Big Fall

[mightymite]

Big Fall

Hey Av, can I chime in here. I just want to say that your kids are so proud of you. If they see you pick up that drink at the party, will they believe you have changed? From your posts, I know how important that is to you to have your kids proud of you and, boy, do I understand that. That one is on my tools list. Here is something else on my list. No one cares if you drink or not. Everyone is so wrapped up in themselves that they wouldn't even notice unless you say something. It doesn't matter about anyone but you. YOU are the most important thing right now and not what others want you to do or think. Of course, ultimately, the decision is yours but know that we care and want to see you succeed. Hope I didn't step over the line here. Also remember what you have gone through detoxing. Do you want to go through that again if it gets out of hand.:l

[mrsg]

Big Fall

Hi again available,

My Mum is exactly the same. She'd prefer i gave up cigarettes but then she's not in my head! I had given up cigs but went back smoking a few recently. Will give up soon again. Let's continue to staying AF for the mo. We can do it! xx

[available]

Big Fall

MM you guys could never step over the line. You are here to give advice and sound advice it is too. I have taken on board all you have said and i so dont want to go back and i have a plan that i will serve the AL and mine will be soda water as that is what i used to drink. no one will notice and i have a very persistent sister in law who loves to drink with me, which used to be fine back in the day. mind u she tells me i drink to much, everyone does but they will just think it is ok for one night not realising that i have to start all the shit again. i got offered a drink last night and u would be proud guys, straight away i said no then thought wtf did i just say ha ha

[LillyE]

Big Fall

Oh Stompy. I'm sorry. And I'm back too after a fall.

And, look, can I say as a single 36 year old women, you're not alone there either, and there are plenty of lovely women who have the same fears. And, honestly, if you know you want a sober life the woman who'll be supportive and understanding of that is not necessarily hanging out at the local all weekend. There are other ways to meet women. Have you tried other ways, like internet dating, meetup (if it exists there?) and so forth?

Part of what drove me back to a big binge recently is an emotional crisis with a guy I was seeing. But it also strikes me that until I get a handle on my addictions and, as DG said, know myself better, I'm probably going to keep being attracted to the wrong sorts of people anyway.

Hugs and now get back in that saddle you. Stop berating yourself. It's not helpful and won't feed a positive mindset about getting back to not drinking. You know you felt better - do it.

(Sorry, wrote this before I read on and saw you're back on the wagon and feeling good. GO YOU. But thought I'd post the words of encouragement anyway...)

Lilly

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Big Fall

well Lil i can relate to the meeting wrong men. The nice ones are too nice lol. I think it is a matter as you said of knowing who we are and getting our AL under control. I am sure my AL addiction must have stuck out like dogs balls but i thought it didnt. i am better alone until i have myself sorted i think.

Internet dating is pretty good, u get your choice and if they reply then good and if u meet for coffee then good and if it works then great but if it doesnt then there are lots more ppl out there. i ahve met some lovely guys off the net but sadly the wrong choice. i am waiting patiently for mr right.

there seems to be a few of us in that wagon Lil but the more the merrier i say.