Forgetting our past failures

[mario]

Living today "you never do anything right"
Some of us carry this accusation deep in our minds, Perhaps from childhood. We remember past mistakes & failures, Sometimes dredging them up again when new failures occur. When we do this, we unduly burden ourselves with a past that should be released & forgotten. The result of past mistakes was a feeling of inadequacy and helplessness that prolonged our sickness. In those troubled days, we were trying to solve our problems in ways that actually made the problems worse, on that path, there was no hope of a real solution.
Today our failure & mistakes are but signs that we are still human and still fall short of perfection, but now we can use failure to good advantage and even learn from it, Our best progress will come when we separate ourselves from the mistakes and failures of the past.Go for it everyone , Beating this monster can be done,Whether your a newbie or not, keep posting your thoughts and feelings as we all started here in the same boat and lots of us are still on board to give a helping hand :welcome:

[broken halo]

Forgetting our past failures

Mario, thanks for this. The thoughts in head today are all about regrets and failure. You have given me food for thought. Happy New Year, I am going to make sure this is a better one!

[Struggles 106]

Forgetting our past failures

Thanks Mario

Great post today. We can't change the past, but we can change the habit of dwelling on it
and beating ourselves up over it.
After 3 months I'm just realizing that dealing with life minute by minute, without inebriation
is very interesting. There's no drinking at the end of the day to look forward to, then regret
when things go terribly wrong. Your time becomes your own to accomplish all the things that were put off or ignored.
As I've mentoned my daughter is in the Navy, and now wants her birth certificate. I thought I had it, but the search has brought up all sorts of emotions. Old journals with writings of trying
desperately to quit drinking, her "baby book", all sorts of things from the past.
I suppose the notion that aging=wisdom is true, or it can be if you open your eyes wide.
One day at a time I will do the best I can. And that's enough.

[twitt]

Forgetting our past failures

mario;1237197 wrote: Living today "you never do anything right"
Some of us carry this accusation deep in our minds, Perhaps from childhood. We remember past mistakes & failures, Sometimes dredging them up again when new failures occur. When we do this, we unduly burden ourselves with a past that should be released & forgotten. The result of past mistakes was a feeling of inadequacy and helplessness that prolonged our sickness. In those troubled days, we were trying to solve our problems in ways that actually made the problems worse, on that path, there was no hope of a real solution.
Today our failure & mistakes are but signs that we are still human and still fall short of perfection, but now we can use failure to good advantage and even learn from it, Our best progress will come when we separate ourselves from the mistakes and failures of the past.Go for it everyone , Beating this monster can be done,Whether your a newbie or not, keep posting your thoughts and feelings as we all started here in the same boat and lots of us are still on board to give a helping hand :welcome:

thankyou Mario, it seemed liked you know exactly what i am thinking. I to was thinking about past mistakes and failures and being called stupid and lazy by my father when i was a kid. I know i have to let go, thanks again for the great read

[Hypernova]

Forgetting our past failures

Good words Mario & Twitt ~~ Mario your post brought a smile to my face, thank you. Twitt yours rang true as my father also made me feel dumb and incapable. I guess I still carry it around and maybe it is time to set the load down. AL has always had a way of covering up things and not letting me work through the crap. Time for peace within. Thanks guys, Happy New Year.

[spuddleduck]

Forgetting our past failures

thanks mario. i think that is so true for a lot of us here. hiding feelings with al and continuing the cycle of failure feelings

[mauritiusdodo]

Forgetting our past failures

thanks Mario, wise words as always Ann21 thank you also, I am hoping that being AL free will allow me to accomplish things I have put on the back burner and finally be successful

[Prairie Fairy]

Forgetting our past failures

Thank you for this Mario - much appreciated.

[Today]

Forgetting our past failures

Well said Mario and by others on this thread. We do need to remember not to dwell on our feelings of failure. I definitely needed to hear that and will use your wise words to inspire me today. Start making better decisions, and trying should never be a failure.

Good luck for an AF day everyone!