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[JackieClaire]

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I was one of those that fell off the wagon again and again and again. Then I started posting daily on MWO.

The thing is do not give up on giving up. Now everyone one who had a drink over the last week remember this can be done with planning and sometimes just sitting on your hands and gritting your teeth until that horrible urge passes works.

If you're going out be the first to get a drink in your hand, not alcoholic anything soft so if anyone asks just say 'I'm good, thanks' and wave your favourite non-AL drink at them.

Don't think of forever at the moment just think of today. Do the fast forward thing and think how if I had a drink now how will I feel tomorrow. Plan one whole day ,hour by hour,from getting up in the morning to going to bed. Treat yourself to a glossy magazine or an easy to read book that doesn't take too much brain power. Anything to keep you from that first drink. Make sure that you always post before that urge starts not after. Make sure that you drop in daily even if it's just to say hello.

It can be done,believe you me I was one of those people who thought a long term abstainer was someone who could go without alcohol for 24 hours.

J x
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[FreeFly]

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Hi all,

THANK YOU - too much of a bad head to reply properly. Just want to say I'm listening. I'm not going to "try" anymore - that's too lame (trying that is). I'm just going to do this. Me and booze don't mix - it's a fact. I will come back soon and reread when my head doesn't hurt! I know I can find MWO too. Weirdly I think it's getting easier - I can feel something shifting and my AF days have been great. Since being here they are more than AL days but I don't want anymore of those - today's a write off and it's such a waste. No more beat up though. See you day 2

[windy]

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Hi Can't Believe,

I can't believe I am just seeing this. You HAVE to come back to the Nest! You are part of the Nest and it would not be the same without you. I know you have already pulled up your twig, but I wanted to lend my support.

This battle is fought with many false starts and it takes time. Sometime it seems impossible, but each and every day you are taking a few steps forward and learning with every step you take. That's what will make you successful in your final attempt. You keep coming back and that says you have some skin in the game. Don't ever feel you have to feel bad because you have slipped up a bit...Just keep trying. You will get there as long as you keep adding to your plan and learning from your mistakes.

See you in The NEST.

[BlondeAFAmbition]

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Good Mornin' all! Just lost the post I started, arghhhh! Why does that happen!

Anyway, waking up to a lovely day 13 here...almost 2 weeks as of tomorrow! I am feeling stronger
with each passing day in my resolve not to drink and not to attempt at modding. This time feels different. Previous times I have tried to quit, I have always thought of myself being able to drink in the future...those "special" occasions glamourously celebrated with wine. Well, I now know that is bullshit. It is not glamourous. It is ugly and sad and downright pathetic. And that is what I will be coming back to if I succumb to the false hope of modding. I speak for myself here but that is my reality and so be it. Time to get on with life and AL will not be in it.

Hi Everyone ! Had to get that off my chest! How are we all doing today? Can'tBelieve: Will look forward to seeing you back in action. Sounds like you are taking it easy today. Be well and take care of yourself. We all care about you.

Hi Windy! You are so right about false starts...Lordy knows I've had my share. I hope they are done and this is it. The feeling of 2 weeks sober is so much better than a night of caving in and waking up feeling like crapola for the day, only to start it all over again.

I am feeling much more clear headed these days. Like many of you say, the "fog" lifts after a while and I think it is finally blowing out of the foggy harbor that my mind was in for a long time.

Hi to everyone in the nest this morning. Make sure you are strapped in with plenty of butt velcro!

WHERE DOES OUR MONEY GO WITH AL? You know how we talk about how much money we have blown on AL in the past? I averaged about 50-60 dollars a week, sometimes more. Because I was buying wine almost EVERY day, the weekly figure didn't hit me but when you think about it, that is thousands of dollars a year! So, last night, after posting on here, I decided to take advantage of a weekend sale at my favorite retailer, L.L. Bean. I need a new pair of snow boots and warm winter jacket in the worst way since I commute to work "on foot"...about a 20 minute walk each way, and haven't invested in good boots or cozy jacket in years. So I made my selections and proceeded to check out. The order total came up on the screen and I felt a pang of guilt on what I was spending...granted I was getting free shipping, 10% off and a 10 dollar gift card since my order exceeded 50 bucks. Then it occurred to me...the order total was about the same amount of money as what I would have flushed down the toilet 13 days ago on wine...and I wouldn't have flinched at that. So I pressed the "Place Order" button and shall have my new garments in a few days, ready for the upcoming "wintah". So instead of wasting money on wine that would have only given me remorse, I invested in some new practical items that will serve me well for years to come. Take a peek at my new jacket...doesn't it look cozy? I got the blue as pictured:
Bean's Warm and Light Jacket: Jackets and Coats | Free Shipping at L.L.Bean

Well, have a super day all! Stay strong!

