Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

[Ishybit]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Starting day 2. I didn't think i would make it through last night. Halloween has always been a boozy affair but once I said no to the first drink it became easier to say no the rest of the night . I down loaded Jason Vale's book. I hope it will give me a different perspective about alcohol. Here's to an AF day everyone.
ishy

[daisy45]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Hi everyone. Afraid to say I messed up yesterday. But I have changed my signature with today being my new start. Jason Vales book is excellent. I read it last month and done 20 great AF days easily; I messed it up through my own stupidity and yet again found I was back in that same old crap. I have taken his book out again and am marching forward. Lesson learned!
Heading out today to stock up on nice healthy food and drinks and going for a swim tonight.
Good to see so many on board!

[lolab]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

wow, there's so many new people who have joined this thread - that's wonderful...:-)

Daisy, hang in there darlin....you can do it...

I can't begin to name all the names of all of the people who are inspired in this thread - I will get to reading it over and hopefully we will all get to know each other...I do know the feeling of thinking that everyone else kind of already knows each other - but don't let it stop you from posting ok? We're all in the same boat. :-)

[BelleGirl]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Count me as one of the inspired here!

Happy to meet all of you.

I posted this in Newbie's nest but maybe it is more appropriate here?

What did others do when they hit #30? What do others plan to do when they get there? Why am I worried about this now when I have a long way to go? I should just try to enjoy the ride of not a) giving in to cravings b) in a fog or c) hungover and feeling like crap.

...trying to learn from those who came to this place before me. Hope someday I can help as much as you all have

[crocus]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Fraud alert

Thank you LadyL, Cupcake, Mightymite and Bellegirl. I Really can't thank you enough. You are sooo inspiring. Your kindness got me up and going today. I left the house for work at 6AM today because I was too ashamed to have my husband look at me. I left before he woke up. He is still not speaking to me.

I feel like a fraud. When I put my make up on, I see this person in the mirror. I wear my little oxford shirts and pearls, and people say, "You always look so put together and so up-beat."
Well, now you guys know what I'm really like, and it feels like such a relief that you do. I want to look in the mirror someday and actually BE the person so many think I am. My grown kids (two boys, 30 and 32, and a beautiful daughter of 28) think I probably do drink too much, but that I'm so much fun to be around. No so much, when I'm on the floor, though. They will all be here on Thanksgiving, but I fear it less today than yesterday. I have NO idea what my long term plan should be. I just want to do the 30 days and worry about day 31 when it gets here. Does anyone ever really succeed at modding? At this point, I can't even imagine it.

Guitarista, thanks for the tools directions:thanks:. So excellent. I hope you all have a beautiful day out in the world.

[mightymite]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Good morning crocus, I am so glad to see you this morning. Do you see that in just one day you have become a bit stronger just by not fearing the holiday as much today. Just think how you will feel tomorrow and the next day and on and on. Have you put any tools together to help you on your way? This was the catalyst for me. It really helped. Believe me, everyone thought I had my act together too. I just kept it locked away and hidden from everyone. And I was never good at modding. I always knew I couldn't but kept trying and failing miserably. And then I found this site and learned how to help myself. I just never knew how to do it. It was such a revelation for me. I agree with Jason Vale that modding is pretty much a form of torture. Having to control yourself all of the time. I can only speak for myself; I would rather quit altogether than have to fight with myself daily. I hope you have a good day today crocus. Take care.

[crocus]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Oh Mightymite! Thank you so much! Thank you so so so much. I'm at work, so I had better work. Thank you so much. I am going to do tools tomorrow.You have made me feel so much more hopeful.

[available]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

well day 2 and had a crap sleep and am shaking like a leaf. I dont want to reach for a drink but i know my body craves it. Have plans for this afternoon after work and one of them is not going to the grog shop. I i can do this and after reading everyones post i know i am not alone and it can only get better. Even thinking of going to the drs and confessing but i sufer from anxiety so always thinks they are going to tell me i am going to die, even though i am doing it to myself now.

