JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

[broken halo]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Hi Jammers, good to see such positivity!

Unwasted, I am glad you got to be with your Dad, believe me, it will be a comfort to you in times to come. Thinking of you and :l

Struggled a bit today, but made it. Off to have an early night, but I should be around over the weekend.

Too many wonderful people here to mentio by name, but you are all awesome, and thank you all for helping. This place really is the business! :l:thanks:

[Hypernova]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Unwasted;1242663 wrote: Good Morning Jammers,

Just a quick check in from me to say I'm still AF, and handling my dad's passing in a very good way now. He's close to the end and yesterday I handled several important things - still quite a bit to come, but I'm hanging in. Day 58 for me - so happy I haven't resorted to alcohol to cope. I say this to give you guys incentive - you can do it!!

Jenny, I love your progress chart. I think it's helping us stay on track.
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Hey UW, let me say I am sorry to hear of your dad's death.
You are being both courageous and smart not resorting to AL.
I salute you! Incentive it is, thanks.

A 'few' years back when I was in my twenties my younger brother died from an ongoing illness. He died in the house and one of the responding officers said to me "if you have any booze in the house I would suggest you all have a drink." Well I had several and over the next week probably drank a quart of whiskey a day. So fast forward to today and if I could have a re-do I would say no to AL. Oh well I'll deal w/today.
~~You are right about Jenny and the chart. I was out of town for two days at a place where booze is second only to gambling and did not drink. Can't tell you how many times I thought of my name on that chart and was edified not to drink!! I said Jenny out loud (quietly) and in my head many times. I too love the chart and believe it saved me over the last two days, thank you Jenny...
Good on all the Jammers slugging it out.
Thanks and best to everyone.
Congrats on the 60 day mark UW hope to follow in your footsteps.

[Unwasted]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Broken Halo, I've been wondering about you - so glad you're maintaining!

Hyper, that must have been really tough going through the death of your 20 year old brother. It's one thing for someone who's lived a long, healthy life to die at 90 - quite another for someone's life to be taken so young. I cannot even imagine the pain involved in that. And here you are, years later, dealing with the very thing you thought would save you at the time - alcohol. Well, I'm so glad you didn't cave. The chart and accountability here make such a difference for me too. The ironic thing is that our wonderful Jenn who made it thinks she's going to drink tonight. She posted that on another thread. I tried to offer some advice, but you know..........she has to want it. I guess she forgot to look at the chart. Jenny, I really hope you read Hyper's post before you take the plunge.

My Life - you posted such a great thread earlier about how you really think this is your time to stay sober. I wish it for you!

K9, Freefly, CG, Irie, RC, Vini, Belle, Pinecone, Lola - you guys sound great....Keep up the good work. Dodo and Tina, hope you're still checking in!

Hope everyone has a wonderful, sane and sober Friday evening - just think about how fantastic we're going to feel tomorrow.:l:l

[Jolie]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

UW - thinking of you during this sad time. I think you being with him at the end must have made his passing easier. I lost my dad 2 years ago and he had been in ill health for a couple of years before that. Hard to see them that way. Now when I think of him it's of the times when he was well and we were all together at family gatherings. Heres hoping time will heal your sadness and happy memories will take over.

I like how you said Friday and Saturday were just days of the week - how true! They are just days of the week and much better spent sober then in the fog of wine.

To anyone else who is struggling because it's Friday night - hang on to one of the branches here - you will find they are very, very strong and all the other little birdies here will be sure to keep you company.

Happy sober Friday night everyone!

[jennyneric]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Hypernova;1244177 wrote: ~~You are right about Jenny and the chart. I was out of town for two days at a place where booze is second only to gambling and did not drink. Can't tell you how many times I thought of my name on that chart and was edified not to drink!! I said Jenny out loud (quietly) and in my head many times. I too love the chart and believe it saved me over the last two days, thank you Jenny...

Wow Hypernova, how powerful...I didn't stop at the store on the way home and I am so hungry but hubby took the car for a minute so shower and a snack and on to do something...I will keep you post in my mind and my 13 beads on my string and I will say I will do the best I can. Thank you Hypernova for being here and thinking of me.

