I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

[Nelz]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

slowly sinking;1213193 wrote: Thanks Space...how are doing now? Are you AL free yet? I'm hoping you were able to repair your relationships. One of the hardest things is that my son has a form of Autism and for my husband to involve him at all in this is unforgiveable!
When we were first together, I was a drinker...problems in the marriage started bringing the angry drinker out in me and and things got worse and worse and I drank more and more...not that I didn't drink before we were together..it just got really bad..I just wish he would have at least tried to help instead of walking away..guess that says it all..I'm in therapy, I begged him to go-of course he said no... SO...moving on...starting over..and the best thing is to get sober and healthy for me and my son...
I really hope you're doing ok...thanks so much for writing....love and hugs..SS

Well, we have more in common than we thought.....I agree that its terrible using the kids at any point for anything...reprehensible.

[slowly sinking]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

Thanks Nelz...hey, what's up with the fertilizer?

[Nelz]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

slowly sinking;1213292 wrote: Thanks Nelz...hey, what's up with the fertilizer?

LoLz, Im rained out at work, Im trying to entertain myself :H

[slowly sinking]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

Gotcha! Hey, first day on Topa...no AL cravings at all...maybe it's in my head? Hope not..this is great! Have a great day..it's pouring here too in PA..

[mama bear]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

YAY!!!!!

[sunshinedaisies]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

Hey Slowy - it is raining here in Illinois too - and I am on Topa as well - you should come and join in the "New Here and Starting Topa with a Question" - it is on the meds forum - sometimes it is VERY quiet and I haven't been very good at taking mine - I need to remember to take my 2nd dose - Bad Me. It did stop me for 8 months last year then I stopped taking it. But both the Journey thread and the one above are good threads (of course I am - ahem - just a tad biased !! LOL

Hugs, sun X

[slowly sinking]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

Thanks Sun...I'll check it out..even though it's a cold and rainy day here, Im feeling all warm and cozy with all the support you guys are already giving me..Thanks so much. I just gave a copy of the My Way Out book to my therapist, who is an alcoholic-20 years sober. She was very excited to read it.the help from you all, her and anyone I can get is what I need... I have alot of challenges right now..my husband is an alcoholic...my best friend is...and I'm spending Thanksgiving at the home of someone who tries to shove alcohol down your throat the second you walk through the door...Give me strength!!
Hugs right back, SS xx

[slowly sinking]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

Thanks Molly, This is a neighbor friend who is feeling sorry for me cause my husband left me...I don't have any family so it's just me and my son...it's sad..my hubby left last Tuesday and my son hasn't even asked about him. Anyway, this neighbor is the type that asked me to lunch, told me the place was a BYOB. I told her that I was "dieting" and wasn't drinking so she said she would wait to do lunch until I was drinking again...she won't go out with me unless I drink!! Her husband gets so drunk he can't walk and passes out...yep, it's gonna be a rough one. I'm just gonna have to tell her what I'm doing..I've got no choice. It was nice of her to take us in at Thanksgiving though..my other choice is to go to my best friend's house..but she and her husband are both alcoholics...very happy one's at that..or just stay at home..which might be the best idea!
Thanks for caring...I hope you don't have these types of challenges facing you and you have a good support system! SS

[slowly sinking]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

That's amazing that you have that kind of support...my hubs way was to take his cooler into the other room to not drink in front of me or take all his beer up to bed. It was so nice to go up and see empty beer bottles on the night stand every night or to have him roll over and blow beer breath on me! Why am I sad again? I forget?
You take care too and I really admire you for what you've accomoplished..I hope to be there soon...
fondly,SS

[sunshinedaisies]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

Are you in the USA Slowly? I am amazed that your hubs could say to your son that you had a problem, yet he took his cooler everywhere with him...... I totally understand the associating with others who drink - it is hard when we stop - they don't understand it. Hubs and I used to go out every thursday to a bar after I finished work - he was off and I finished at 3.30 and we would go and have a pitcher of Guinness between us. When I stopped drinking, it just wasn't the same...... and we stopped going. That was 'our' time as we both work shifts and see hardly anything of each other. I have no suggestions re Thanksgiving - that is a toughie. Can you just have a couple then stop? or is that asking the wrong question? Sorry if I am out of line. Don't mean to be. It is just that is a hard day to be alone. Although you always could be - set it up as a fun day for you and your son..... get movies - do a special meal - make it a fun time and a special time for the two of you? just a thought......

