JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD
My Life - I can relate to your post about spaghetti and water. It does get better, though. I felt deprived in a big way at meal time but now tea really does feel normal. I think I read once that when you're skiing, it takes a thousand repititons to undo a bad ski habit. Hopefully it's not that many with dinner drinks. In fact, I know it isn't because I've only had 52 - going on 53 and the tea now feels like my standard dinner drink!!
Audrey, I totally get what you're saying about the boyfriend - not easy to just pull the rug out from under our lives. I'm sure there are plenty of people who learn how to be AF even if their spouse drinks. It was hard for me, though, until my husband stopped drinking at home. It sounds like you're doing really well, though, and that you've thought through what will happen if you drink!
Jenny, I firmly believe that we have to learn to live through the pain/discomfort of cravings. We're always going to have triggers, and it's not easy at first. I think we just have to hold onto the knowledge that those who came before us promise that it gets easier. It's vastly changed for me in 53 days, and after reading Mohun's post, I know that three months, six months and then a year will be milestones with incremental leaps in feeling better and less attached to the idea of alcohol.
Broken Halo - have some plan in place for the weekend. They are definitely the toughest days because typically we associate them with partying. They're really just another day, but it takes some time to make the shift in thinking. Do anything besides drinking......sing, dance, take a shower, work out, go for a walk, write in a journal, read a book, go to a movie........you know the drill. Best of luck!
One really important thing that has worked for me is this: I firmly play out in my head how my IMMEDIATE response will be no to a drink offer. If I hesitate at all when put into the situation, that's when I falter.
R4L, Prairie, Freefly, K9, RC, Spuds, Pinecone, Dodo, and any others who stop by today, really hoping for us all that we'll be strong and have a wonderful, sane and AF weekend!:l
My Life - I can relate to your post about spaghetti and water. It does get better, though. I felt deprived in a big way at meal time but now tea really does feel normal. I think I read once that when you're skiing, it takes a thousand repititons to undo a bad ski habit. Hopefully it's not that many with dinner drinks. In fact, I know it isn't because I've only had 52 - going on 53 and the tea now feels like my standard dinner drink!!
Audrey, I totally get what you're saying about the boyfriend - not easy to just pull the rug out from under our lives. I'm sure there are plenty of people who learn how to be AF even if their spouse drinks. It was hard for me, though, until my husband stopped drinking at home. It sounds like you're doing really well, though, and that you've thought through what will happen if you drink!
Jenny, I firmly believe that we have to learn to live through the pain/discomfort of cravings. We're always going to have triggers, and it's not easy at first. I think we just have to hold onto the knowledge that those who came before us promise that it gets easier. It's vastly changed for me in 53 days, and after reading Mohun's post, I know that three months, six months and then a year will be milestones with incremental leaps in feeling better and less attached to the idea of alcohol.
Broken Halo - have some plan in place for the weekend. They are definitely the toughest days because typically we associate them with partying. They're really just another day, but it takes some time to make the shift in thinking. Do anything besides drinking......sing, dance, take a shower, work out, go for a walk, write in a journal, read a book, go to a movie........you know the drill. Best of luck!
One really important thing that has worked for me is this: I firmly play out in my head how my IMMEDIATE response will be no to a drink offer. If I hesitate at all when put into the situation, that's when I falter.
R4L, Prairie, Freefly, K9, RC, Spuds, Pinecone, Dodo, and any others who stop by today, really hoping for us all that we'll be strong and have a wonderful, sane and AF weekend!:l
Luckily he doesn't really drink. We used to drink together but once he saw it was becoming a problem for me and realized "just one" doesn't work he stopped. I'm so glad because I don't think I could do this if he was encouraging me to keep drinking in any way. He now has an occasional glass of something if we're out but nothing at home. Come to think of it he was pretty much always that way - I was the one drinking at home! LOL
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