[mightymite]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Hey crocus, so happy you are feeling more hopeful. This will continue as you put more and more af days behind you.

Hey available, you need to do what ever it takes to get yourself on the right track. If that means seeing your doctor, then do so. Just take that first step. By being here you realize you need to do something and that is huge. Is there someone you can talk to or someone you can lean on to help you through this. Keep coming here too and check out the tools section. You will learn so much. If you can set up a plan for yourself that will point you in the right direction. Remember, you are not alone and there are so many awesome people here to help you.

[Guitarista]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Keep it going Crocus, you're rockin' it.

Hang in there Available. You should feel better each day. See your doc if you're worried. Mightymite does not speak with forked tongue.

Keep it going everyone!

[available]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

it will get easier

Thanks for the support guys, just feeling shaky and uncertain. I have contacted a friend who i said i want to ask something from him. He knows i drink but not to the extent that i did. I know after his initial shock he will be supportive and i have set a tool in place. I know i can do this and here it is lunch time at work and i needed to go on the website. Feel better knowing you all have such faith. I have not been two days without a drink in a long time but today is the day. I will work on the dr bit lol.
:thanks:

[Nelz]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Well done to all the new faces on here starting on their day one!!! :goodjob:


Its kinda cool how you all joined around the same time....you all can reach your milestones together, and have some accountability with each other.

Just keep the ODAT in mind, dont think of it as a lifetime without drinking, just make it through today and then make it through tomorrow etc....etc.

Plenty of people on here that have or are going through the same things/issues/problems that you may have. Just post away, shouldnt take long for a response.


I wish you all luck in your journey, you have made a wise choice, may take a few days or week, but if you can make it through that, things will get better a little at a time. And fighting the urge will get easier......hasnt gone away for me, but it is a little easier than when I first started.

X ing out days on a calender, or putting up that gold star is a good way to chart progress....soon you will probably see some weight vanishing. AL is nothing but empty calories.............calories you wont have to burn off if you dont put it in your body.


Just imagine every bottle of AL as poison.....because thats what your body thinks it is.



Stay in touch

[available]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

day 2

Well i came home, found my walking shoes and went to take the dogs for a walk, was great to get out but had to go and get smokes where there is a bottle shop. looked but thought no way am i going there. got home and now think what do i drink as i am on the computer and thats when the wine begins. water of course so i am nearly through day too and feel pretty proud of myself.

Goal: make day 2 and feel proud

[patrice]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Hiya all,

Its great to get home from work and get on this site. I can relate to all the musings...

I'm on Day 3.. its going much better than the last Day 3 a week ago. Could that be because I already had a few AF days on the go?? The last day 2 and 3, I was shaky, grumpy, tearful, sweaty and sleepless.

This day 3 I am none of the above ( not getting complacent of course!!)
Available - we are at the same point, good on you for not getting any grog when you went to get your fags. ( I'm going to quit the fags soon too)

What I am finding really useful are supplements and 6g of L-Glut. I'm taking so many vits and supps I think I almost need to give up my day job just to keep track of them all.

Also food is super important - not just any food but good natural food - salads, fish, nuts etc and not too many carbs.. its making a huge difference to my cravings because, whereas before I used to get home from work and crack open the bottle, drink it and not eat. Now, I get home from work, have some coconut water ( yeah I'm lucky I live in the tropics) and then have food.. as raw and unprocessed as possible.... She says tucking into a curry haha

Anyway, Bon Courage for today and tonight

Take care
Patrice

[available]

Looking for: People early in their 1st 30 Days AF

Patrice where do u get the L-Glut from? I have taken nothing this far cept xanax as i take them for anxiety anyways but only 2mgs a day. I could quite easily go to the bottleshop right now, but sitting on this site looking at messages. Have my anxiety and sleep dvd ready to roll as i seem to toss and turn and sweat alot which is good in all respects at the moment.