[MtnMomma]

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Good Morning!

I had a slip last night, too. I don't feel bad but it was a "cheat day" for my diet and hubby suggested 2 glasses of wine. It was good but boy did it go straight to my head. So, I know I can't drink, even white wine. That's okay. wow. Anyway, I'm back to Day 1 and moving forward. Have a great AF day, ALL!!!

[BlondeAFAmbition]

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Hi everyone! Sounds like even with some members having drinks over the weekend, you have drank less and more in control than you would have before, which is still progress and should be noted as such. We learn each day with our ups and downs and that is what is important. Here's to progress!

Looking forward to my 2 week mark tomorrow!

[Guitarista]

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CB.

You're a star.

[FreeFly]

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Phew - headache cleared. What a pointless futile exercise last night was!

Windy - that's so sweet, thank you. I have pulled up my twig and stuck extra velcro on my butt - the nest is awesome and I really don't want to leave it.

Aaaw - thanks G!

MtnM - Day 1 with me then - sounds like you were much more restrained than me though last night. Well done!

Blondie - awesome - 2 weeks tomorrow. Will be there giving you a big cheer. BTW just been in the nest and your LLBean promotion panic made me chuckle! It sooo didn't come across that way but funny reading your post thinking it had :H

So will see you all over in the nest from now on :l

[hadit]

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Hi Everyone, Thanks for your posts and wise advice. I to fell off the wagon a little at the w/e.Like Cant Believe and others, I have been to damned dissappointed and ashamed to post and been thinking well, what the hell can I offer anyone else struggling! I have been reading lots of posts and your advice has got my ass back into gear. So thanks so much again guys////////// u really have got me up and running again!! :thanks::thanks:

[hadit]

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Have been reading the Jason Vale book, just started so a bit early to say whether it helps. He does raise some interesting points though.

[FreeFly]

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boozer;1208461 wrote: Like Cant Believe and others, I have been to damned dissappointed and ashamed to post and been thinking well, what the hell can I offer anyone else struggling!

Hey Boozer

Well you've helped me before and your post has helped me again. :thanks:

I feel really motivated again, thanks to all here, and like you, have picked up Jason Vale again. Funny because I'd read about 100 pages and stopped - I think it was because I won't read it in coffee shops - title and all! - so got lost in other books. Back on it!

[available]

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Boozer i felt the same as you about how cld i post anything when i slipped and thought back to what i had written. but better to admit and move on i think and bless WANT she was on here destroying herself without anyone else helping lol. so i thought it takes courage to admit our mistakes and god what can our cyber pals do. SUPPORT us that is what.

[Audrey14]

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Hello all guys and girls!!

I'm back on forum..was emabrassed too..On my Day 1..Didn' t sleep for 2 nights after a binge drinking of 5 days..I moved to Australia and live together with my partner who i met on this site..He understands me better as "non-alchoholic' person but in the same time influences my drinking too because he likes AL..He drinks but can control..I can' t . I'm drinking here and i even don' t know how much..When i was drinking and living with my daughter in Latvia i tried to control, had 5-6 days AF, in spring (mine spring) achieved 14 AF days..
Now i feel very desparate, lonely and AL really doesn' t help for my socializing (i'm just too embarassed).
I'm sorry - i'm in a very depressive mood.

[available]

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hi Audrey how is it going, hope things are going well. AL never helps for socialising but we are ingrained to drink and the addictive personality is not a help either.

[Guitarista]

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available;1210222 wrote: hi Audrey how is it going, hope things are going well. AL never helps for socialising but we are ingrained to drink and the addictive personality is not a help either.

And it is a fact that we can turn this around and develop healthier habits and routines. It just takes some consistent alcohol free time, a plan, some guts, and some daily application.
I have been a bit lazy in the 'application' process myself recently. But i have identified that, and am taking steps to apply myself to the task at hand daily, and to do whatever it takes.

How are you going Audrey?

Hope all's well CB!