An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Sounds like a good plan Lass. A plan you can handle.

[merry]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

this old drunk is here to start again
day 2

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

merry;1436445 wrote: this old drunk is here to start again
day 2

Day 2 is fantastic Merry. Get day 3 out of the way and you should be feeling better, then don't look back friend. :goodjob:

Keep it going. You know the toolbox thread is always an inspiring read. https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

[mby82266]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Good morning everyone, Lass, I read your post about "no absolutes" I whole heartedly agree. After 1 week with a therapist twice a week, I came to the conclusion that I was setting unachievable goals. I would always tell myself on Monday morning I was never going to drink again. and failed every time. failure produced depression and more drinking. I needed a goal I could actually work with. I could consistently get to Friday then I would find an excuse to drink and I would drink all weekend long. . sometimes it would be weeks or months before I had the courage to try again. week 1 I gave myself the goal to get through Friday without drinking and then I would let myself drink on Sat. and Sun then on to week 2. I have managed to make it 3 weeks now only drinking on Sat and Sunday. I have already made a plan. after 6 weeks I will add Sunday to my no drinking days. Leaving me only Sat. I do know that my real goal is to be AF but that is not something I can do right now so I will do this in baby steps. I hope every one has a great day

[lostlady]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

I'm with you

Did great last year with 4 months AF. Then this old lady thought she could have one drink while traveling. Guess you know the rest. An older body reacts differently to AL. Starting to get the complaints of a chronic alcoholic. Can't hide them. It truly is killing me. Day two today.

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

lostlady;1443822 wrote: Did great last year with 4 months AF. Then this old lady thought she could have one drink while traveling. Guess you know the rest. An older body reacts differently to AL. Starting to get the complaints of a chronic alcoholic. Can't hide them. It truly is killing me. Day two today.

Hi LL,

There is a lot of evidence around to suggest our alcoholism/problem drinking/disease/addiction/affliction, whatever we call it does get progressively worse the longer we keep drinking. It sure doesn't get any 'better' or more controllable does it? And we often hit it harder if we have a break and go back to it. Great stuff on day 2. Keep it going friend, and take back your life.

Hi MB. A plan you can handle makes sense. Best wishes on your journey. We are all different, and have to find out what approach works best for us.

Have a safe, sober, and magical week y'all.

L8tr, Yo!

[Shezzie]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hello to you all. I have achieved 10 weeks AF. It has meant cutting off a few friends temporarily, and giving away expensive gifts of champagne received as Christmas gifts. The giving away was really therapeutic to be honest. Can't talk to my friends just yet as am recalibrating my life... Now that I have one! Happy, healthy 2013 to you all. I think I come under the banner of 'stalker', don't write much here, but I read most days. I know one very important thing, MODERATION does not exist. If you have to think about moderation, well, that in itself is telling you something. Moderation is like breathing, if you don't have a drinking problem, you don't have to think about it. Abstinence is much easier in my experience. I'm only having to abstain once, moderation... damn, over and over. No hangover, depression, dehydration, fatigue, injury etc. Extra money, happy, healthy, sleeping, exercise. I'm just saying day at a time and the rest takes care of itself. Thank you ALL, I have only managed this by having stumbled upon MWO forum.

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Shezzie;1446642 wrote: Hello to you all. I have achieved 10 weeks AF. It has meant cutting off a few friends temporarily, and giving away expensive gifts of champagne received as Christmas gifts. The giving away was really therapeutic to be honest. Can't talk to my friends just yet as am recalibrating my life... Now that I have one! Happy, healthy 2013 to you all. I think I come under the banner of 'stalker', don't write much here, but I read most days. I know one very important thing, MODERATION does not exist. If you have to think about moderation, well, that in itself is telling you something. Moderation is like breathing, if you don't have a drinking problem, you don't have to think about it. Abstinence is much easier in my experience. I'm only having to abstain once, moderation... damn, over and over. No hangover, depression, dehydration, fatigue, injury etc. Extra money, happy, healthy, sleeping, exercise. I'm just saying day at a time and the rest takes care of itself. Thank you ALL, I have only managed this by having stumbled upon MWO forum.

Congratulations Shezzie.

Right on! :goodjob:

[Cinders]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Shezzie,

:goodjob: It sounds like you are on your way to a very good 2013.

Cindi

[paulywogg]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

wow shezzie you are doing great! i love your positivitey keep it up

[Twitch]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

i really need to do this now,trouble is by 7 pm all my motivation is gone and i give up, could really do with some words of hope here,love and hugs twitch x

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Twitch;1447102 wrote: i really need to do this now,trouble is by 7 pm all my motivation is gone and i give up, could really do with some words of hope here,love and hugs twitch x

Hiya Twitch,

Good to see you again.

For me, motivation only lasts for so long. I need to make a COMMITTMENT to myself. I have made a quiet committment to myself to not drink. Drinking is now a non negotiable activity. Having said that, there's lot's of motivation to be had for getting and staying sober. The freedom, the self respect, the redness and bloating disappear, clarity and pride return in spades. Ya also start lookin hot!

Just don't take anymore shit from yourself, and knuckle down. Do whatever you have to do to keep a positive happy mindset. Look at it as an adventure. An adventure in self care, self honour.

C'mon Twitch. Pull yer finger out and make a committment to yourself.

You know you can do it, and you will put a real, genuine smile back on yer dial. Enough time wasted on the merry go round of madness that's going nowhere.

G bloke.

[Twitch]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Thank you, you are so right.x

[mama bear]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

ditto what Mr G said Twitchy.....
plus.....it gets old feeling like crap all the time

[pixie]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Twitch,

While most of the struggle is mental -- making that commitment as Mr. G said -- we also need to use whatever tools we can gather. For example, are you eating a good meal early in the evening? Where are you normally at around 7pm? If at home, can you get rid of the booze in the house? Make some plans for the evening that will keep you distracted, it can be as simple as cleaning out a closet. Do whatever it takes. Good luck.