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**betty boop** · January 20, 2007, 06:20 AM

Hello

Hi Bluebell & :welcome:

WOW 5 days, yes that is a huge achievement ...... yes you should feel really proud of yourself.....

I too was drinking wine, sometimes up to 3 bottles.....

I just managed 16 days AF & feel so good............

Keep up the good work .........

LOve & Hugs, Paula :h :l :h

**Bluebell** · January 20, 2007, 06:24 AM

Hello

Thanks Paula....

Wow 16 days! That is fantastic. I feel good too. My skin is clearer, my eyes are not so wishy-washy and I am far more alert. My big question to you is - how do you manage weekends? I find I can cruise through the weeknights only to find me champing at the bit come Friday night....

**betty boop** · January 20, 2007, 07:11 AM

Hello

The last two weekends, I've just kept busy, however i'm finding myself wanting some wine tonight .....

Are you going for total abs or mods? I'm wanting to moderate so i'm going to allow myself a drink at weekends and have none in the week ....

Paula xx

**Bluebell** · January 20, 2007, 08:05 AM

Hello

Well...the ideal would be mods. BUT, not sure if I can trust myself.

I have tried before to do "just the weekends" and it ended up flowing over to Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and well....you get the picture.

I am going to try to abstain. I know it is a big thing to do and I do not know if I will achieve it. In fact, if you handed me a glass of wine right now, I would take it. BUT.... I have no wine at home..... I am re-reading DRY .... I think I can get through this weekend. I would LOVE to be a "normal" social drinker. I want to be able to have 2-3 glasses of wine and that's enough. Currently, one glass is enough for me to want a tankfull. Obviously a mis-aligned bit of wiring in my brain. I am looking forward to getting to the bottom of this phenomonum which has haunted me for years

**stoatqueen** · January 20, 2007, 08:53 AM

Hello

Hi Bluebell,

I too was drinking a bottle or two of wine most nights and God help me if I bought a box! I got myself into lots of trouble and was generally dependent on alcohol, although I never saw it as a problem. And then after a diffcult Christmas I saw the light and came accross this site, it was then i realised I have a drink problem and it was painful to admit to myself and others but with the support of this site I am now on day 26AF.

I have found it relatively easy to stop, although I have had insomnia, nightmares and cravings but I feel I had no choice but to change my ways for my children and there was nothing that would stop me making 30 days AF.And then the next challenge..can I do mods. Well I know I wont drink alone again so that forces the issue, I dont go out much anyway being a single mum. Anyway all I can say is that already my life and my mental health have greatly improved and I wish you all the best on your journey xx

**hidden_gem** · January 20, 2007, 05:18 PM

Hello

Hi Bluebell,

It sounds like you've really got yourself well prepared and that's always going to give you a great chance of success.

I was drinking 1 - 1.5 bottles of wine almost every day, and more if I went out (which I did at least twice a week). Every single day I was either hungover or looking forward to the evening's drinking binge.

I've made it to 20 days AF mainly by spending time here and taking the supplements. Friday nights have been the hardest at the moment but I know that's only temporary - I've been joining the chat on a Friday when I get home from work, just to tide me through.

Hold on - and keep checking in here. It really works.

Gem

**betty boop** · January 20, 2007, 05:19 PM

Hello

Well done Gem ....

We are all rooting for you .

**Diana** · January 20, 2007, 06:44 PM

Hello

Hi,
Today is 21 days AF and I feel great. Just ran into someone I havn't seen for a while and they told me how well I look. There is no easy answer. Like all of you I drank 1 - 2 bottles of wine most nights. Never started before 5pm and always in bed by 9.30 pm. Was able to function during the day but no motivation. I didn't find it hard to stop and have had very few side effects, I just needed the wake up call I got on NYE.
Keep up the good work, we are all on this journey together.

Love and Best Wishes
Diana

**ihavebeenherkind** · January 21, 2007, 12:13 AM

Hello

My first AF Wedding

Well, since that one my mom took me to when I was about 10, I think. Just wanted to share that I got through a wedding tonight with nothing to drink. I had a diet coke with a lime in it and I guess everyone assumed I was drinking so no explanation was necessary.

It was actually easier than I thought. Once I got past the initial nervousness and ordered the first drink without getting wine, it was all pretty easy after that.

**just h** · January 21, 2007, 01:21 AM

Hello

:welcome: Blue Bell. It looks like you are pretty well armed for this War. Good luck. Yeah, I take my own supplement regime. Milk thistle, Evening Primrose, Salmon Oil, Garlic, Emergen-C(full of B-vitamins). I am a binge drinker. It just has overtaken my life this past year. I've been super depressed and drinking seems to go hand in hand with this in my case. So, I'm dealing with the depression through meds and therapy. I am starting to feel better about life lately. I just need to learn how to cope with things with out running from a drink to numb myself from the bad feelings......

Glad to see you. This place is great and the you will get lots of support.:h

**Popeye** · January 21, 2007, 01:39 AM

Hello

Hi Bluebell.

**Bluebell** · January 21, 2007, 10:12 PM

Hello

Thanks everyone for your replies. This is fantastic, being able to have a place to come when the need arises.

I am afraid things didn't go according to plan on Sunday.

Scenario was that I chose not to have any wine in the house as I knew I would find the weekends difficult in respect of being AF. Somehow, Friday comes and goes with no problems, Saturday...could have given in but thought about the comment someone on this board said about "deciding to have one drink, leading to a possible binge, just for the sake of an hours buzz" or something like that (not accurately quoted but I know what I mean!). So I didn't buy any wine. Sunday came and all was well until we got visitors. Two visitors who appeared at the house with 4 bottles of wine. Now, in the old days (like last week) those 4 bottles of wine would have been seen as "back up" by ourselves and these friends. To cut a long story short, I must have drank over a bottle of the wine. Now, is this a failure or is this a victory? In the past I would have easily drunk two bottles of wine in these circumstances.

I have mixed feelings about it all now. On the one hand I am mad at myself for having the wine, not getting as good a sleep that night and just being weak. On the other hand, I realise that things could have been a lot worse if I had followed my usual pattern of over-indulging.

However, today my Allen Carr book arrived! Excellent timing! I am looking forward to absorbing the contents of this book and it wil be interesting to see how I feel at the end of the book. I do notice that on the back of the book it says "Read the entire book with an open mind, and before you try to stop drinking". Well, that made me feel better in itself!!

**bear73** · January 22, 2007, 05:01 AM

Hello

i think it's a success - you drank less. for me if i see things as a failure i will fail.I'm on day 10 now but shoudl be day 22 - I've lapsed twice since new year both on social occasions.
now i try to learn, why did i drink - what was i feeling before and what can i do differently next time to not drink if i feel that way again.
it's all progress- be nice to tyourself - have a nice bath or nice meal,chocolate - whatever your nice thing is and convince yourself that you can learn,tomorrow is a new day and it was just a lapse xx

**Bluebell** · January 22, 2007, 05:37 AM

Hello

Bear, thank you so much for your helpful words.

It does seem a challenge.........."be nice to yourself"

It's a nice feeling to be told to do that.

And...I just might.

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