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[ImaClean]

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Update:

I made it through the weekend!! I am now on day 8 and i feel great. I even had some friends over for dinner last night (4 of which were at that fateful dinner last week) and didnt drink even though they did and another couple brought me a bottle of wine. I sent it home with them. I think i made a couple of them uncomfortable because of not drinking. weird!!

To be honest, i did have about 20 mins where i was feeling how unfair that i can not drink normally and join them for a glass. But then i replayed what i remembered of last weekend and certainly didnt want to go down that road. AND i know that "enjoying one glass" really meant drinking until there was no wine left.

onward and upward!!

[FlyAway]

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Good for you! That 20 minutes of deprivation thinking was really the addiction trying to talk you into drinking. Today are you thinking, "If only I had a couple drinks last night the whole evening would have been better."? Would any part of the evening been better if you were drinking?

[CollieMom]

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Boy, Dave - do I like that 1% idea! It really does make it so obvious - to break things into little bites for progress. We don't do anything else overnite -- to use Ima's ideas: learn a language ormaster a new craft, for instance. Achieving important things takes time and what's more important than what we are all trying to achieve? Thanks for sharing - gonna try to keep it as part of my mantra along with a couple other good thoughts I've gathered here in the past few days.

Ima - I'm envious; you've got several days on me!

[scottish lass]

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Congratulations Ima!
And Dave - I LOVE the 1% plan, exactly what I am needing right now, thank you for that gift!

[merry]

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I hope I can do it also

[FancyC]

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Thanks , I too think I can do 1%! Will be my goal for today.

[WineWrangler]

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ImaClean, My last drinking experience was similar to yours. The anticipation of NYE grew on me for two weeks. I new family was coming into town, who all like to drink. One cousin and I started around noon at a new micro brewery downtown. On the way back to the house we picked up another 12 pack and a bottle of Tequila. Went back to the house and kept the party going. We had dinner reservations around 7, I was still hanging tough at that point. At dinner of course we had wine, sometime around the main course I remember nothing from that point. I herd all about it the next morning, what an asshole I was, and on and on. At that point I made the decision to give up drinking once and for all. Don't get me wrong, I'v known I have a drinking problem for a long time. Theres been several half hearted attempts at moderation and lengths of sobriety. So for the first tine ever I'v truly made a new years resolution. In todays society no one really perceives you as different if you chose to be alcohol free. A lot of people admire that quality, and life is much more manageable.
Take Care WW

[resrchqueen]

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I'm sick of it too. I burned dinner last night and broke a dish that I stupidly set on my cooktop. My hubbie wrote me a note this morning and in it told me he loves me and needs me in his life. He asked me to talk to someone to get help and determine why I do the self destructive things I do. I texted a friend who has been sober for 3 years after two stints in treatment. I hope I feel better after talking to her! Meanwhile I appreciate being able to be part of this community!

[K9Lover]

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Welcome Resrchqueen!
Being "sick of it" is definitely one of the first steps. I know that I finally woke up one day and realized I could NOT do this anymore. I was drinking to the point of black out then passing out every single night. I just knew if I stayed on that path I would die. I'm glad you have a friend to reach out to, and I'm also glad you've joined the MWO famiy! Stick around so we can get to know you!
K9

[resrchqueen]

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Thanks so much! I talked to my friend...broke down crying on the phone. We are going to an AA meeting at noon tomorrow. I'm pretty much an introvert so I hope I can be quiet and just listen. She also suggested I see a counselor to get to the bottom of why I drink myself into a stupor! All good advice. Thanks for the welcome again.

[K9Lover]

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Resrch-
Good job on taking action. Overcoming an addiction does not "just happen". It takes work, and you are already showing that you are willing to do the work. Talking to a counselor sounds like a good idea. I talked to one in the beginning too, and I was able to understand a little better why I drank, mostly lonely, sometimes covering up feelings. Please keep us posted on how you are doing...I have a good feeling about you! I see success in your future because you are already so honest. Stick around and let us know!
K9