JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

[canadian gal]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Broken Halo- it will get easier believe me. In the beginning you are thinking of all maybe everyday (maybe multiple times), a week will go by and you'll think of it every other day, another week will go by and maybe its only every 3rd day. And so on and so on. Last year I made it to 4 months and I didn't think of drinking at all. I went back to Canada and my best friend had her bachelorette party where everyone was drinking, but me....so I joined in because I was happy to be home and amongst all my best girl friends. Had I not returned home, I know that I would be 8 months sober now. IT DOES GET EASIER. Believe me on that!

[stella123]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

mmmm been posting replys and cant see them I wonder why??

[mylife]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Good morning Januaries!

I went for a long walk this morning and enjoyed a beautiful day with no hangover. It feels so great, I hope I can keep at this forever.

For everyone struggling - I think ALL of us can say we completely understand. It really is a day by day thing for me! We just need to hang in there one day at a time and eventually we will get there!

CG - thanks for the reminder that the thoughts get fewer and fewer. A HUGE part of this battle is getting over the mental desire to drink. And good luck with the 13 year olds!

Wishing everyone a wonderful AF Sunday.

[BelleGirl]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Irie...it's OK. I did something similar Friday night and also woke up at 3am and posted. I totally understand what you are going through. I have done more than my share of embarrassing myself at family gatherings. They are a HUGE trigger for me. Just get back up, dust yourself off and get back on that horse...it is only a bad thing if it continues.

I was pretty much where you were yesterday, feeling awful about myself and ashamed. In my case I had a drunken phone call with my brother (could have been worse, I could have called other people). He asked if I had been drinking and i lied. Yesterday I emailed an apology to him and spoke with him on the phone also. This is the first time I have actually apologized for my drunken behavior on my own (my husband has made me do it in the past). It was very healing for the soul, and he was very kind and forgiving. I am coming out of that experience feeling stronger and empowered.

So I came back to square 1 yesterday. This morning I woke up HF and went for a run in the cold sunshine. Please hop back in and let's do this together.

[mylife]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Irie and Belle - :l I think we have all woken up and thought what happened last night at one point or another in this journey.

Just jump right back on the wagon - it is only a bump in the road along the way. :h

[BelleGirl]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Unwasted...Happy 60 Days!!! I'm doing the Happy Dance for you!
:dancin:

[RingingCedars]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Still kicking it here gals and guys(do we have any January guys?)
For those who have fallen, I'm reminded of this axom:
Don't forget the valleys when on top of the mountain
and remember the mountains when in the valley.
something like that...
basically do not get too confident or wallow in the muck
oh I don't know....get back on the horse and ride!
UW big congrats for over 60!

[available]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

BG i can relate to the phone calls i did that friday night, god cant even remember speaking to my mother. she asked me why i was so drunk, i said stress. its starting to get embarrassing again so now up to day 2 and feeling pretty good. spoke to a guy i had a date with and even remembered what i said last night. why he didnt run last week is a complete suprise but he must see something good in me though he doesnt know i am a drunk. well have a great day all xxx

[caper564]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Unwasted;1244997 wrote: Caper, I added your start date to the list - let me know if you don't want it on there for any reason.

HI UW, yes thats great thanks. i am more than happy to share my start date ,..... but its Jan 04, 2012

caper

[Unwasted]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Clare, welcome. Post often - lots of support here.

CG - hope your weekend with the teenagers is about over. I so don't envy your having to do that.....still can't believe that anyone would just hoist that on you.......amazing

Stella - not sure about your posts. I can see one.

ML - mental battle is right. We gotta switch from deprivation to gratitude. I think it will come - I'm definitely having glimmers of that. In fact I feel that way most of the time now. Just have to keep remembering the bad and never ever say just one.

Belle, I'm glad your brother was understanding. That helps a lot, doesn't it! And, thanks for the dancing whatever they are LOL.

RC - good sentiment. .............I don't think there are any guys on this thread to answer your question.

