May makeover

[DizzyBee]

May makeover

I love that Yoda saying, K-dog! He is my favorite bit in Star Wars. And good on you for sticking to your exercise goals. I am quite determined when I set my mind to other goals but exercise is not an easy one. Shall try again tomorrow!

Saw Salmon Fishing in the Yemen (2011) - IMDb tonight, very uplifting story, all about making it against all the odds. I would highly recommend it if you want to see something good. I suppose its not for everyone as it counts as a bit of an arty movie but I would only say thats because its not a 'blockbuster' in that it does not have huge action scenes, sex scenes, etc in it. I hate blockbusters anyway. There is almost NO drinking or smoking in it, sometimes it can really bug me if I'm newly sober and all the people in the movie do is drink and smoke!


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[LibraryGirl]

May makeover

Just checking in, gang. Still not exercising, lol. Also had chips and a candy bar today.:H I've been aching all over too, and not getting enough sleep. Difficult to feel like exercising like this. I hope I'm not coming down with something...like a baby. :O I have been feeling nauseous and achy ... think I'm too old to be preggo, LOL. Probably menopausal symptoms knowing my luck.

I do plan on doing some cleaning around here tomorrow when I get home from graduation. That will be my exercise, lol.

LG

[Arial]

May makeover

Happy (rainy) May 6th

Hi All,

Have been MIA for a few days so now am trying to catch up! Congratulations K9 on the 30-day shred - it sound rigorous - is it also fun, or just the feel-good factor and post-work-out buzz that makes it doable? I ask because I'm not sure I can say the workouts I do are 'fun' but I feel so good afterwards it keeps me going back for more!

LG - good to see 'honorary members' too! I reckon not-drinking is a great commitment to a more healthy life-style, so I think dropping the 'honorary' is very much in order

Ima - I've been looking into hot yoga but haven't had the courage to try it yet - will look forward to hearing how you find it - or anyone else's stories about their experiences with it.

Ironically the gym I go to is also having a fitness push this month - they're having a 'paleo diet' challenge which I've signed up to - having rather belatedly looked up some information about the paleo diet I'm not sure I endorse it completely as a lifestyle, but for a kick-start to healthier eating the 30 days should be good. Luckily I already have 20 days AF so the cutting out alcohol is the easy bit! :H Cutting out cheese, all sweets, breads etc. - not so easy Trying now to work out how you keep energy up with seemingly no carbs. Could be a long month!

Oh well, off to stock up on fresh fruit and vegetables - keep on movin' everyone!

[lifechange]

May makeover

may 5th, yeaaa!!
good morning Arial! good to see you.
i'm getting ready to head over to the market for some fresh vegies and fruit and then will take off for a run.
i did quite a bit of hot yoga during the freezing cold months, as much for the warmth as for the workout. i find it difficult to do in the summer. i went a couple of times hungover as some sort of harsh punishment--- and that it was.
anyway, it's a fantastic workout. i also like cleaning my house for exercise, LG!!
have a great day!!

[DizzyBee]

May makeover

I had to take the dog to the vet and as it's such a beautiful day he convinced me to take him to the park for a long walk afterwards. I guess I just upgraded from honourary member to real member.



From this picture, you wouldn't guess that its winter, but we just had a cold wet week in Cape Town so everyone's spirits is lifted today.

By the way, Lucky think its his birthday. First the Vet didn't stick a sharp object in his bum, then he got to go for this lovely walk, and afterwards I had to hid his pills in pieces of leftover steak. He is now peacefully asleep and probably dreaming of eating a whole steak all of his own.

:flower:

[So over it]

May makeover

Hey guys, pls help me.... I have totally stuffed up and supposedly enjoyed 3 glasses of wine.
What a joke, I start this thread and let everyone down. I was doing so well....
But family issues got is the way. I must Learn to disengage from others issues...
Shall I cancel this thread? Ifeel like a total loser..
I have let u all down.....

[lifechange]

May makeover

this thread should definately NOT be cancelled. i love it as do many others here!
i'm sorry you're feeling so down So over it. but nobody here will think you've let them down. like we have heard from a lot of old timers, sometimes it takes many tries to succeed. the main thing is to keep trying!
not to get so down on ourselves that we can't see what needs to be done. so please don't give up. i spent a lot of time today in the tool box. please go there and read the last 4 pages or so-- there is a great post from unwasted that helped me alot. this morning.#
i'm thinking of you , sending you strength--- and still very happy that you started this thread.
keep us all posted on how you're feeling.

