What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

[Nursie]

I don't like my emotions being so raw. Before, I was either drunk or nursing a hangover so I didn't have time for my real feelings. Now I feel everything, and I overpersonalize everything. Everything at work is about me, or I should be able to fix it. If I do something wrong I try to do ten things to prove I am worthy.

I hate that.

I hate that I am craving foods that are bad for me.

I don't like that I have my sober life planned out in one minute but it can change in a heartbeat if I take one drink.

I don't like that people look down on me now, NOW that they know I quit. But was ok when I was drunk, blacked out, fighting with full grown men, breaking pool sticks, wrecking cars, flashing bartenders, taking home whom ever I felt like, and drinking wine every single day. That was ok?

I don't like being constipated lol.

I don't like cravings.

I don't like the bitch who brings around the wine for samples at the Olive Garden. I'm not going there anymore because of that until I am stronger.

I DO like that these are all temporary, but it felt good to get that off my chest!

[red67]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

You're going to be just fine. Just rant away. It' s better to rant and get over it than to drink. I am 10 months sober and people still don't get why i don't drink anymore. My boss today said he couldn't believe i don't drink. I work for a construction company and EVERYBODY drinks to excess. They keep beer and other liquor in the fridge and drink at the end of the day. Used to really bother me but not anymore.

Keep up the good word and you will feel better.

[Wally22]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

Nursie I absolutely love your rant!!!! Love it, love it, love it.

[stella123]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

Nursie what a great rant!!! I identity with that so much brilliant please keep em coming rant has helped me face this morning x

[Steady Hands]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

Nursie -Interesting thread!

You just confirmed my theory that the hangover serves just as big a purpose as the numbing of drinking! I was too busy with my thick head to be anxious, but since quitting I am way less anxious!

I don’t like feeling overwhelmed when I have a big job to complete. I usually began by calming down with the first glass of wine and then work at a steady pace till it was done. Now I tend to be a bit useless and then get less done, but I am still adapting – like you say, temporary!

I don’t like that I gained weight…But that is changing too!

And the eye opener with family and friends who preferred the drunken version of me… Don’t like it. It hurts!! BUT VERY NECESSARY!!

[mario]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

Good rant and post, It does seem initially that all the socalled good things in life are so bad for you ;-)

[Panno]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

:H:H:H Great post & rant, I identify, but what is the Olive Garden !

[Nursie]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

The Garden is a chain restaurant in the US.
I hope nobody thinks I'm being too negative, I use humor quite often to get through tight spots.
So I may rant here now and then... But let me clarify that quitting drinking has been the single best thing I have done for myself in my adulthood.
Ok, disclaimer over!

[caper564]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

hey Nursie,
yes yes and YES... ok here goes mine

- I hate that i feel like i can't go to a restaurant for dinner because i wil be thinking about NOT being able to order a drink.
- I hate that my inlaws done't come over anymore or stay for long when they do because they are big drinkers and we were drinking buddies, it made us close. I have no family of my own so they are it.
- i thought i hated diarrhea but like nursie i hate being constipated as well. why is it always one extreme or the other.
- hate that i now drink gallions of coffee..
- hate that i have cravings for cookies and chips and crap..
- hate that i will never be able to have a glass of wine again ever..

ok next thread is what i LOVE about not drinking... LOL

caper

[MWOLady]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

I hate that when you go to a restaurant for dinner when they ask if you'd like anything to drink they always mean alcohol. They NEVER suggest a non-alcoholic drink - you always have to ask....what about offering something!!!!! And how about having something creative for a change?? They just stand there like dopes...nothing, nada, zilch!! When I was a little girl they used to offer kids a "Shirley Temple" too cute. But why can't they make up some nice stuff for people to drink now....I know why - because EVERYBODY drinks alcohol because it's so COOL.....

I hate that when you go to a party there is nothing laid out by the hostess these days except bottle after bottle of wine - usually not even hard liquor...they will have bottled water -well, whoo boy - let 'er rip with that eh!!!! what's up with that?? - I'll tell you: lots and lots and lots of advertising - you know all those cool shots of scenery - California vineyards and beautiful couples clinking glasses on the piazza overlooking the valley at dusk? Sometimes you'll get a fancy cocktail which will give you a hangover from hell, but they don't translate very well into non-alcoholic potions - cranberry juice - pleeeeessseee!!!!

I hate when I was trying to moderate last year, my host (he's such a jerk!) would push wine on me like he was pushing dope on sale!! push, push, push - oh, come on just have a little - this one is really good!!!! I felt like pushing his fat nose into his pea brain.....of course I got really smashed that night because I didn't know then how to say NO, you jerk I don't want any more!!

I hate it when you're the only one in a group who doesn't drink and everyone knows this yet every time you get together, they say "oh, yeah, that's right X doesn't drink..." Asssshoooooles"!!!!!!!!!! Like what, I have a sign on my forehead that says "this little wimp doesn't drink, remember????

Ok, that's my rant (for today at least :H)

[caper564]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

hahaha MWO... i am with you .. and agree with all.. and the AL pushers do that becasue they too are alcoholics that want to be miserable with someone.. its no different then when we were teens and everyone pushed smoking cigarettes.. no one wants to be addictied alone..

[K9Lover]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

Nursie - Your post cracked me up. I completely agree about the "bitch" at the Olive Garden. I usually push the wine glasses to the side so she will (hopefully) get the hint! And this will be the same "bitch" that only brings you 3 breadsticks (probably cuz she's pissed about not selling any wine), and you have to keep asking for more! Oh well, more work for her...because I will keep asking. LOL

And your description of breaking pool sticks and flashing the bartender...LOL. I have plenty of "bar" stories myself (or so I've been told!)

I guess my biggest rant about being sober is my eating habits. I've never been into sweets either, but boy lately I've become a choc-o-holic. Not good! I figure it will pass eventually, and especially if I can ever get motivated to get back to exercising.

Thanks for the laugh this morning, and keep up your good work, you're doing awesome!

K9

[Nursie]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

Lol Sooo many stories K9... Not good!
Thank God I don't have to live that anymore.

But seriously, all those bitches pushing alcohol as soon as thy come to my table better back it up.
They always want to tell you the drink specials and they always ask "are you sure?"
"no you asshat, I'm not sure! It took every ounce of courage I had to walk in here and say no the first time you asked, and what I REALLY wanna do is order 2 for 1s all night, leave you way too much of a tip because i had "so" much fun and then buy a bottle on the way home. But I'm telling you NO so back the F&@k up!"

Oh, and it may go without saying, but I hate that I'm so cranky these early days of quitting.

I was like a madwoman when I quit smoking, and I sure feel crazy now!

[K9Lover]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

Nursie - You go ahead and just be cranky girlfriend, because personally I am finding your posts hilarious. I'd love to see you lay that explanation on the waitress. She'd probably run off crying. LOL

I've been tempted to reply "No thanks, I'm an alcoholic"...JUST to see the blank-deer-in-the-headlight stare that would probably produce. But then I'd add "But I'm not addicted to the breadsticks, so keep them coming bitch". (Everything seems funnier when you add the word bitch to the end...or is that just my distorted humor? And yes, I obviously love their breadsticks AND I'm hungry right now)

Anyways, you keep up the good work there miss, you are doing wonderful!

K9

[mylife]

What I don't like about being newly sober...Rant then keep it movin'

:H:H I needed that laugh. Thanks Nursie.

I go to Olive Garden for lunch all the time - it's by my office. They're always pushing the wine and all these people who apparently have no place better to be are always drinking wine at lunch...LOL. Now I've got some good answers for the "are you sure?"...:H