[Unwasted]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Jolie, thank you......it is hard but so much better that he went without having a lengthy bad time of it. Sorry about your dad - sounds like he had a struggle. My mom did too, ugh! Life is NOT neat........very messy isn't it!

Jenny, YAY, I'm so glad you got to read Hyper's post. Stay strong! You owe it to yourself to get a huge chunk of AF time so you can know what it's like!

[Hypernova]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

"You always succeed if you never stop trying." ~~ There is power in words and thoughts. Choose them wisely. You are climbing the hill to a better place. Be strong Jenny and don't let your thoughts or especially other peoples' thoughts change what you think and know. Do this for yourself. ~~~ Life is listed in the finite, no time to waste. Stay AF.
~~ Best to you and everyone here for a peaceful weekend.~~

[BelleGirl]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

I lost it tonight. Two many factors beyond H A L T. I am ashamed and embarrassed because I talked with my brother on the phone who suspected my state, but I lied. I was and am feeling overwhelmed. I am not a young woman, but i have young kids. Things happen...drive me over the edge...tonite I was not strong enough to resist. God help me tomorrow. Please...:upset:

[Hypernova]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

BelleGirl ~~ Don't be down on yourself. Be kind and forgive. Life can be very brutal on us at times but AL offers only short term relief if you want to call it that and long term pain. Please forgive yourself and start Day 1 tomorrow. Don't worry about what others think and take care of you. If you don't take care of yourself you are not going to be of much use to those you love like your young children. This is not easy but it is doable if you want it bad enough. Sounds like you may want it so what are you waiting for? Go for it!!
~~ Take care and remember you are human and we all make mistakes.

[Irie]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Belle... Embarrassment and shame have no place here. No one is making you quit drinking. It's a decision that you've made and you are trying as hard as you can. Just come right back tomorrow and tonight will only be a little detour on your eventual path away from alcohol. I'm proud of the effort you've made so far. Meet you right back here tomorrow to get on with the business of getting sober once and for all. What do you say?

[scottish lass]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Evening all - UnWasted, so glad you were able to be with your father. Death is an amazing experience, and life changing, just as birth is. I am glad you managed to survive the experience AF, that is a lesson to us all.
Yesterday I did not manage to check in, and today I am struggling - so many thoughts of AL - I would not say cravings, but definitely thoughts. I went looking for verjus and ended up in the AL aisle looking - had the same thoughts as you Vini, am alone and noone would ever know. Luckily I am managing so far, sorry you slipped Belle, I will learn from you! And you will learn from yourself too!
So hanging on by a thread, and so looking forward to waking up safe tomorrow morning. So glad that I checked in tonight, I am feeling a little stronger.
Be strong Jenny, we can do this!

[BelleGirl]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Hyper, Irie and SL, thanks for the kind words. Irie I am so sorry for dropping the ball on "our" quit. Yes I will be back tomorrow...well that is now TODAY and hopefully stronger from my lesson learned. Looking at the bright side...I am not worried about this weekend anymore, because I sure as hell will not be drinking!

[FreeFly]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Hi Belle
Don't be hard on yourself. One thing I am learning with all my false starts is to not be hard on my myself. Hypnos definitely helped with that. Last time I just brushed myself off and got right back to it - no beat up. Enjoy your sober Saturday :l

[mylife]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Morning all!

Belle - hang in there. Many of us have been where you are. Each start is a new chance to grow and learn. :l

Jenny - sorry I didn't get to check in last night - I'm glad you read and checked in! Your list keeps a lot of us going - let's keep up the momentum!

I also had a hard time last night - I was just tired and edgy and would have given a lot for a glass and a bottle (lol) of wine. But I went to bed early and sober and today I'm grateful to be sober.

Scottish - I agree coming here and reading is really important in these early days.

Hope everyone has a fantastic AF Saturday! I'm so happy Friday is over!!

[available]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

UW so sorry to hear about your dad passing. my thoughts are with you and your family. be proud you did it AF.