An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

[Juja]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Wine! Hi, Sweetie. I'm with you on the cooking/drinking thing. What I try to do now is avoid cooking in the evening. I prepare as much of a full meal in the morning as I can, and finish up before dinner, i.e., sauteed spinach, baked potato, whatever. I'm not stuck in the kitchen for an hour or so, hurrying, annoyed, and drinking. I don't know if this is possible for you, but you could consider the handy-dandy crockpot.

Everyone, I made it through the party tonight without drinking. Once I was there, I wasn't bothered in the least. Few of my friends drink that much anymore, so there's no pressure. I have one friend who has multiple addictions, and I worry about her, but I can't help her. She will come to a bad end, I know.

Love you guys:l

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Juja;1207554 wrote:
Everyone, I made it through the party tonight without drinking. Once I was there, I wasn't bothered in the least. Few of my friends drink that much anymore, so there's no pressure. I have one friend who has multiple addictions, and I worry about her, but I can't help her. She will come to a bad end, I know.

Great stuff Juja! I reckon these accomplishments make us stronger, and set a precedent for our next similar occassion. I hope your friend can work it out soon.

Great day here. Very chilled, and written a beaut little tune. Of course, tomorrow i'll probably think it's rubbish.

Have a good one all.

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hiya Molly,

Yes, this addiction is very sneaky and can never be underestimated. I don't really get grumpy, unless i'm first week AF and in a bar playing music talking to drunks. I'm okay with that these days. I'm sure you'll be back in your groove real soon. Might have something to do with your body chemistry/internal rythyms or something i know absolutely nothing about like that? Hope you cheer up soon!

[QuitinTime]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

G-man, I remember years ago I'd quit while I was playing regularly. THought it would be a problem but it wasn't. I was able to concentrate better and experience the music - not the buzz - better. I also played a lot better too. Starting Day one today.

[WineSucks]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Happy Sunday Everyone!

Juja - Good going girl! i'm so happy for you making it through the party last night....that is HUGE!!!

G-Man - Very funny :H about the cooking sherry! I have bought wine to cook with before and ended up drinking it and cooking with it!!!!

Molly - I know what you mean about getting cranky...I think it's a normal part of the process. I remember how much better I expected to feel, only to have bouts of depression and being cranky and I couldn't figure out why. Like you, I've learned to accept it for what it is.....at least it won't be AL related so I won't have guilt to go along with it.

I decided to ride my friend Juja's coattails and make my goal 12-12 as well. It gives us a way to support each other and I need a goal. I have to admit, I am feeling afraid today. I'm afraid of failing, not being able to get through the urge, afraid that I'll make progress, only to think I can handle AL, decide to try and be in the same old situation again or worse. Is this normal and if so, how did you guys work through it?

I also feel blessed today......blessed to have found this sight and have all the wonderful support!

[peacenik]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

hello...nice to see some folks i recognize here! i have started over as well...today is the 7th day (i think...or is it 6th?) after a couple of months of drinking too much. i have moved across country, started a new business, and am ready to be sober and present again.

peace

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

QuitinTime;1207837 wrote: G-man, I remember years ago I'd quit while I was playing regularly. THought it would be a problem but it wasn't. I was able to concentrate better and experience the music - not the buzz - better. I also played a lot better too. Starting Day one today.
G'day QT.

Great to see another musician on the site, albeit, not in preferred circumstances. I can play well when i've had a couple, not when i've had many, but i play a lot better and more joyously when straight. Also, the 'channel's' to the universe are open wider than they ever might have been when i was drinking and thought they were. Well done on day 1. Keep it going friend, and keep us posted.

peacenik;1207982 wrote: hello...nice to see some folks i recognize here! i have started over as well...today is the 7th day (i think...or is it 6th?) after a couple of months of drinking too much. i have moved across country, started a new business, and am ready to be sober and present again.

peace

Nice to see you again Peacenik. Congratulations on day 6 or 7! :goodjob:

Best wishes with your new business.

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

WineSucks;1207957 wrote:


I decided to ride my friend Juja's coattails and make my goal 12-12 as well. It gives us a way to support each other and I need a goal. I have to admit, I am feeling afraid today. I'm afraid of failing, not being able to get through the urge, afraid that I'll make progress, only to think I can handle AL, decide to try and be in the same old situation again or worse. Is this normal and if so, how did you guys work through it?


Hi WS,

12-12 sounds a great goal. Feel the fear and plough through anyway. Abstaining can't hurt you, it will only bring good things. I had to find out for myself what my relationship with booze is. I tried moderating many times, recently, and over the years, and for me, i now have irrefutable, undeniable, and unquestionable evidence that it doesn't work for me. And you know what? That's totally okay. I've drank enough for 100 lifetimes, and i know that alcohol and the pleasure and relaxing qualities associated with it, are for a drinker like me, a lie, a myth, and i don't need it at all. I love the sober life. Far more interesting and much more fun. Alcohol and pleasure and 'good times' is a lie (for me), and a big myth. I get a buzz after a couple of glasses, but when others stop there, i know i will always keep going. This leads me to a very foggy next day or 2, and overall, a waste of my time. This is just my choice. I run these days to relax and get a buzz.

mollyka;1207989 wrote: IMHO moderation is an absolute myth for an alcoholic
Molly

Hi Molly,

In my experience, i believe this to be true.

[available]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Morning all

Well a fail from me. sigh. Was not too bad from my previous drinking non stop 7 days a week. Had 4 wines on friday night and woke with the worst hangover, OMG i dont miss that one and it was after 4 glasses not 2 bottles so my body is telling me something. had 2 wines with soda on saturday with my daughter and that was it. so back to the drawing board. I feel ok with it but i do agree with you Molly there is no such thing as moderation. In the back of my mind i say yes i can moderate but ..............

so back to day one and i feel good, i did worry about you guys more than anything lol. you all certainly have a way of getting in i must say, but for the better. I did 11 days and proud of that feat as had not done that for a long long long time. I can happily say that i did not need a drink yesterday and i dont need a drink today.

