An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

[hadit]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hello SL, So sorry you are having such a rough time of it! Life can certainly deal us some shit at times. Day 1 today again, so lets just go forward and upwards. Sending strength to you and a big :l I am off to work,keeps me sane ha ha

[patrice]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hi SL,
Thinking of you.. start again and you will feel more positive in a couple of days
x Patrice

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hi y'all,

Lass, sorry things are tough there at the moment. No, drinking does not help. It makes everything appear much worse than things actually are though, in my experience. Booze gives everything a negative slant, and magnifies our anxiety and worry a million percent as we know.

What i know for sure is that when we stop drinking, we take back our power. This by default gives us strength, some clarity eventually, and a return of our self esteem. For me, no matter what is happening in my life, whether that be losing my house, relationships, job, if i have my sobriety/my self, then i know that all is not lost and i can re group and re build again. This is easier said than done, but i have seen it enough here and in life, to know it is possible.

Wishing everyone a safe, sober, and magical week.

[kuya]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hi SL, sorry for your troubles. Can identify totally as facing the same due to the recession here in NZ. So demoralizing and scary. 55 year old and may lose home and business. And like you I worry about the effects on my daughter,13 y.o., such a difficult age.

As you say, the wine didn't help but being on here will!

KY. :l

[FreeFly]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hi SL. I?m sorry to hear things are so difficult at the moment. I empathise with extricating yourself financially from an ex. Not married, but went through that a couple of years ago, well things finally got sorted then. It did take much longer than I could ever have imagined but looking back, I can see why it needed to take so long, and that ultimately we did end up with the best possible outcome for us both. No you?re not a bad person and I hope things resolve themselves soon so you can move forward. I understand the urgency but try and take it ODAT as things take their course. I take my hat off to you for the inroads you?ve been making and all your sober time. Keep at it Lassie! :l

KY - sorry to hear you're experiencing similar problems. I hope things pick up so you don't lose your home and business

[fluff]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hi SL-I really feel for you and what you're going through-things do have a way of working themselves out -I'm not in your shoes so no sage advice here.
Hi to all-I'm off to work.
Fluff

[Prairie Fairy]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

:l Hey SL -

Had something startling similar happen with my ex...although I wasn't looking at homelessness - I certainly had to fight tooth and nail to save things for myself and ultimately the kids.

But the wine didn't make any of it better. Didn't make me stronger. Only made the anger harder to bear. Made the tears flow harder when they came. Made people turn away when I needed a shoulder the most.

Facing this stuff is easier sober. And while I've won the biggest piece - I'm in a battle for some really critical remaining pieces. And I need to be strong for some hard work with my kids. I need to have a clear head and a set spine for this. I feel strong and ready.

Day 21. I am on this path. I am not turning back. If you want to walk it to - there's room. :h

[K9Lover]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hi All!

G-Man, sorry your spinach/brocolli lady wasn't there...darn. Well, that just gives us a whole week to come up with new ideas, doesn't it? I'll start coming up with a new plan of attack for you (I know you can't wait. HA)

SL - :l I'm so sorry for what you're going through...seems never-ending, doesn't it? But guess what, it will end eventually, it HAS to. I know the wine won this time, but YOU can win next time. As you said, the wine didn't even help! Stay strong, you can do this!

I am on DAY 15 of no smokes! I had two serious cravings over the weekend, but I rode the hell out of them and got past it. There's no way I wanted to start over, and the thought of actually inhaling the smoke made my lungs burn. My craving was not so much for a cigarette as it was for some way to relax....so I need to find a replacement. Maybe go outside and blow bubbles or something. LOL

Come on peeps, let's fill our calendars with stickers, or dots or whatever marks a sober day...we are rapidly approaching 2013....lets go in with some serious sober time ok?!

