situations where the booze was flowing (This time frame may or may not be true for you).

This can be difficult when we have various commitments we are expected to attend, like work, or family occassions, but for me, i just had to be honest with myself, and put ME and my health/sobriety first. In my experience, real friends, and family who love you might not at first understand this, but they will accept it. For work related engagements, i would just have a couple of good excuses already prepared for not attending.

If i really feel i have to attend a social event, i will always have an exit plan ready, such as my own transport, and some early goodnight lines pre-prepared so i can arrive late, and leave early if i get too anxious.

Just keep going. You don't want to be back at day 1 again. That is too much work. Stick it out, make sure you have a realistic, strong, simple daily sobriety plan, and follow it. If we can do this, so can you friend. Be brave, remember your reasons for wanting to ditch the booze, and go for it.

Day 15 here. Halfway to 30 day's. Yeah!

G-bloke.

[Doggygirl]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hi G-man! Sounds like you are rockin' right along.

merry, like G-man said, I too was best off to avoid being around a lot of drinking as much as possible in the beginning. I don't apologize for that. I have an illness and there are certain things I do to stay healthy, such as stay away from booze. That's no different than someone with a heart condition or a diabetic doing /not doing certain things to take care of their condition.

I am not a "lesser person." And if I don't want to sit around bored silly while others get drunk and act stupid, well, I don't.

You are a beautiful woman in recovery. Don't hang your head.

DG