After I made 30 days earlier in the year, I slowly let my guard down and ended up wasting another 5 months drinking before I succeeded again - ?.I didn?t ?consciously? decide to moderate ? but by the end of the 5 months with a box of wine under my bed and a vodka bottle in my closet, I knew I wasn?t succeeding! I went on a wonderful vacation and decided that since I never sleep well the night before I travel, I may as well drink the night before?..I was so sick and hungover I was afraid to look the flight attendant in the eye. It was a nightmare?and so were the first couple of days of the vacation with limited alcohol. This was AFTER I enjoyed the euphoria of being alcohol free for over 30 days and knowing how great my life was.
I wonder- back when I was first thinking that I could have that one glass of wine at a shower (after my 30 days) if I had read a bunch of actual experiences of the regret that people feel about taking that first drink after a period of abstinence ? and how hard it is to quit again ? if it would have made a difference. I?m not sure ? I mean I was aware ? but the key to me is repeatedly reading things ? so maybe.
So in an effort to help anyone who is at that point ? thinking ?I did my 30 days and now I?ll re-evaluate?.I think I can drink socially and keep it under control? ? or even those that have enjoyed abstinence for longer periods and decide that they may be able to moderate - or the ones that experience a stressful event that drives them back?..I thought that if we shared stories of what happened when we were in similar situations and grouped them all together ? it might help. Also if I ever get the crazy notion again that I could ever drink normally, I could look to a place and be reminded what road I am contemplating going down.
So, while I don?t live with a huge bunch of regret, I do know that after drinking for most of my son?s childhood years I finally was able to make the change last spring. I stopped drinking. And when I started again, I wasted the spring and summer of him being 13 years old?.and we?ll never get that back. That glass of wine at the shower ? to fit in ? was so not worth it.
~lola
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