hugs, sun XX

[slowly sinking]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

Well Molly, sounds like you are really determined this time..so there won't be a "next time"...it didn't take much for my hubby to walk out..he hasn't even called to check on his stepson-I think he's kind of a coward...hang in there and stay strong...it's 6pm here and I have no desire for a drink! That's amazing to me...baby steps here..I hope you're having a good night there and a better tomorow..I'm gonna try to be kind to myself..something I hardly ever do.. you should do that too.I hear my son laughing in the other room..music to my ears!...xx..SS

[slowly sinking]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

Hey Sun, yep, I'm in PA....ever heard the song "You Ain't Much Fun Since I Quit Drinkin'"?....boy that hits home...I'm thinking about Thanksgiving...I'll either just fess up to her, or I'll just carry around the same glass-or take my own non-alcoholic drink. My friend is the type who keeps filling your glass when you're not looking. Everyone I know who goes to one of her parties calls the next day and says"what the hell"? Thank goodness none of us drives ..it's just down the block...my friend tries to force her specialty drinks on you and gets visibly upset if you don't accept...she'll have to get over it...I think my best bet is just to come clean..what can she say to that?
I would actually prefer to stay home but she was gracious enough to invite us..i can tough it out and she's an amazing cook. My son and I can still get movies...he's off school until next Monday so we have lots of time. Thanks so much for the suggestions. You can never be out of line..I'm always open to ideas...xx..SS

[spacebebe01]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

Hi Slowy, if you tell your friend is she the type who will try to talk you out of it, you know by saying you havent really got a problem, youve earned a drink, look what youve had happen with the husband, its just this once, you just enjoy a little drink doesnt everyone, all that kind of thing I only ask because Ive had that said to me by old drinking buddys who are not being nasty they just want company while they drink and its not much fun getting drunk when your with someone whose staying sober. I worry about you because your so early in sobriety, your sons feelings are more important that anyone elses. You could always tell her asap, that way you will have a chance to see her reaction and if its not totaal full on support for you not drinking then I think you should give it a miss this time, its not worth the risk. Ask her to make some special none alcoholic drinks that you can all enjoy.

[JackieClaire]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

Hi SS,
Just wanted to drop by and offer my support.

I'm so sorry you're going through a rough time at the moment but just reading from the start of your thread until now you are already starting to sound more positive.

Make your sobriety your number one priority for you and your son.

If you have to tell your friend the truth about not drinking then so be it. She may open and close her mouth like a goldfish a good few times in surprise but that is not your problem.

If you want to tell some little white lies, go ahead. It's not hurting anyone and you're the going to be the winner the following day with a clear head and a wry smile.

You're spot on with the idea of taking you own non-alcoholic drink and make sure you clutch it as long as you're there. The other tactic is the arrive late, leave early. I'll be using that one on Saturday night at my brother's 50th birthday party as I think it's a big booze up with just nibbles and no proper food (How dare he).

And make sure you log in here before you go and when you come back. Just imagine you'll have the whole of MWO with you in spirit.

J x
:l

[slowly sinking]

I drink every day but I'm not an alcoholic??

I've been telling her in a round about way but not full on truth... I really have nothing to lose by being truthful. And yes, she is the type that says, "you don't have a problem"...all that stuff... She talks to me all the time about how she hates it when her husband gets so drunk..and I've seen her huusband hold her hair while she's puked at many parties. If she's uncomfortable, she'll get over it.If she's a friend, she'll support me...I have to break this viscious cycle and stop saying "after this holiday I'll start", or "next Monday",...today is day one SOBER...I'm going to call her tomorrow and I'll take my own drinks to her house...Thanks Sbb