Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

[mightymite]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Hi Crocus, I am sorry your husband is having a hard time understanding. Before I told my husband, I had gone to the tools section of this site and wrote down all of the things that pertained to me along with why I wanted to quit, what I wanted by not drinking, how I felt and the real raw emotions that come with drinking. So when I sat down and told him I also asked him to read all that I had written so that he would have a better understanding of how I was feeling. It really hit home for him and he understood all of the emotions I was going through. I don't know your husband or if that might work with him, but maybe that is something you could try. I thought it was easier for him to read than for me to try and verbally tell him. And remember, he married you for a reason because he loves you and he is just confused right now. You are NOT worthless. You are looking for a way to help yourself and that is so empowering. You just need his support right now. Please stay strong and if you take each day one day at a time you will become stronger and stronger. Remember we are all here for you. Keep coming back. :l
Mightymite

[LadyLush]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Crocus,

I'm sorry I did not see your post. I am not married now but I remember waking up on occasion to hear my husband say "you really did it this time". I would have no idea what "it" was.
We're here for you. Don't let guilt sidetrack you. So many times I just thought "what the hell does it matter". But IT DOES MATTER. People need me, you, all of us to be there when we really need to be there. You'll make it. You already have your faith; lean on it and allow His grace to help you through this!

XXOO

LL:l

[crocus]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Thank you MM and Ellaq and all of you who posted to me.

Thank you all so much. I am so comforted by your kindness. I am starting the 30 days. Today was easy because it is so soon after my latest binge. The test will be Thanksgiving. My husband too wishes I could just moderate and "don't overdo it." I'll cross that bridge later. Right now I want to do day 2 and hope that hubby will start speaking to me. I will keep up my prayers. Funny, Guitarista, your name also seems Godsent. I was listening to the the August album by Clapton (I'm a big fan) the other night during my binge, and feeling sorry for myself. How's that for an irony? Midnight starts day 2. I'll check back in here when I get home from work. Thanks for being there, all of you.:h

[crocus]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Would someone please tell me how to get to the tools section? Thanks.

[Guitarista]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

crocus;1201424 wrote: Would someone please tell me how to get to the tools section? Thanks.

Click here Crocus. https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

It's top of the page in the Monthly abstinence section for future reference.

Great going on day 2. Go for it friend.

[BelleGirl]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Crocus - sending big hugs your way. You sound really brave to me. You are not worthless...you have made a start. I am not much farther ahead of you, so let's do this.

[Prairie Fairy]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Crocus - you are not worthless because someone told you you are - you become less than what you can be when you believe that.

Not one of us is perfect. Each of us is cracked - somedays it just feels like we are broken wide open. It's those broken wide open days - when we likely least deserve it - we need their love the most.

Waking up sick, with no memory, and little hope tomorrow will be better is no way to live.

I am tired and craving like crazy tonight. But I am under the covers. And exhausted from fighting off my booze brain.

Nigbt.....

[darcio75]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Count me in - day no. 1 :-)

[Darius]

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Count me in , day no.1 :-)

[available]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

me too day one and im positive. need lots of support I think.

[Guitarista]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Welcome Darius and Available!

Great to see you. What's your respective plans? Have you read our 'toolbox' thread? The link is above in an earlier post if you don't know of the thread. Essential reading i'd suggest.

Best wishes all!

[available]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

count me in

i did not realise there were so many people out there with the same problem as me. Day one has gone well it will be day two after work wanting a wine that will be hard but i am determined not to live my life as a drunk. this is my first step to being af.:new:

[available]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

ty guitaristo

Could you repost the thread for toolbox i am just trying to find my way around this site atm. Would be much appreciated. I know i can do this with your support. they have nothing like this in australia and we are the drinking capital of the world i think.

[Guitarista]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

available;1201562 wrote: Could you repost the thread for toolbox i am just trying to find my way around this site atm. Would be much appreciated. I know i can do this with your support. they have nothing like this in australia and we are the drinking capital of the world i think.

Here you go. https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

Best wishes on your journey. This place is 24/7 so usually someone around if you want to chat or post.

Greg.

[mightymite]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Good morning everyone and welcome Darius and available.

At the expense of repeating myself, I posted this on another thread but wanted to post here as well, I am on day 10. I woke with no headache! I guess that means that my body has purged itself of al. Yea! I am feeling so light. I laid in bed before getting up and actually felt lighter. (of course, not weight wise but I will attack that problem at a later date). I feel happier, no aches and pains, and my relationship with my hubby has gotten closer. I feel free. I know that sounds unbelievable and corny but that's how I feel. As I said on the other thread, I must have bought what Jason Vale was selling. I feel so hopeful about the future and my life. And it's only been 10 days! I can't wait to feel what 30 days will be like! I actually remember handing out candy to the little ghost and goblins last night. What joy. So, you see, if you can put more and more af days behind you, you will climb out of the fog and you will see the true person you are and not what you thought you were. Have a wonderful day everyone. mightymite