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[DQ]

Hi guys,just trying to find a comfortable niche really,just come from another forum which lasted all of about 24 hours,im sorry but the time spent on there just reinforced what I already knew..i dont roll with the AA aproach..i just want to talk to othet people about issues around alcohol,particularly binge drinking without feelingg patronized ,backed into a corner or commanded to
Surrender!unfortunatley...or not..i am way to rebellious..lol..wonder if this could be the place to find some support? :-)

[lolab]

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Hi DQ - you'll find all kinds of people here...some who have had great success with AA - others who have never tried it, others who tried but it didn't feel right...check out the newbies nest - read a bunch of threads - you'll most likely find a place where you fit in here...:welcome: we're a very diverse but welcoming group!

[DQ]

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Thankyou so much for the reply lolab,i was feeling a bit lonely never meant to sound predudice about AA folk..whatever works,works and its all good..i just personaly dont believe one way is the only way,and everyone is different.i do believe some people can manage their drinking..and abstinence isnt for everyone..thanks,will check out that thread!:-)

[Struggles 106]

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Hey DQ

Hey! Glad you found this place. AA is not for me either
and like you I think to each his/her own. If it gets
you sober it's all good.
I would love to chat with you about different ideas.
I'm on 4 wks AF and NF tomorrow and feeling great.
Seems that I have realized some important stuff!
Send me a message if you wanna chat

[daisy45]

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Hi DQ and welcome! You will not regret the day you 'hopped in' here. Everyone here comes in basically for the same reason - they must have been worried enough about their drinking habits to do something about it. You will definitely find people here who can relate to binge drinking. When you first come, like LolaB says, the Newbies Nest is great (actually many never leave there, like myself, a year on...). Read, read, and read as much as you can of old posts and threads - there is so much information to be found. I find saving anything interesting in my 'favourites' is a great help.
Looking forward to getting to know you.....

[Lavande]

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Hi DQ,

Welcome to MWO, this is a good place
I find this place in search for some non-AA help myself & glad I did.

The best place to get started is by reading the MWO book. You can download it right from the Health store here. After you read the book you'll have a better idea of what will work for you, we're all different. You also need to make a plan for yourself. Look in the https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html for lots of great ideas!

Please drop in the Newbies Nest thread too for more support!

Wishing you the best on your journey!

Lav

[DQ]

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Anne,daisy,lavande..thanks so much guys! :-)..one of the reasons I dont agree with the AA thing(one of many)is the notion that you will always be this way,and you will have to stop drinking forever because you will ALWAYS be an alkie lol..i think that is very likely for some(if thats what they choose to believe)im afraid I dont believe that anyone is "power-less" I believe it boild down to how much you want something...i have been practising changing my pattern for a very long time and contradictory to what AA says my drinking is a hell of a lot less destructive in every way than it used to be,so better not worse..ibecause I seem to have an issue with the idea of letting go of alcohol completely,and im not in denial about that issue,for me,it means I have to find another way..ive known this for a long time..i want to besomeone who doesnt have an issue with alcohol..to be able to have a couple of pints and go home.i know I can get to this because of the steps ive already implimented that are working,for instence I no longer go on benders and have a rule never to drink the next day,now the idea of drinking the next day kind of disgusts me!g.however,i still feel there is alot of tweeking to be done..when I do drink too much on an evening(about once a month on average) it has an immediate depressive effect..rather than temporarily lifting me..its my subconcious speaking I believe..i no longer want to get intoxicated..my body doesnt want it anymore basicaly.soo thats where im at right now

[DQ]

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And I absaloutley believe I can get to a harmonious place with this.im also in therapy provided by an alcohol service thats dealing with the trauma and abuse issues that alcohol has been a symptom of most of my life..we are all on our own journies,and everything is a process hey!lovely to be here x

[DQ]

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Ps ,should I have done this in the newies bit?lol

[available]

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hi dq

know where u r coming from but i got to a point where i said i would not drink the next day but by the end of it i was in the same old routine. I am day 3 of AF and it has not been an easy afternoon let me tell you, but i am exercising again and actually did some housework. For me at the present time i need to abstain to give my body a rest, i hope to be able to socially drink as i do go out and have a couple if i have to drive but then come home and get blind. i'd like to cut out the blind bit. We are all different but we have the same goals to curb out drinking of be AF. my brother died of alcoholism but did not deter me but now i know i have to do something. Good luck and u seem to have a positive attitude. AA is not for me either but everyone to their own i say

goal DAY 4

[DQ]

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Hi available :-) honestly?i dont feel I will slip back into that pattern because I find the idea abhorant(infact I cant believe ive ever enjoyed it!..yuk)n..i would never say never?but that is my belief..as I said on the other place,i am 6 years clean from a very serious prescription drug addiction that I know I will never ever go back to..i am a very tenacious person lol..i wholeheartedly agree with you about the abstinece for a period of time though,and my goalat the moment is not to drink until christmas.i believe I can do this..we shall see ;-)being someWhere like this is a great reinforcer.so are you personaly working towards abstinence available?

[available]

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i'd love to say i will be AF forever but it is such a social thing isnt it. most ppl can control their intake me 1 is great and 100 not enough. I want to be abstinent until December when my mum has her 75th and the famiy celebrate and then i would like to drink in moderation. That is my goal at present. Good on you for giving up drugs but isnt alcohol a drug too though legal. My next goal after AL is the fags but at the moment the fags are keeping me resonably sane and the walking up sober is pretty great too and today the tremors stopped. yeah!!!!!

sorry dq missed the prescription med addiction, just thought drugs but they really are all the same. i suffer from anxiety so if a dr says "oh that drug is addictive" i wont take it but i still drank my wine. lol

[DQ]

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Ahh thats great to hear you are feeling better..i wish you all the luck..we both have the same christmas goals then..yes it is so very difficult because of the social thing..i think social anxiety has alot to do with why I drink..well, i dont think,i know lol..but maybe tackling those kind of underlying issues is where its at?lol yes alcohol defo is a drug so funny the way ppl dont understand that purly because it has legal attatched to it!in my experience legal drugs are the worst of the worst and certainly more dangerous

[DQ]

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Ps,alot of drs will SAY somethings not addictive lol ;-)

[available]

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i dont go out a lot so the norm for me is to stay at home and drink then i become anti social and dont want to go. Atm i am feeling quite proud of myself but then there may be a day where i feel ashamed. Legal drugs are def the worst but the governments wont do anything about it as they will lose revenue. They just give the facts and put on gruesome adds and i just change channels lol. Mind over matter i think and i was losing my mind and self respect. Yet to tell the fam i have been AF as they will just go "yeah mum" but i can understand how they feel. this is a great site though and i much prefer it at the moment to fb lol

i dont think i would get many comments if i posted: Im an alcoholic but i am AF for 3 days.