Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

[noal]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

I'm in. 30 days is my next goal.....I am at 14 days today. Sick and tired of the old me and feeling VERY strong about the new me.

good luck to all!

[BelleGirl]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Day 8 AF and a Newbie here. Started going for 30 days AF when I found this site a week ago. Can't tell y'all how much it has meant to me to ready your stories. I know if I fall, there will be great folks to pick me up.

I made it through one of my toughest triggers yesterday: A Halloween party for 20+ kids at our home. Those things usually (well, always) push me over the edge AL wise, and I sneak shots in the laundry room. Even with some of the parents bringing wine, (and hubster breaking out a bottle) I was able to keep AF. Really had the best time in a long time. Being 100% present and not having to worry about getting too close to people (you all know why)...was wonderful. Wasn't even cranky at clean-up time!

[daisy45]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Mightymite, think on to the morning after. Wait to you see how they'll be looking at you then - you all fresh-faced and bushy-tailed!!!!!!!

[crocus]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Thanks MM

Mightymite, I need some of your resolve. I'm scared I will fail. Like I have so many times in the past. Just last night I steam-rolled right over my pledge to put down the wine at the end of dinner. I'm so sick of me!

[mightymite]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Hey crocus, it takes time. I have failed so many times with moderating that I know now that I cannot do that. I had a very bad weekend last weekend after hosting a party at our house. Woke up after passing out and not knowing where I was. Very scary moment for me. That next morning I knew I had to do something. Things were going downhill fast. I was so tired of feeling ashamed and I knew my hubby hated seeing me that way. I want to be there for him and our boys. I think a big part of my resolve is not wanting to see my husband's disappointment in me. I know you are supposed to do it for yourself but I will find any reason to make it work. He plays a BIG part in my recovery. You need to find what will do it for you. I know you will. Don't beat yourself up.

[crocus]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Thanks, MM. I hate seeing my husband feeling so disgusted with me. I want to do better for him; I feel the same way you describe. I am Catholic, and I'm going to try to get to church more than just on Sundays to see if that will help. I really don't want to screw up Thanksgiving. Thank you sooooo much for your words of hope. It means so much.

[Ishybit]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Thanksgiving is a scary thought. I like your approach Mightymite. Crocus, the self loathing can consume me sometimes. You'd think that would be enough to stop us from drinking but by 5pm the wine keeps calling. I have to admit, that posting here to all of you makes me feel a little lighter. thank you.

[Struggles 106]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Count me in!

Hey PF
Sounds great to me; I'm at day 25 and clearly we
have a lot in common.
I was also fed up with damage control-figuring
out all the stupid nonsense after the fact.
I'm my journal I'm listing incidents that pop into my
mind, from even years ago. This new perspective
is one reason I've been doing well. I finally allowed
myself to see the bigger picture.
I would love to have chat/ contact will all you guys
daily if possible. I know it would be helpful
for me, and hopefully all of you as well.

Thanks!

[momma]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Hi friends!
I have been doing The Sinclair Method since the spring and am having great results. I have tried abstaining but would eventually fail. My life is so much better now and I would love to help anyone out there on their journey as well as I am looking for support as I embark on my own journey.

[Nelz]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Ive just passed my 180 days, I still feel pretty new here as well. But I have noticed, that no matter what day you are on, everyone in here will be on your side, to help, educate, and inspire you.


I totally get what you mean by having people close to your range, there does seem to be a little more of a special bond between them. But just do what I do.....walk in here like you own the place, and take a seat, and be prepared to be blown away with all the support you will get.........LOLz

I can relate to pretty much EVERYTHING you said....checking FB, checking phone logs.....I was terrible about doing those things. Then Id wake up and have to run to puter to delete things, and pray no one saw them.

Cool thing is since May 2, I havent done that. I havent woken up to my wife saying.......Do you remember what you said/did last night?

It feels great, I wish you well on this journey.......its a difficult one, but well worth it. :welcome:

[mightymite]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

A BIG Congrats to you Nelz on your 180 day mark. I will be there with you in no time at all.

Welcome Crocus. I am so happy that I can help and that we will be here together to help one another.

[Cupcake]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

I would like to join in too. I've been lurking around these boards for around 18 months and haven't had a great deal of success. But I'm now on 29 days today and feeling very positive for the first time ever. Feeling pretty good, sleeping loads but now am having headaches that won't go away and feeling very woozy. Also feeling quite weak from time to time - could be the sugar drop in the blood. Anyway, I'm going to work through it - the past 29 days have been brilliant for me and I think I'm starting to look a bit different. I agree teamwork is the best way forward and there are some really great people on these boards.

:thumbs::thumbs:

[LadyLush]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

All,

Yay! Way to go Cupcake! I am on lucky day 13. I slowed way down over the past few months. I know now, moderation is not an option. I decided abstinence is the only way for me.
13 days completely alcohol free feels wonderful and I look forward to more and more and more!
Good luck everyone and let's enjoy this ride!

LL:l

[crocus]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

MM Help please!

I just got back from Church, and I confessed to my husband that I had stayed up late last night and drank a whole bottle of red wine while listening to some old songs. He is so furious with me. He said he would go right out and buy me however much more I wanted, so how much more was that, a gallon? I am so humiliated and ashamed. My priest had advised me to tell my husband when I was feeling lonely and fearful and tempted to do that, but when I did so last night, he got mad and told me not to keep him up. Of course he was angry. What did I expect? And now, he is disgusted and not even speaking to me. I know I deserve every nasty look. Can anny of you help, please? Thanks so much in advance. I have to do something. It's too awful feeling this sad and worthless.:upset:

[Guitarista]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Hi Crocus,

Firstly, i want you to know and believe this. You are NOT worthless. You are a beautiful, precious, and unique person, and i can tell you are a good person. You do not deserve to be put down, or disrespected. But, what are you going to do about your drinking? Can you stop, and go for 30 days alcohol free here with everyone? Sounds like you need to take action, so you will need a plan of attack for the drinking. Firstly, it's fantastic and very important that you have been honest with your husband (and priest), despite his reaction. Can you see your doctor, or find a good doc, and talk about your options, and how to do this. A drug and alcohol counsellor could be good extra support, along with the priest providing he is non-judgemental, and a good person. I hope your husband will stop and look realistically at the situation and support you through this. Talking about this with any close friends you trust can be helpful too. You may also consider an AA meeting near you for extra support.

You can do this, and keep posting here and talking. Here's some useful reading. Click this link. https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

Best wishes, G-bloke.