An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

[Kradle123]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

FreeFly;1358715 wrote: My oh my, double digits
. Kradle, I?m not a great camper but the ex was so got dragged along a few times. The only thing I know about camping is that it?s really sh*** waking up hungover in a tent!

:H:H
I'm printing and putting that in my bag too, FreeFly!!

My girlfriend is going to send me texts over the weekend and I think I'll be okay. I really want to have a lot of fun and not think about you know what AT ALL because many times when I am at the emotional extremes is when I really want to drink....

Love all the suggestions. Off to print out my posts and finish packing the twins::nutso::

Yikes! I'm already tired
:l

[Dogwood Blossom]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Thanks for the Hello and the wish for a sober day! FF, I really needed that today. I'm on Day 10 and so far, no drinking, but I seem to be obsessed with it today. Husband will be gone this evening, which leaves me home alone, which often leads to drinking. I was just floating around the edges reading, thinking no one will even notice if I'm gone. I'll just slip away...quietly. Checked MWO one more time and there was just a simple message. Hello & sober wish. Thank you.

Going to try to stick it out. :0/

[FreeFly]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hey DB - of course we'd miss you!! Don't you go AWOL on us, OK. You're very much needed here Wishing you loads of strength for the evening - I know you can do it. I got offered a drink today in the most unlikely place. Totally took me off guard. I said no thanks but all this stuff came up. My al brain went into a little mini overdrive. All very well staying in my AF bubble at home but hadn't even considered what being around alcohol would be like. Guess I better get myself a plan for that one now. Hang in there and see you tomorrow on day 11 BTW - promise I'll stop counting at 30!

[LillyE]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Congrats on 10 Dest and Dogwood!! I reckon that's when you really start feeling some benefits so please, please keep going!

Dog, it's been great to see you here and your posts. Even if people didn't comment you weren't posting immediately doesn't mean they wouldn't notice or care if you went AWOL. I know just what you mean though. I can't tell you how much it meant to not post for a weekend then find two lovely PMs (thank you again lovely FreeFly) checking on me.

Again, please keep going! Don't go AWOL. I think the fact you came here and posted about a potential trigger is a good sign. Now you need to make a plan for what you will do tonight instead of drinking. Have you a good book you can curl up with? A bubble bath? Go to a movie? Get a good DVD and some snacks? See a sober friend? What are your options. Strap yourself to your chair and read and post here all night if that's what it takes. I want to see an update from you that you got through the night/weekend AF, ok?

I may be a bit AWOL myself for a bit... got a new project starting and doubt I'll be online this weekend as a lot going on - all of it good - but I'll be checking in on the iPad where I can and thinking of you all.

Wishing you a strong, happy, AF weekend!

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[LillyE]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Dogwood, I just looked to see if you'd started a My Story thread as I realized I don't really know your background. I see you don't have one but I read that you had 20 years then drank again. I'd love to know more of your story - how and when did you get sober the first time? How did you find it? What led you to drink again? How did that go? How are you getting sober this time? How is it different? May I put a challenge to you... no pressure, just a thought... why don't you work on writing your story for MWO tonight instead. Take the time to reflect on your journey instead of drinking and let people here get to know you better so they/we can support you better. Bet you won't feel like drinking by tomorrow if you do. :l

[LillyE]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Ok, final post from me before I run off... Kradle I have to admit I'm worried about you and your weekend away. I really hope it all goes to plan and that having two months behind you (AWESOME!!!) will help keep you strong. Please post as soon as you return and have fun AF.

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Kradle123;1358912 wrote: :H:H
I'm printing and putting that in my bag too, FreeFly!!

My girlfriend is going to send me texts over the weekend and I think I'll be okay. I really want to have a lot of fun and not think about you know what AT ALL because many times when I am at the emotional extremes is when I really want to drink....

Love all the suggestions. Off to print out my posts and finish packing the twins::nutso::

Yikes! I'm already tired
:l

Hi Kradle. Have a great trip.

What's your exit plan if you are feeling wobbly?

[Guitarista]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Have a great weekend Lilly.

A new project sounds very excitement!

