Today is Day 30 AF

[Nelz]

Today is Day 30 AF

Well done I can NOT believe its been 30 days already


You've made the 30 days, there will still be a bit of a roller coaster ride, but you have made it past "the worst of it" so keep doing whatever you are doing, and congrats


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[Flossie]

Today is Day 30 AF

It is a tough ride but so worth it.

Many congratulations on your 30 days.

with love Flossie xx

[lolab]

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congratulations slaythefear!!!!!!!!!!!!! awesome!

[kuya]

Today is Day 30 AF

mollyka;1381431 wrote: This may be the greatest thing you will ever do in your life:l
Molly

Correction Molly( I know you won't mind)

Slay
This IS the greatest thing you will ever do in your life.

You feel flat because normal life does not reward sobriety, it just frowns on drunkenness.

MWO rewards sobriety because we KNOW what it takes.

You are being reborn as a NORMAL healthy human being, and from what I read here it takes about as long as the first time ...... About 9 months! ( chip in here Molly)

And just like a pregnancy the first days and months are fraught with risk, some don't make it, but your new little embryo has made 30 days ....... You are brave and strong ...... I am confident you WILL make it to term

CONGRATULATIONS and :l:l. I can't wait to be you!

KY

[Tipplerette]

Today is Day 30 AF

Stay the fear, please keep at it. I was afraid 30 days would be anti-climatic but still look forward to getting there soon. You did something that half the people on this site can't do or aren't ready to do. Congratulations.

[Sober Visitor]

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:l to you Slay! If it's any consolation, I felt exactly the same way. I would read how everyone else was doing so GREAT, and I still felt like I was in a fog, I wasn't sleeping through the night, at times I felt completely raw and all over the place, and at other times, I felt zippo, one day I was loving sobriety, the next day I was a puddle on the floor. What I kept telling myself and finally realized is that I am always "EXACTLY WHERE I NEED TO BE," and everyone else is exactly where they need to be too. It may not be where I think I want to be or should be according to my own expecations, but it is exactly where I need to be at this given moment in time. Saying that over and over really helped me to keep my expectations for myself in check. We're not meant to be perfect. Our healing isn't going to happen overnight, but IT IS going to happen if we can get out of own way and let it happen. The process of getting sober for me was such a great learning and growth experience. It forced me to truly take my life one moment at a time and to view each of them as a new beginning and growth opportunity. It will take as long as it's going to take, and that's PERFECTLY OK, because we are healing and growing and changing and learning and evolving with each and every moment.

Sheri

[FlyAway]

Today is Day 30 AF

Congratulations on reaching 30 days! It's a huge accomplishment.

I know I've said it before but, I think that too much emphasis is put on 30 days in the MWO program. I don't think anyone after 30 days is in control enough to decide to moderate, not that you are considering moderation. I'm not sure what your plans are. But 30 days sober is still a very fragile time. I had some of my strongest cravings during the second and third month. Not every day like during the first few weeks, but when they hit they were hard!

Emotionally speaking, as a whole we are very used to using alcohol to subvert our emotions and having to deal with them for the first time in years takes some getting used to. This is a time of rediscovery for you on many levels. Just keep plodding along and allow yourself to feel these emotions. You are discovering your new "normal." It will be okay. :l

[itsmytime]

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Congrats on 30 days Slay!!!!

Take it from someone in the first months on this journey that it gets better and better each passing day. I had some real rough days with Post Acute Withdrawal Syndrome, check it out and you will have a better understanding of what you are going through right now, it does help knowing it will pass and it is part of the adjustment.

Sitting here approaching day 70 tomorrow, I can honestly 100 % say SOBRIETY ROCKS!!!!!! My husband says I am glowing. Not to say the first 50 days weren't challenging at times, but man oh man it is so worth it. The bloat is gone, my skin is clear and most importantly I am loving myself again.

Keep on keeping on and you will be stronger for it.

IMT

[Slaythefear]

Today is Day 30 AF

Thank You!

Wow! What an awesome group of people. It's truly a privilege to share this journey with all of you. This thread has provided wisdom, support, caring and understanding. It's a warm blanket given by a stranger on a cold, cold night-a gift freely given. It's nice to be understood and not feel alone and misunderstood like one can often feel around others who are not walking this path. Reaching out a hand and having people reach back to try and pull you back up, well that is priceless. Compassion is such a great human characteristic in life.