K9

[scottish lass]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Good Morning all - thank you so much for the messages. I am feeling brighter today and will overcome whatever gets thrown at me! I do have to say, the more sober time I have, the more I appreciate it and the more determined I am that I will give up the otehr life. This weekend stank - I felt horrible and got nothing good for my pain AND it was my daughters birthday - how could I do this??? I have again pruged the house, had a minimal amount to drink before having a serious talk with myself yesterday, slept so much better and not nearly as depressed this morning!
I will get there, I HAVE to both for myself and for my girls! Took the dog for a walk this morning, at work now and sneaking a quick check in.
Your messages do me a power of good, thank you all so much!
Kuya - I am 50 and have a 14 and 11year old - there is no way at all I imagined that i would be in this place now - it definatley was not in the plans!
Take care all of you, and have a great Monday.......and again, :thanks:

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Prairie Fairy;1376270 wrote: :l



But the wine didn't make any of it better. Didn't make me stronger. Only made the anger harder to bear. Made the tears flow harder when they came. Made people turn away when I needed a shoulder the most.

Facing this stuff is easier sober. And while I've won the biggest piece - I'm in a battle for some really critical remaining pieces. And I need to be strong for some hard work with my kids. I need to have a clear head and a set spine for this. I feel strong and ready.

Day 21. I am on this path. I am not turning back. If you want to walk it to - there's room. :h
Go for it Prairie!

K9Lover;1376326 wrote:

G-Man, sorry your spinach/brocolli lady wasn't there...darn. Well, that just gives us a whole week to come up with new ideas, doesn't it? I'll start coming up with a new plan of attack for you (I know you can't wait. HA)

Looking forward to it. :H But if it involves more waxing, i'm out! :nutso:

Hiya Lassie,

Good to see you sticking around here. We don't want you to disappear into the abyss. For me, in such situations, all i can do is do my best, and take things one step at a time. Take care of yourself friend.

Off to work here for me. Only 3 days on, then friday off. Cool! Lucky i like my job.

Have a good one y'all, and think positive. There is unclaimed treasure out there just waiting for you!

How are you LillyE?

[K9Lover]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Lassie -
How are you doing? I got the impression from another thread that witching hour may be hitting you pretty hard, or getting ready to. What can you do tonight to change your routine? Hot bath, read a book, clean a closet....anything? I KNOW you want this and I want it for you. Stay strong my friend.
K9

[scottish lass]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Thanks K9. Each time i feel it coming, I get on here and it is really working - I have also told the girls I will walk the dog twice a day - and it will be witching hour for evening walk! I am trying to get closer to real witching hour, and shoring up the sandbags in anticipation! I am going to do this this time so help me God!:thanks:

[K9Lover]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

scottish lass;1376457 wrote: I am going to do this this time so help me God!:thanks:

Yes you are! I have complete faith in you! Maybe you ought to rent movies (even though it's not winter time yet)...I know you and the girls used to enjoy doing that, like me and mine did...do it NOW before they turn 15 and drive you up the wall! LOL

We do a lot of manicure/pedicures too...we use decals, stickers and this stamp thing to make all kinds of fancy designs....the good thing about that is once your nails are wet you can't crack a beer and mess up all that hard work!

Stay strong and enjoy your walk tonight!

[scottish lass]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Well, now I put that in print, it will be harder to take back! Haha!!!
How is your dog K9 - are the meds working?
Girls are with Dad this week, I will be watching more TV than normal (and some of the rubbish that takes my mind off anything, but I can't let them watch:H) - and I have no problem working the corkscrew with wet nails, maybe thats why I drank wine and not beer I am sure 15 is not too bad....if it is, don't scare me....I know how much you enjoy your daughter, even thru those struggles....

[hadit]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

SL, Good to see you are feeling better. Witching hour for me is about 4.30pm so I allways have a small job in mind to keep me occupied. Walking the dog sounds a good one,and thin k of the excercise!! My job tonight is to cut and fertilse the back lawn and maybe wash a car! Keep strong and u will beat this!! As u say, each day af puts u in a far better position to deal with lifes ups and downs!!! :l:l