Hey DB. Hang in there for this weekend. There is plenty of interesting, inspiring, and positive reading to be had here on this site. Some of the older threads are inspiring too. Have a read of the https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html It's a lifesaver i reckon. I love the 'Gratitude vs. deprivation thinking' posts on the first few pages.

From a bloke who's had many day 1's recently, i'll say to you to stay relaxed, tough, and committed, and distracted/busy. Watching an inspiring movie or inspiring book can give us a great boost.

Take care everyone. :h

G-bloke.

[Dogwood Blossom]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Lilly, I didn't mean to sound like I was pouting because nobody responded to my post. Actually, someone responded to my post almost every time. There are so many coming and going in MWO. Like AA, if you want to be in, people will be there with you. If you start to slip away, it would be easy to just go. Nobody to blame except the person slipping away because it is our choice to stay or go, like any self help group. Thank you for your advice. I think I will do that and check out the Tool Box.

Mr. G, I am trying to take it easy, and to be determined. I wish I could kick my own ass for getting myself back in this place. I am going to do some work this weekend.

FreeFly, your words today pulled me back. I will work on some things this weekend. Today I called my friend and set a time to go work out again. I do love that physically I am already feeling stronger. We worked out hard for an hour and I came home and allowed myself to eat a few things I wouldn't normally eat. Treats...rewards for not drinking, even though I really wanted to. I am exhausted, so going to go read till I fall asleep and look forward to waking up rested and alert. If I get up in time I am going to run with my friend.

Hopefully I will soon be to a place where I can be more interested in helping others and less involved in me.

[LillyE]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Dogwood Blossom;1359204 wrote: Lilly, I didn't mean to sound like I was pouting because nobody responded to my post. Actually, someone responded to my post almost every time. There are so many coming and going in MWO. Like AA, if you want to be in, people will be there with you. If you start to slip away, it would be easy to just go. Nobody to blame except the person slipping away because it is our choice to stay or go, like any self help group. Thank you for your advice. I think I will do that and check out the Tool Box.

Hopefully I will soon be to a place where I can be more interested in helping others and less involved in me.

Oh, I hope my comments didn't come across the wrong way - I didn't mean to suggest you were being overly sensitive. Just that I know the feeling of wondering if people would notice anyway if you did slip away. I was just trying to be encouraging

I found I was ENTIRELY self-involved at first. I still am to a large degree. I felt bad about this at first being here but now think it is actually completely necessary in the beginning. It's part of why I slipped away from the Newbies Nest and started posting in Monthly Abs instead. I felt I just didn't have that much to offer other newbies and needed to be learning from people with more time and commitment under their belts. I hope I'll have more to offer people down the line but for now we actually do need to be a bit selfish and focus on ourselves until we find some stability in being sober.

Obviously you know already what it's like to be sober (20 years - wow!) and you know you can do it. But you're clearly in a fragile place right now. So as Kaslo said to me, just remember that the most important person in your life right now is YOU.

Ok, now I am zipping off... happy weekend all..

[scottish lass]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Dogwood - all of us add something to the threads, and each of us will be missed if we stop - there is strength in numbers, and we need us all so that when some of us are having a down day, others are there to give us an attitude adjustment. Don't go, please!
Kradle - I will be looking forward to your I'm back post - you can do it!
Day 10 for me too - I had a long drive home tonight and argued with myslef most of the 140 miles - it is 109 - 101, and cold drinks sounded so good, but have got in - doors locked so I can't get out - and will keep my double digits!

[Dogwood Blossom]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

No Lilly, I didn't take it that way. Thanks for hanging in there with me today.

SL, very tempting day for me as well. Good for you, you won the argument and made it home! Yay!

I'm looking forward to a sober, clear-headed morning. How about we call it Day 11???

[scottish lass]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Day 11 sounds good - see you there.
PS - I love dogwood blossoms, they are beautiful!

[clear eyes]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Good evening everyone. Hmmm...maybe day 10 is a tricky one. I too had thoughts today as well. Glad to see that we all made it! Here's to a better day 11 that will be hopefully be one that we all say was much easier.

[Marhall]

An older drunk back on day one. Who's with me?

Hi All, day 4 nearly down, weekends are my worst. I just walked away from work pretty happy as refused work drinks and passed the many bottle shops on the way home. Made it in the door with out any wine in tow.