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Yeah,its a paradoxical vicious cycle .the more you stay home boozing the more you dontfeel like going out..the more you dont go out the more depressed you get ,so the more you stay home drinking,and so it goes on..alcohol creates the very things you are trying to use it to fix.
Oh I detest facebook now,deleted once and for all...very dangerous aswell,drunk & facebooking lol!..i know what you mean about "yeah mum" they just get pissed off & bored of hearing it I guess..best thing I reckon is just not to mention it tothem & just get on with it...x

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hey DQ how has your alcohol free day been. Told my kids and if i fall off the wagon then i do, i told them that but they are proud i am giving it a go. Have an excellent support friend as well. he had no idea that i drank so much and i used to chat with him on messenger all the time. i said it was easy to hide. he is finding it hard to get his head around bless him that i said i was an alcoholic. my day consisted of walking the dogs and having a coffee and then housework. 4pm i thought yep wine time, that craving was enormous and no one on the forum here and cld not remember the name lol. cleaned the tv cabinet instead, went for another walk and im exhausted. im now eating tinned fruit as i so crave sweet it is unbelievable. now i am not drinking i am getting out more DQ, funny isnt it. I dont miss AL atm yeah!

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Yay!good for you A :-) I think thats a good aproach,you know all one can do is keep trying..everybody loves a trier lmao..& if you do fall off that horse..dont bother with recriminations just keep getting back on it....those cravings,i dont get many of tbh..my drinking is much more of a psychological thing..but my desire not to be that person that needs to get shit faced is becoming way stronger than the desire to give in to a silly craving I know will pass..i have totaly changed my pattern this last year,going from someone who always drank the next day(to get rid of sketchy symptoms) to never drinking the next day..from getting pissed two -three times a week,or atleast most weekends ,to once a month..i havnt been on a bender basicaly for about 4 months now..i absaloutley know I can master my pattern becauae I am actively doing it :-) like I said,i do not want to be that person anymore,she has no room in my life...so yeps I havnt had a drink for a week and im not bothered at all..i wont be drinking now untill christmas...i want my mental & physical vitality back available know what I mean? Sounds like you are doing well

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With what you are doing..i truly believe if you want something enough,you will make it happen.btw not surprised you want sweet stuff since alcohol messes with your hormones,adrenals ,pancreas and other organs that help your body regulate blood sugar..i read somewhere once that there is not a drinker alive that doesnt have blood sugar issues x

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i got to the stage DQ where i was drinking every single bloody day. in the morning when i woke up feeling like shit i would go i am so not drinking this arvo and oh god yes did i listen to myself no and proceed to get shitfaced again. Just lucky i came upon this site on 1/11/11. I am in a great frame of mind and sometimes that scares me that i am in such a good frame of mind. I work for a bunch of neurologists and we see ppl with seizures from AL abuse etc and at first i thought here we go seizures lol but heard nothing from this forum so not worried. U sound as if u know what u want u just have to focus on it. Like me i dont want to be the drunk me anymore there is too much out there and maybe i will meet a man sober, god certainly not the drunk i was. Yes i want to be mentally as stable as i can be at my age ha ha. but i will have a drink for my mums 75th but not going back where i was. am preparing myself for that one too not to keep going

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Ohegod A,it is DISGUSTING that horrible morning alcohol fugg lol ewww I really feel very averse to that now..why the fuck would we want to wake up in the morning and drink beer instead of tea for gods sake? I honestly cant belive ive done it to myself for so long..and I never want to do it again..yes ,you are so right,there really really is so much more out there A.thats the truth of it..as for finding a man..ive pushcreated so many disasters relationship wise,all because of alcohol..you think drinking will make you funnier,less vulnerable,braver in bed etc ect..when in actual fact,it just turnes you into a totaly unatractive,mentaly& emotionaly impaired saddo that no one can handle! Lmao (i speak for myself here of course ;-) )x

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god DQ i thought u were speaking from my mouth. I have met some really nice guys and i think as much as i tried to hide it tht they caught on an knew which is sad as they were nice guys it was just me. yep funny, and all of the rest tossed in. when coherent during the day it is fine but chatting at night drinking i think they catch on. Funnily enough i did not drink during the day, i drank from when i got home from work until i passed out. weekends i normally started at 4pm, sometimes it was early arvo but that was rare. congrats to me hey! Now i still feel like shit when i wake up but the day gets better so much quicker like in 10mins. we can do this i have so many positives now

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Oh,we can definitley do this..lol it reallt isnt hard..all you gotta do Is be clear about what you WANT,the person you would rather be than this oane.and the rest will follow ;-) like I said,im 6 years away from a tranx addicton and that was 10 times for hellish than anything drink,with all its little tricks can throw at me!bring on the challange hey available ;-) time to walk down a new path now x

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i'll be right beside u DQ, im not going anywhere from here but up. Addiction is a horrible thing. my son said to me tonight mum what r u going to do if u dont drink and i said live life liam and next is to give up fags but they are my crutch at the moment. maybe in a cple of weeks when i am stronger even more and i promised my mum i would give up for her 75th. I cant believe how miserable AL makes u feel. do u have kids? xx

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Good answer A :-) yes living life,coz life is sweet and we are so blessed to be here :-) yes I do a 19 year old daughter & son nearly 12 ,im hitting the big four ohh next year,and its time to tackle alot of things..deal with issues from my past etc..plus im way too exhausted to be hanging through my sons teenage years..and even though ive been more stable than ever before these last few years,ive still gotta tweek some stuff,for all of us...ive just ordered allen cars book stop smoking for my daughter..ive got the stop drinking one..we will swap over im sure lol..trouble woth tyet :-(he fags is just dont want to stop enough

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Reckon tackling one thing at a time might be the best way A x

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Ps,ive never joined a forum for booze before..quite motivating isnt it :-)

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i am 47 now and i so dont like that age lol way to close to 50 for my liking. I have 4 kids 24,23,20 and 18. Oh u cld borrow my allen carr book its in my drawer. might drag thta one out shortly but i am thinking since i am so motivated to give up AL then fags will be easy. who am i kidding lol. teenagers mmm feral things arent they, become all unhuman and not nice most of the time. just like us on grog really.

I love my 40's DQ even this bit i suppose but i still refuse to grow up and wear a twin set and pearls. I was chatting to a guy tonight sober, well that was novel and i will remember what i said tomorrow yeah! and his name.

The only site i thought i could go to was AA and like u it did not appeal to me. Funny i thought there were a few of us out here but how wrong can one be but as u said it keeps me motivated and inspired.

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Hey A lol, I will pm you later on & we can xchange names etc if you are comfortable wkth that..gotta go and get on with my motherly duties lol x

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no probs here. i am laying in bed on laptop thinking of going to sleep but worried i wont sleep lol. i know it will get better. chat soon x