Now off to the naughty corner i go for 47minutes

[Guitarista]

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available;1208044 wrote: Morning all

Well a fail from me. sigh. Was not too bad from my previous drinking non stop 7 days a week. Had 4 wines on friday night and woke with the worst hangover, OMG i dont miss that one and it was after 4 glasses not 2 bottles so my body is telling me something. had 2 wines with soda on saturday with my daughter and that was it. so back to the drawing board. I feel ok with it but i do agree with you Molly there is no such thing as moderation. In the back of my mind i say yes i can moderate but ..............

so back to day one and i feel good, i did worry about you guys more than anything lol. you all certainly have a way of getting in i must say, but for the better. I did 11 days and proud of that feat as had not done that for a long long long time. I can happily say that i did not need a drink yesterday and i dont need a drink today.

Now off to the naughty corner i go for 47minutes

Right, when you've finished in the naughty corner AV, what does your AF plan look like?
Your 11 days AF is a huge accomplishment, and a great achievement. Well done for getting back in the saddle. For me, it's important i carry out a 'royal commission/inquiry' on my drinking experience, and learn from it.

Good to see you back in the arena.

[available]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

If i was only younger MR G I would not be sitting here for so long sigh. My AF plan is no drinking AL and keep the exercises going and eat healthy and see where it goes. I was disappointed in myself but no point in beating myself up. I must say that it was not enjoyable at all and i did not want to keep on going and going until i was blind drunk. I feel that i have accomplished something in those 11 days that has made me feel immensely good and confident in my ability to kick the AL. I do have that devil that says "oh yes u can moderate" and we are having a great debate on that one as moderation will take me back to before and i know that.

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

available;1208057 wrote: If i was only younger MR G I would not be sitting here for so long sigh. My AF plan is no drinking AL and keep the exercises going and eat healthy and see where it goes. I was disappointed in myself but no point in beating myself up. I must say that it was not enjoyable at all and i did not want to keep on going and going until i was blind drunk. I feel that i have accomplished something in those 11 days that has made me feel immensely good and confident in my ability to kick the AL. I do have that devil that says "oh yes u can moderate" and we are having a great debate on that one as moderation will take me back to before and i know that.

Bravo.

Yes, the moderation debate. Well, for me, i could only learn through experience and doing.
What did i find? Moderation doesn't work for me, so the battle and mental chatter is over. Phew. It is a dissapointing fact at first, until i realize that i actually don't enjoy the effects of booze anymore, and i much prefer to choose living with all my senses alive and free. I hate chains, and anything messing with my freedom. And grog messes with my freedom. You must learn whether or not you can, or wish to moderate for yourself of course. We don't need alcohol to enhance a social or any other experience. It actually numbs and deadens our experience. It is an anaesthetic. I don't wish to be numb anymore when i'm talking to people, or walking in the countryside.

[WineSucks]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Guitarista;1208043 wrote: Hi WS,

12-12 sounds a great goal. Feel the fear and plough through anyway. Abstaining can't hurt you, it will only bring good things. I had to find out for myself what my relationship with booze is. I tried moderating many times, recently, and over the years, and for me, i now have irrefutable, undeniable, and unquestionable evidence that it doesn't work for me. And you know what? That's totally okay. I've drank enough for 100 lifetimes, and i know that alcohol and the pleasure and relaxing qualities associated with it, are for a drinker like me, a lie, a myth, and i don't need it at all. I love the sober life. Far more interesting and much more fun. Alcohol and pleasure and 'good times' is a lie (for me), and a big myth. I get a buzz after a couple of glasses, but when others stop there, i know i will always keep going. This leads me to a very foggy next day or 2, and overall, a waste of my time. This is just my choice. I run these days to relax and get a buzz.

Thank you for reminding me what the mission is........You are so right about allowing myselft to feel the pain and plough through it!. That's exactly what I am trying to do and why I started counseling last week. I don't care how much it hurts or how painful it is, I want to be free from this once and for all!

[Struggles 106]

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Hey G

I'm with you on the moderation bit. It might take
10 "experiments" with it to get the message that it's
simply not possible in the long run.
Now me-not too bright-took me 100s of "experiments"
that lead to horrible consequences before I
gave up that misguided nonsense. I don't want a glass
of wine; I want at least a bottle, or one beer-I want
at least 6. With maybe a shot of tequila thrown in for
good measure and worse outcome.
Oddly this time I look at it this way-I CAN'T
drink any more. Just can't-unless I want to pay the
astounding price for it, and i don't.
Way too much to lose. I was trying to pretend
that all the bad shit happening to me wasn't
all that bad-but I finally said "Hey Mr Bottom
down there-I don't think I want to make your acquaintance.
This particular hell is as far as I want to go"

[Audrey14]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hello Guitarista!!

I don' t know if i' m older drunk but i entered this site 1 year 10 months ago..
I wish i could find MWO earlier and if i could admit earlier that i'm AL addicted..But it' s a past..
4 years ago i was still able to CONTROL..i just look back..yes, i was an problematic drinker...
I can see how fast AL took power of me, made me sick..now i can say honestly that moderation isn' t my way..i can moderate everything except AL
2 sleepless nights after binge drinking kills me..last night i think i drunk 5 l of water and went to the toilet 50 times,sorry
Now on my Day 1 and wish to achieve more.
Wishing successful day for all of us!!!!

A