[Arial]

May makeover

Hi So Over It,

Sorry, you're not getting out of it that easily! This is not a straight forward or easy journey and there are so many obstacles in our way, and there are no judgments here - I'm sure each one of us here has some time fallen off the wagon for one reason or another - the trick is to just get right back on board. Use it as a learning experience - note what triggered it, how you felt, and you can be better prepared and armed for next time temptation calls and motivation is challenged. As Albert Einstein so rightly said "You never fail until you stop trying." So as soon as you're ready, the helm of this great thread awaits! Rest, recover and tomorrow is a new day and we're going to continue as you started:

"Let's make this the best Month for our health and wellbeing!
No fail, lets join forces and move to a better life."

The goal hasn't changed, and the forces are well and truly joined to help each and every one of us move to that better life!

Be well, and big hugs :l

[So over it]

May makeover

Hi life change and Ariel,
Thanks for your kind words guys, you really lifted my spirits!
Seriously what was I thinking- or maybe. I just wasn't thinking at all...

Do you know... My reason was " oh I'm doing so well, being so healthy, so I'll have a glass of wine to toast my success" stupid huh!!!
One glass turned in to 3..... Very easy huh...

I feel not as bright this morning.... So didn't go to gym either...

But I can't believe how disappointed I am with myself.
I'm even more determined now....

[lifechange]

May makeover

today is May 6th already!!
how are you, So over it? how are you feeling this morning?
i am also more determined than ever.
i'm anticipating a difficult day as i am deep into pms--noticed yesterday that i was one step away from choosing to drink-- and my bf is leaving for a week so i'll be alone with the kids from 11am on. sadly, weekends alone with kids have been my biggest drinking times. how sad is that?
so i am prepared to do everything i have to to put on the stops. though if i'm totally honest with myself there is a little voice in the back of my head plotting the drinking plan. i have to formulate a plan asap.

[DizzyBee]

May makeover

Unfortunately we are in this for life, So over it, so when we fall: we get up, we go on and we keep fighting!

Thanks for starting this thread.

:thanks::goodjob:

[So over it]

May makeover

Thank you dizeebee, that exactly what I will do!
Just shows I need u guys so much xxx
This is not at as easy as I I first thought...

[DizzyBee]

May makeover

I think this is the great thing about this website, its not one person holding up another, its us keeping each other up. Yes, most of us will fall and yes, Ive fallen but there wasn't one person around here that didn't understand why. Not one person thought I was 'weak' or 'indulgent' or 'stupid' as they know how hard it is.

Like right now I think I'm breaking up with my boyfriend. I grew more and more resentful because we were both going through a stressful time and as I was now sober I realised that the more stressed he was, the more he drank. I sent him an email (we are in a long distance relationship right now and I was about to go over to the UK at the end of the month) explaining that I need for him to talk to me more when he is stressed instead of always just going to the pub.

Long story short, the email fell on what he calls his 'second birthday' not his real birthday but the day his mom thought he was born. (Catholic, 6 kids, long story) Of course, a crap load happened on his real birthday 3 days prior when I did send him an eternal love rune keyring to celebrate our first house together. We ended up being one day to get that house and he phoned me and said that it was very thoughtless to give keyrings to 'homeless' people on their birthdays. (He lives in a very fancy B&B.

Anyway...So thats when I fell. Last weekend. After 31 days AF, I went back to drinking because my boyfriend was being an ass after I asked him to drink less. Please note I did not ask him to quit, you can never force someone to quit. The whole weekend was filled with awful fighting etc.

So last night he sent me an email saying he can't forgive me for 'abusing' him on his 'birthday.' And right now, even though it hurts like hell and I'm sad, I genuinely feel like I have handled this in a grownup way, and there is something beautiful in there.

When I get drunk, I get overemotional and nasty and off kilter. I do sometimes look for arguments and attention and fights. And then I feel awful the next day, as if I deserved whatever I got in return.

Now I just feel like I am the person who have grown in the relationship and he is the person who feel left behind. I gave him a nudge and he feels hurt. If he wants to be with me he will man up, otherwise there is someone better out there for me.

Yes, this may not be over, and yes, if it is, it will hurt for another couple of months to come, but having this amount of clarity makes it so much easier.

And I think that is what I appreciate most about sobriety. It makes me feel like although shit will happen, I am a good person doing my best every day. I am no longer (and this is only my own thoughts reflecting on myself) this sad, confused, broken person who acts out and then hides her shame behind alcohol.

Thanks for listening

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[odat1234]

May makeover

Can I join? Today is day 2 and my plan is to post at 6 am and 6pm or around those times everyday. I'm ready to stop this nonsense and get off this merry go round! Time to get ready for work! See y'all tonight. Have a great day guys, I will try to also!

[ImaClean]

May makeover

weekend fail! I was coming on a week and failed miserably this weekend. I did continue to exercise but drank too much friday and saturday night. Had just 2 drinks last night and i'm ready to start again. Will have to come up with a better plan for the weekend.

sorry guys! back to day 1. sigh.