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[FreeFly]

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Hey Available - you're doing soooo well. Yes, tell that SOB to go get stuck up it's own arse. Hee hee - I noticed from the other thread you're now the 5th member! Hang in there x

[available]

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im hanging CANT not giving in and having to confess on here lol, god would be worse than telling my mother. not that anyone would judge but i would feel bad. give me 10 days and i will be happy. 2 to go yeah

[Wagoneer]

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Stompy;1202856 wrote: Wow - 11 months is great. How did you go about it?

Sorry I missed this Stompy! It was hard, but I got lots of selzer water, juices, etc. and had to change the way I did things. When I cooked (which is all the time when I am home and was a huge trigger for me) I had a goblet of V8 huice with lemon, or seltzer, whatever. Also would invite the kids in to talk when I was cooking. Just had to find things to take up my time and NOT have any wine in the house. It wasn't as hard as I thought - for a while. HOWEVER, I got complacent and let that stupid voice come back in my head in October that told me that I could moderate. So I tried (but didn't tell anyone, so right there seems the problem, hiding it!) Not that I got drunk, but I drank and for no good reason. I was happy, life is good, so why did it happen? I have no idea. Alcohol is a sneaky bastard. I know now that I always have to be vigilant. I can't moderate and the sooner I get it through my fat head, the better! Best of luck to you and sorry I did not see your post earlier! :h

[Stompy]

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Wagoneer;1205327 wrote: Sorry I missed this Stompy! It was hard, but I got lots of selzer water, juices, etc. and had to change the way I did things. When I cooked (which is all the time when I am home and was a huge trigger for me) I had a goblet of V8 huice with lemon, or seltzer, whatever. Also would invite the kids in to talk when I was cooking. Just had to find things to take up my time and NOT have any wine in the house. It wasn't as hard as I thought - for a while. HOWEVER, I got complacent and let that stupid voice come back in my head in October that told me that I could moderate. So I tried (but didn't tell anyone, so right there seems the problem, hiding it!) Not that I got drunk, but I drank and for no good reason. I was happy, life is good, so why did it happen? I have no idea. Alcohol is a sneaky bastard. I know now that I always have to be vigilant. I can't moderate and the sooner I get it through my fat head, the better! Best of luck to you and sorry I did not see your post earlier! :h

You obviously have the tools and will to go AF so go for it. Well done.

[Guitarista]

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Great stuff Stompy.

Keep up the good work.

G-bloke.

[available]

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good on you Wagon, u r back on board which is where u shld be. i am sure i am one of those that cant moderate either. will give it a try after 30 days but i know what i am like, 1 bottle is just not enough or i will think it will be but it wont. Hate that false sense of security we all think we have. I have a fat head too wagon, very fat. two digits tomorrow, never thought that day would come.

[FreeFly]

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Available - why would you give moderation a try after 30 days?? Then you'd have to go back to day 1 and you'd feel totally crap about yourself! Don't do it - don't have that little bugger trick you like that.
CB

[available]

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Cant i dont know what i am going to do yet. bit of a conundrum with this one. i do want to drink as it is a family get together and i have not seen some of these people for years. i dont know, will see what happens when i get to the 10th december

[FreeFly]

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Available - I've seen your posts recently and it shines out how totally fab you've been feeling about yourself since you quit. I'm scared for you that you'll fall down the rabbit hole if you try and mod. It can be so hard to pull yourself out again.

I know it's your choice but I'd say tell that bastard to f*** right off. Imagine how you'd feel enjoying the evening without AL, remembering it all in the morning with a clear head and enjoying the next day too! Reckon you'll find they'll be a whole heap of other MOW voices out there saying the same thing - I'll be watching! xx

[FreeFly]

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PS. May I remind you, you'd be in serious danger of getting your head firmly stuck up your arse too!
xx

[available]

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lol well CANT i think i have just been told. I can feel the wrath of MWO now and god that is a scary thought. i would be in the naughtly corner for days and days. I am feeling good and yes u r completely right. i dont know i just feel as if i should. u know what its like to be the dickhead of the party, well i suppose i will miss that, not that i was a total dick, never an angry drunk, more likely to hold someones hand and cry, that was me. But there will be other non drinkers there so i think on your advice i will give it a big shot and stay AF. i think by the 10th decembeer i will be told that many times that i will vomit just looking at AL.

[FreeFly]

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Soz - didn't mean to be wrathlike! Anyway glad to be of help.

Off for another AF day - I'm following you guys remember so you're all my little sparks of inspiration

[mrsg]

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Hi available,

I'm having the same thoughts as you. I'm into my 4th week now and feeling great. the fog has completely gone in the last few days and feeling v. motivated and exercising and just feeling at peace (which is very unusual). I have a party this weekend and its gonna be a HUGE piss up but I'm def not drinking. I then have my bday on Dec 11th and it's my 35th so I'm expected to do something. My brother is getting married on new years eve and of course xmas. I'm still focusing on odaat but I'm considering moderating down the road. I just bought a new book on mod drinking called "the sophisticated alcoholic". It looks good but am I only fooling myself? Probably, I'll read it and I'll make a decision then, but, right now it feels very good not drinking. So, available I know how you feel and its tough! But, lets just focus on now and how good we feel AF xx

[available]

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thanks MSRG yes i will concentrate on the here and now and see what happens. i am extremely happy at the moment too, day 10 tomorrow and i really dont want to drink but of course my mind says well it has always been the norm. i just dont want to be pressured into drinking when everyone knows how much of a problem it was with me. hoping they understand and not say "just have one" thats like waving a flag to a bull. i told my mum today and she said "what" then said that is great, have u given up the fags" i was like mum wtf i have given up one thing, one day at a time. geezzzz

[Prairie Fairy]

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LOL! Just like a Mom! :-).

Laughs again...