Available, just curious if you get further down the road with your guy how you plan to handle the alcohol issue? Hope it goes well.

Off to do stuff ............made a lentil soup with garam masala today - lots of great spices. Smells yummy - haven't had it yet..........from epicurious.com which is a fantastic food website if any of you are into cooking. And, speaking of food..........here is my humor for the day...........hope it gives you guys a little laugh:



Stay strong everyone.............

[available]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

lol loved your humour UW. well i am sure that if it happens with this guy then i will have to tell him the truth. There is no point in being ashamed but at this stage i am just going day by day. i am worrying about dinner and wine etc next weekend but lemon lime and bitters is nice and the excuse i have to drive is also good. he is a very gentle soul and isnt a drinker from what i can tell but u wld not think i am one either.

headaches happening today and now feeling hungover but loving all of your posts and getting the positive vibes.

great day to all. I'm looking forward to sorting out office issues without panicking and shaking.

[scottish lass]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Busy day on the just starting out threads, had to pick one to post on so chose the jammers.
I have so much going on in my life just now, and have psoted about it in a few posts over the almost year I have been here, so won't bore everyone again.
I am Scottish, living in California and my parents, brother etc live in England now - so I am far away from the family I grew up with. It has been hard fighting my battles in 2011 without my family and really hard to tell them what is going on, the phone just is not a good method for big news, so i decided to write a long letter to catch my parents up, in that letter I have admitted that I have given up AL because I was drinking too much and have a problem. They are both big, daily drinkers and always have been (Scottish way of life), so not sure how they will take the news - but it feels good to have let them know. My first real attempts to stop drinking were stymied when I went home for three weeks in summer, and drank to my hearts content - or malcontent. This sharing is a huge step, now I wait to see how my news is recieved (sent by email, not snail mail...). I have managed to tell a good friend, and am slowly letting people know. I did not plan to share, was happy sharing here, but this is creeping up - i think it is probably a way to further commit...(PS - amazing how a very close to 50 year old still needs her parents approval - but that is a whole other story!)
I am still feeling as if I am taking a ton from MWO, and so look forward to teh day when it is not all about me, and I can be a bigger support to all here. Thank you for putting up with me, you are lifesavers....

well done Belle, and hang on Irie - it took me a good few false starts before I got a good handle on it - and as others including MWOL points out in the nest- it will really never be over. Well done ML - you are swinging along really well. Welcome new jammers - teh more the merrier. Happy Sunday and heres to a great, clear headed Monday!

[BelleGirl]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Just stopping by to say good nite to the Jammers (and g'day, good morning, where appropriate). No drinks here today. After dinner hubby said...we should have had wine with this dinner. Me: no response. He works so much that he does not threaten wine during the week. And heck, he can drink wine himself on the weekend if he wants. After my last slip on Friday, I don't know what I ever saw in alcohol (sounds like I'm talking about an ex-boyfriend).:H Yes, I am sure I will want it again, but I am finding the first thing to do in an emergency is to come here. I did not do that Friday night, and that would have made all the difference.

[BelleGirl]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

Aaaack. Did not mean to end my post there... SL, good job telling your family what is going on. That is very brave, even for an almost 50 yr old woman. I'm just a bit past 50, and would still have problems telling my parents some things. You are right, that telling people gives you more accountability. I'm not there yet, but hope to be someday.

Avail...again, great to see you back on board. Stay with us and you can do it.

[available]

JAMMIN JANUARY KICKOFF FOR A SOBER 2012 - NEWBIE SUPPORT THREAD

SL i love your chats and how you feel and you sounding so positive, it makes me think i can do it. i could rant on here all day but i do have work to do i find the 4ish onwards mark is the worst time as nearly hometime and then wine time till i pass out. lots of habit changing in the witching hour.

BG we are on the same day starting just different time zone so today is my day 2. Im 47 and still cant remember speaking to my mum on friday night, how sad is that. she worries constantly about me just as i do really.