You're Right Not Many Quit 1st Time

[RedThread12]

You're Right Not Many Quit 1st Time

To your point, LG, I'm with 'ya!! And they especially suck when I forget who I am in order to have a relationship with one of them. That. Does. Not. Work.

I'm old now (55), and have incredible, supportive relationships with several amazing men. I've accepted, and revel in, the present reality . . . I am complete and whole as I am. The men in my life make huge contributions to my well-being - each in their own way. Even my ex-husband is now a vibrant part of my life. But no "soul-mate," no "significant other," no "husband," - and grateful that somehow I noticed, a long time ago, that not very many people are ecstatically happy in their "committed" relationships.

So just as I found MWO of alcoholism, I'm finding My Own Way with relationships. Here's my support to you for doing the same. One size does not fit all.

Good on you for not totally "de-railing." Sober is much better than drunk. Feeling is so much better than not, even if it hurts. You're doing so well!!!

[shueaddict]

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Oh ... LG ... I sooooo sympathize ... big hug from me (fell off the wagon myself only on Sat). It is great that you came back and 'fessed up and did not let yourself get sucked back in. It is not an easy journey to complete AF . Sometimes your defences are down the f...cker sneaks one in.

As SunshineGG said to me - think about what lead up to it and don't let it happen again.

Sorry to hear about the men trouble ... you know, us women are not picnics either.

Here's my special prayer :
"Dear Lord,
I pray for Wisdom to understand my man; Love to forgive him; And Patience for his moods. Because, Lord, if I pray for Strength, I'll beat him to death.
AMEN"

Big bear hug to you

[sujo]

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I fell last night. Bottle of wine. Oh well back to square one. Feel like shit because as well as the hangover I ate nothing yesterday. Oh God. Why did I do it? What triggered it? I have no clue.

[FlyAway]

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sujo;1290455 wrote: I fell last night. Bottle of wine. Oh well back to square one. Feel like shit because as well as the hangover I ate nothing yesterday. Oh God. Why did I do it? What triggered it? I have no clue.

Sorry that you are feeling poorly but glad that you're jumping right back on the wagon. Keep working at it.

[Tipplerette]

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IT'S JUST A HICCUP IN YOUR AWESOME JOURNEY. You wanted a victory story to tell in your memoirs didn't you? Now you have one that paints you as truly human and real. Keep going Library Girl. You are doing so well. We are all very proud of you.

xoxox

[Honeysoup]

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HI LG...I just wanted to say stay strong today. I know that was hard when you have come so far. Try to think positive and dust yourself off. Today is a new day and a new start! (((HUGS)))

[K9Lover]

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Awww LG, sorry you had a blip in your plan, but you picked yourself right up and that's what matters. I agree with your sentiments in your original post. Keep going girl, you can do this, you know (and we know) how strong you are!
Love,
K9

[LibraryGirl]

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Hey Lovely People!!!!:h

I feel so great today, it's simply amazing. Maybe I should have 2 lemonades every day.:H NOT. I'm not even going to count yesterday...It is lost in space, a time warp, whatever you want to call it. TODAY is my 40th day, and that's the way I want to do it. So there!:moon:

I truly appreciate all the love and concern outpouring from here. It means EVERYTHING. For those who are curious as to why I went to get alcohol, there IS no good reason. I was angry at my SO and I thought, "I'll show him!" LOL Even as I drove the 2 miles to the convenience store, I kept telling myself, "You can turn around now. You don't have to do this." However, I had made up my mind, and I was going to see if it helped my feelings at all. It didn't, and quite frankly I do NOT recommend Smirnoff Lemonade.:eeew: What amazed me is that I got a buzz off of 1 bottle. I was scared actually to drink much more because I thought, for fuck's sake this shit is going to make me stupid!:H

Anyway, I had no more after around 4 pm, and I slept very well and felt like a million bucks today. Thanks for your concern and encouragement. This BIATCH IS BACK!:woot:

[K9Lover]

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I'm soooo happy my BIATCH is back!!! :biatch:


I can't tell you how many times in the past I "showed" my ex...by drinking myself stupid. That really showed him, eh? He didn't give a shit, and I had a hangover. :argh:

Anywhoooo, congratulations on your 40 days. Some will disagree with continuing your count, but I am NOT one of them. I say keep plugging away!!!

xoxo
K9

[JackieClaire]

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LG, don't even think about having another 2 drinks or I'll be round there pretty damn quick to give you :b&d:.


Have to say I'm one of those that disagree with the counting. I've had enough day ones to fill a several calendars ten times over.

I know you may be thinking it may be easy for me to say as I've just got a 1000 days AF but some of those days have not been easy at all. So racking up those AF days have been very important to me.

LG I'll bet you my bottom dollar you can rack up those days too.

J x
:l

[one2many]

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I am sorry you decided to drink LG but I am glad you are back on the saddle.

It is up to you how you decide to count your days but you do not have 40 days sober.You drank so to be honest with yourself and everyone else you should go back to day one. You have had 39 sober days which is wonderful but you decided to drink so unfortunately you do not have 40 days sober.

I had to go back to day one after a long spell AF but I could not lie to myself, I decided to drink so I was back to day one. I do not believe in slips, blips, or whatever is used for an excuse, the fact is, you made a decision to drink and you cannot expect to keep your sober time intact.

But at the end of the day, it is up to you but your signature really does not reflect the truth.

Well done for not letting it turn into a binge and good on ya for coming here and admitting, that is not always easy.

[FlyAway]

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Jason Vale says about counting your days that prisoners who get released from prison don't count the days that they're out of jail, only the days that they are in. I say do whatever makes you happiest on keeps you on the sober road.

[one2many]

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FlyAway;1290671 wrote: Jason Vale says about counting your days that prisoners who get released from prison don't count the days that they're out of jail, only the days that they are in. I say do whatever makes you happiest on keeps you on the sober road.

Absolutely! But maybe change the signature then, coz that would not be truthful. By all means don't count the days but at the same time do not count the ones that do not apply.

I think EVERYONE remembers the day they stopped drinking, it is just such a huge thing to do.

Saying I have 1 year sober....whohooo fantastic...just with a little slip in Jan and then a small stumble in March, followed by a teeny tiny blip in Aug.....but I still have a year sober....

em...ya do yeah..

[LibraryGirl]

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one2many;1290666 wrote: I am sorry you decided to drink LG but I am glad you are back on the saddle.

It is up to you how you decide to count your days but you do not have 40 days sober.You drank so to be honest with yourself and everyone else you should go back to day one. You have had 39 sober days which is wonderful but you decided to drink so unfortunately you do not have 40 days sober.

I had to go back to day one after a long spell AF but I could not lie to myself, I decided to drink so I was back to day one. I do not believe in slips, blips, or whatever is used for an excuse, the fact is, you made a decision to drink and you cannot expect to keep your sober time intact.

But at the end of the day, it is up to you but your signature really does not reflect the truth.

Well done for not letting it turn into a binge and good on ya for coming here and admitting, that is not always easy.

Actually I have had 40 days sober. Yesterday would have been 40 days, but I drank, so it wasn't. Today I have 40 days sober...maybe not in a row, lol.

[one2many]

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LibraryGirl;1290698 wrote: Actually I have had 40 days sober. Yesterday would have been 40 days, but I drank, so it wasn't. Today I have 40 days sober...maybe not in a row, lol.

Ahhh hon it doesn't work like that, be great if it did, I would have 4 years.