Really down and need advice.

[gyco]

Really down and need advice.

life

leciejo;1311885 wrote: I am so lost and feeling terribly down. "I" know I can't drink and my husband of 7 years has seen the monster inside me. He hates her. He has been disgusted time and time again by my drinking and the severity of it. He looks at me like I am an alien when I drink glass after glass after glass every single day. He thinks that I am capable of having a "few" for an evening and then somehow I am supposed to empower myself with the magic of turning it off like he can for days or even weeks. He is very proud that I went the whole week last week AF and everything was so upbeat and happy he thought we should have a drink to relax on the deck Friday night and I did. I did not turn into the "other woman" and it was all okay,,, this time. Well, that just re-inforced to him that it is possible for me to stop and I make a choice to continue to drink. He is what I like to think of as the "Abnormal" one. He can have 1 or 6 and stop and have dinner and watch a movie. He wants me to be able to do that. He says that's when we have the best times and I know he is right but I feel so hopeless that I cannot do what he is asking. HELP

hi again i dont get on here to much but seeing ive been suspended from work for a couple of days for reeking havic on my bumper of my company car,which drove over a guide line that just happen to be in my way,sound familiar, by the way it is not your husband that has the problem,ive read a lot of the comments,lest we forget it is us who injests the fluids that make us go from Jeykl to Hyde,it is nice to hear you no what you have to do,as you said You have to do it, and again your rite you dont have to stop drinking if you dont want to,its called Moderation,having one to six beers at one time is not moderation on his part,being the type of person you are,like many of us,he should no better,my wife of 35 years is just starting to realise that,alchoholism or addiction is not a nice thing to deal with but i have to say youve found a great place and i wish you well:goodjob:

[leciejo]

Really down and need advice.

Sausage - moderation is torture, tried it worst than not drinking at all at least for me.
Molly - I am sooo confused by the look he gives me when an opportunity comes up to drink and I turn it down, it's as if he feels sorry for me for not being able to participate, you know, that pity look and I HATE that.
Ann - I love the books and will be looking for those today. Thank you!
Life - Exactly!! What if he doesn't like the new me more than he doesn't like the drunk me? This is my own AL thinking that I have to deal with.
Wild - I guess Life hit the nail on the head. Maybe it's MY issue and not his at all.

Thanks, All AF for today

[resrchqueen]

Really down and need advice.

You know there are many people who don't drink alcohol for a multitude of reasons..... We went out to a wonderful Italian restaurant which has a kick@@$ wine list. We had water that evening and I can't begin to tell you how many others around us were also just drinking water.... I think in time your hubby will see this.