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[Linda Mc keown]

I have just discovered this site. I feel very very nervous. Just been diagnosed with Fatty Liver and now after going on site to read up on this, I am upset that I am in this state. I have been drinking constantly for 30 years - yes 30 years - I stopped when carrying my son and cut right back whilst breast feeding - 1 per day - nursing mother's assured me this would not harm my baby. Well my baby is now nearly 13 years and hates my drinking - I now drink 5 - 6 glasses a night - all on my own. I am a single parent and have been since my son's birth. I love white wine but now I become sick and tired the next day, I used to joke aobut this, but now it isn't a joke. I need to do something for my health and for the sake of my beautiful son.

[tawnyfrog]

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Linda, :welcome:

Take a deep breath, and read as many posts as you can. You're not alone. We've all been where you're at right now.

This can be the start of something beautiful ... a way to find yourself again.

Hope to see you around.

[stoatqueen]

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Hi Linda, i'm a single mum too and like you drank wine alone mostly . I have been AF for 11 days now and feeling much better already. Read the posts, you will soon realise you are not unusual and that we are all on the journey together. Best wishes and welcome xx

[weemelonhead]

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Hi there Linda...don't worry...nobody here is phased by amounts, behaviours, slip ups etc etc...that's why it's such a good place to be...you can be honest, after all, that's the only way things start getting better right?
Nobody is here to judge, everybody just does their very best to help...I have only been here for 4 weeks, but have been made to feel so welcome, and it this that keeps me, and everybody else here...
There is sooo much good stuff, helpful advice, thoughts, ideas and research going, that you should definitely be able to find an answer to any questions you may have.....

Stick with it Linda Weemelon

[betty boop]

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Hi Linda & :welcome:

You really have found the right place, the people here are sooo supportive, Keep reading and posting is the best advice that I can give.

Love & Hugs, Paula :h :l :h

[Mackeral]

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Hiya Linda,

Single mums always get my upmost respect...You have found an excellent site..
Please keep reading and posting..There are a lot of wise, funny, helpful people here..
You are not alone...People here can help..

Good luck and welcome...Macks:welcome:

[Beaches]

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Hi Linda,
Lots of parents here that will help you a lot. Keep reading and posting and welcome!!

[Laurav]

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Hi Linda,
Welcome to this wonderful place!
You have taken the first step to a new chapter in your life.
~Laura

[Popeye]

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Hello Linda
You have come to a great place. Like some others have said reading and posting is perhaps the best way to start. Good luck!!!!

[Helensback]

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Hi Linda,

I'm a mom too. I have an eight year old daughter.
Last night I went out with the office crew and SUCKED back the beer. Had way too much fun and, since I've been fairly good lately, felt not too guilty about it today.
I took a cab home. My little girl and her dad dropped me off at my car when they went grocery shopping this morning so I could drive it home.
My daughter asked me how come I left my car there.
I felt like I was stuck in the headlights.
It all came flooding back to me - this time last year I was in serious trouble with alcohol. I sought councilling, found the MWO book and this site. I stopped for 3 to 4 months then moderated my way to excess. Quit smoking in September and REALLY went to town. Then, after a whoop-dee-do Christmas (what the heck, eh? It's Christmas!) I was calming down, but still drinking.
And out I went last night - goobye party for my ad manager. Great guy and too much fun. Laughed and drank and took a cab home. Not bad, eh?
Then that question from my beautiful little girl. Innocent enough, but if I didn't know in my heart that alcohol will ruin my life and those who I love, I simply would have answered it with the truth. But I DO know this in my heart. And so, there's that thought again..."I have to stop this - I can't do this any more".
And that sad wish that I could be honest and sober and someone who I could feel proud to be and have my daughter see THAT every day.
So, I'm here - have been since last February. I'm not perfect, but I know myself better than I have in years.
I have met and befriended a few truly wonderful and important people.
And I feel safe in the knowledge that this site and these people and the support and the whole program itself is here. And I know that I will get well.
I hope you come to know that too, Linda - for you.
Welcome,
Helen

[pixie]

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Welcome Linda, and congratulations for seeking out this site! I've been here a couple of months and have found it has helped tremendously. As others said, read and post, and read the book too. Post any questions. You'll probably be amazed at how many people's stories here sound similar to your own.

pixie

[kitkatsue]

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Welcome Linda.
This is a good first step, just keep coming back!

Kitkat

[Metamorphosis]

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Hi Linda,

Welcome from me too. I only joined the website yesterday and can already feel the suport here making a difference in my resolve. I, too, love my white wine and could easily drink 5 - 6 glasses a night, wake up in the morning with a woolly head and wonder why I did it. It wasn't the first one that was the problem for me, I usually enjoyed taht one and the next one, as well, but after the third one went down I had no control anymore and would usually keep drinking intil he bottle was empty. Too many nights like that and I knew I had a problem.

Since joining yesterday, I headed out for a gilrs night last night which would normally see me relying on others to get me home and fill in the black outs of memory from the night before. I still gave it a good nudge but remembered everything and I was the one making sure we got home ok and my friend woke up with the memory lapse.

I also told here about this site and she tried to imply that I didn;t have a problem and that if drinking too much wine was my only vice that it's pretty good in the grand scheme if things......for me though, I KNOW it is not a vice I want to keep and I don't want it to get worse and it will.....if I don't do somehting.

So thanks for your honesty and welcome!!!! I will stop rambling now.

[ute]

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hi linda! we are all starting out - but are we really? we have been aware at some level of this beast. i am a mother too - but of a 25 year old who sat me down and said in adult terminology "I am Worrried about your drinking" although he is not small anymore, it bothered me A LOT. and maybe the little ones don't have the vocabulary to say that - it is the same. my kid may be an adult - but i still want him to be proud of me. he even ofered to drive me to detox and take care of me after (my husband doesn't like negativity or 'sickness'). what i have come to realize is that although i want my son to be proud of me and feel comfortable at home....more than anything I want to be clean and sober. i am so truly tired of not having a life and utilizing all that i have by the grace of God. i am so lucky and by the grace of God am still able to walk (when I am motivated to do so). i have been blessed in so many ways - and it is so easy to let what is wrong give me an excuse to drown my problems. that is for me only - i am not saying that is you...it's just me sharing my state of mind as a new person. i think i have hit bottom. God Bless you and all who have supported you. know you are not alone. ute

[Newyear]

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Hi Linda - :welcome:
And welcome to everyone new here. Posting is very helpful. Cathartic - I second and third the advice given already to read and read and post often. The more you can kind of 'get it out', the more you can take a better look at what you are doing. (hope that made sense) I've been here about 7 months. I was consistently drinking a bottle or more of red wine a night - 7days a week. I can't say for sure how long I had been doing that - how many years and how consistently - but it had been quite a long time.
I didn't know what I wanted exactly out of this site - I just happened upon it one day after thinking - "I just can't keep doing this". But I have now been af (alcohol free) for 71 days. A small miracle. I certainly struggled when I started. But I have learned so much-mostly about myself.
This is definitely a - one day at at time venture. I wish you all the best and very happy you are here.
Lisa