Is anyone flying solo?

[Stompy]

Is anyone flying solo?

I live on my own and am single. But have brother, sister, mother and firends close by.

I work Mon -Friday, go to College, go to the gym also. Also do some work and gym on Saturdays
So during the week no issues whatsoever but temptation raises its head at the weekends and thats where issues arise.

[K9Lover]

Is anyone flying solo?

Hi CantBelieve,
I am single also, and though I do have a daughter, I consider myself doing this alone, as I don?t include her in this process. She knows I don?t drink anymore, but I?d never burden her with my struggles. At first I found it hard to occupy my time in the evenings, but now I?m pretty comfortable with my routine. I usually make a nice dinner and by the time it?s over and dishes are done it?s usually around 7:00 or 7:30, so by that time my ?witching? hour has already passed. I watch too much mindless TV now, but it?s better than getting drunk! I also love to read, so that takes up a lot of time. And of course, there?s always housework to be done (yuck!), but it does feel good to stay on top of the cleaning instead of letting it all pile up like I used to. I?ve been single for so long that I don?t even miss being in a relationship. When I first got sober, the thought of an evening without drinking was depressing, but now I realize how much I was neglecting by spending so much time drinking. Someone mentioned in another thread how they?d fall into bed with makeup on, teeth not brushed, etc?that used to be me too. But now I take the time to get ready for bed, not just tumble in and pass out. I think the trick is to establish a routine in the evenings, you?ll be surprised how fast the time actually passes.

[available]

Is anyone flying solo?

Morning all

I love how u said K9 about cooking dinner. I used to tell everyone that i stopped cooking as i was so sick of it after 17 years and cooking for 5 but really i was too busy drinking to cook and i did not want to eat anyways. Who needed food when u had AL.

FC i just had my mother down tellig me i drink too much and had to get my liver checked etc and i thought yeah whatever mum and just kept drinking. i knew in my heart she was right but did not think there was anything much i cld do if only she knew that after we had our couple of glasses of wine i would come into the bedroom and drink till i passed out. My brother died of liver failure so i can understand that she does not want to lose another child.

PF this is my main support base too and i keep this site open at work and at home just in case i need some help. thus far it has been great and i am finally sleeping, not as many tremors and generally feeling great. even walking again which i gave so many excuses not to do so i am getting fitter and slowly i will add more exercise into my life. i need a hobby but need to think on that one.

Day 8 today woo hoo, cant remember when i went 8 days without AL. On 10th december i have my mums 75th birthday here with family and friends, i really wld like to drink in moderation as i dont see my family much but dont want to drink at all if you know what i mean. Bit confused about what is going to happen but will see how it pans out. no us worrying just yet i suppose

Good on u stomp for being determined, we all need to focus on other things that are good in our life and as we know AL is not one of them

have a great day one and all

[FreeFly]

Is anyone flying solo?

Guitarista;1204405 wrote: Get cracking then CB! :b&d:

When we get sober, we are a blank canvas indeed. Keep it going.

G-bloke.

G-bloke ? love the cracking of the whip ? ouch! I have a new vision list on a whiteboard I look at every day. Music now on it. So much more motivated in such a short space of time Time to play with my blank canvas

[FreeFly]

Is anyone flying solo?

Hi Today ? My last relationship mirrored yours. Like you, I was already there but it definitely enabled my drinking and it escalated to new heights. Again, the whole awfulness of it and the break up are what strengthened my resolve to go AF - even if that has taken another 4 years to finally follow it through! I haven?t and wouldn?t consider entering another relationship until this issue is no longer an issue. Do actually enjoy a lot of time alone ? just sometimes it gets me down. Everyone?s stories are reminding me how much I have to be grateful for. PS. Amazing on your 86 days AF

Firefox ? again your post resonates with me. I?ve been single most of my adult life and the relationships I have had haven?t really been great. I?m working on my own self esteem and interests before entering another.

I really hope you find a good course (I love them) and well done for staying AF when not working too. You have a lot of strength. I hope you find some work too that you?d like to do ? make you feel great I?ve been thinking about Zumba ? best enrol in that class instead of just thinking about it!

Hi Prarie ? I can understand you not telling people about your detox. I?m keeping it quiet this time as so many times when I?ve told people I mess up ? big time! Takes me another few weeks to get in the right head space again. Feels ok sharing here with all you lovely folk though. Hope you make some new friends where you are soon

Thanks Accountable ? Yeah, I?ve run out of excuses now. Time to actually LIVE life and I?m looking forward to it. No cravings today ? just felt relaxed and great. Also know that early hour thing - hope the sleep improves soon.

Hi Stompy & Available ? glad to know other solos out there doing it well

K9 ? Yes it?s so much easier to have a routine without AL ? and it disappears as soon as it?s in place if I open that vino. My flat is soooo much cleaner when I?m AF and doesn?t stink of stale fags in the morning ? really very yuk! I even had a pamper this evening and relaxed with a facepack. Sad ? but can?t remember the last time I did that. I remember someone on another thread said they had nice toenails now. That?s on my list!

So it's a happy peaceful solo evening for me :thumbs:

[Today]

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Hope everyone is having good evening

Congrats on 8 days Available! You deserve a bigger WHOO HOO! And congrats to you Firefox on your 6 days, keep going! I have 3 cats (shared with family, 1 is all mine) and definitely appreciate his comfort rather than that of AL.

Accountable, a lot of what you said resonated with me... retraining our poor soggy brains is difficult but necessary.

K9, I too love the routine of bedtime again, it is comforting and my skin even looks better because I'm not sleeping in my makeup! And, I haven't woken up in strange outfits LOL.

I highly recommend yoga to anyone, women or men. I started in May and it has changed my life. (really!) I love the calming voice the teachers generally have and the focus it brings me to my actions and movements. It is still work in progress, I probably look silly but I am stronger and I think it has brought me some peace. I have trouble with the breathing part of it (you try to inhale with certain movement, exhale with another etc, something like that) but will keep it up. I would like to try zumba too, anything that makes exercise fun and gets me out of the house is good idea.

I love coming here, I'm not alone!

[BlondeAFAmbition]

Is anyone flying solo?

Hi,

I don't feel alone cause I have all of you guys . Seriously I couldn't do this without MWO. I do spend a few nights by myself when my husband is teaching night classes at a local college. On those nights, I spend some more time on here and then catch up on reading a good book in bed or browsing online. Last night was one of my nights alone and I ended up buying some stuff on Amazon. Retail therapy Nights that we spend together, hubby usually has a few beers but since I have been AF for 7 days as of today, I drink seltzer...good thing I never liked beer. I was a wino! No wine in the house since last week. Good luck Can't Believe!