Sometimes my head is so noisy and/or confused, I have to just slink back and shut up and at times just cry. That's what I did for a couple days that were filled with some deep depression. All these emotions and issues I've drowned with alcohol are trying to make their way into clarity, reality and truth, but aren't fully translated, so I can feel like I'm going a bit insane with the confusion/conflict if that makes sense. I don't trust my mind just yet as my emotions and thoughts are on a roller coaster ride. One hour I'm fine, the next I can be immensely sad or two days sad and then clearer. I think I understand issues then confused again. Crazy times. Damn the PAWS! At least that is why I think some of it is occurring. I now understand more fully what lolab was talking about in PF's relationship thread. Rocky seas don't make for great decision making abilities.

I, also, think Kuya was on track with taking it easy and not taking on too much in the beginning which I was doing. I was so focused on a plan of action to replace the time drinking, that I overdid and caused myself stress. This is a time for healing, not overdoing. That's part of what gets us in the mess to begin with. So, I am working to allow myself rest and the allotment of imperfection. If others around me can't understand and accept that, they'll have to adjust or go away. I can't let the demands and expectations of others harm me anymore. Newsflash! I'm not perfect!!!

I'm still AF and happy to be so. I won't be counting the days now (although, I journal daily so there is a record), as I feel this is just a new way of living now. The right way.

Thank you, Rainy (I did get the sober sight on FB), Prairie, Porgoui, mama, paulywogg, allan, dixon, Byrdlady, pixie, Kdog, stumpy, Sunbean, Freefly, Nelz, Flossie, lolab, mollyka, kuya, Tipplerette, Sober Visitor, FlyAway, itsmytime and anyone I missed from other threads. Your words fell on open ears and meant a lot to me.

:l:h:thanks:

P.S. Yes the hair will grow back. I watched a video how to style it into a sassy look, so I will make due. I did entertain the pink wig, FreeFly and borrowing Stumpy's hair, but hey, I'll just make my own look and give 'em' some sass!

[kuya]

Today is Day 30 AF

AWESOME POST Slay, it is sharing the struggle that helps people rather than displaying the end result.

And the next time you feel yourself flat and low, remind yourself of this time........

WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS ...... NOT HUMAN DOINGS



Love and :l:l:l

KY , the nosy

[nurdl]

Today is Day 30 AF

Congratulations Slayer! I'm new here. I've made it 3 weeks. You've inspired me to keep putting one foot ahead of the other to make it to 4 weeks, one day at a time.

[Slaythefear]

Today is Day 30 AF

nurdl;1382882 wrote: Congratulations Slayer! I'm new here. I've made it 3 weeks. You've inspired me to keep putting one foot ahead of the other to make it to 4 weeks, one day at a time.

YOU CAN DO IT! I've had a lot of ups and downs, but stuck it out. If the benefits I have received by doing so, also, inspire someone else to know they can do, I'm all smiles. I'm still AF today and don't plan on changing that. It's a new way of living and it takes an adjustment and a new mindset. Drinking becomes normal for us, but it isn't what the gift of life is for. Drinking it away and having it be a blur? We get one time around, we need to enjoy as much of it as we can.

I've been tied up with a sick puppy the last few days that my daughter had handed to her where she works. It was abandoned and it wound up in my lap, so I've been nursing it back to health. Hopefully we can find a good home for it as it recovers. So, if I'm not around that is why. Still hanging strong. I've been so busy with this pup, I haven't even thought about it. NOW that is great, eh? You are right there with me. :goodjob: You can beat each moment you feel weak with the right thoughts and grabbing a hand here for support and comfort knowing people understand your fight.

Proud of you for knowing your life deserves to be lived without the weight that alcohol brings to our lives. It feels good physically and knowing you have it in you to slay the destructive addiction/habit.

I'm cheering for you. Do whatever it takes for YOU!

[nurdl]

Today is Day 30 AF

thank you

Slay - I can't tell you how much your post means to me. Thank you for welcoming me to this new community. I can end today feeling strong and know that I've made a good choice joining the fight for a healthy life.

Good thoughts for your puppy. You seem like a loving person and pup will feel the love and heal under your care. Be well and go for the next 30!!!
~nurdl

[clear eyes]

Today is Day 30 AF

Congrats on 30 and keep it going!

[Slaythefear]

Today is Day 30 AF

nurdl;1382913 wrote: Slay - I can't tell you how much your post means to me. Thank you for welcoming me to this new community. I can end today feeling strong and know that I've made a good choice joining the fight for a healthy life.

Good thoughts for your puppy. You seem like a loving person and pup will feel the love and heal under your care. Be well and go for the next 30!!!
~nurdl

We all need a hand in life. For this battle, maybe several. I'm happy if anything I say or do helps others, too. Love and compassion sure do have a healing effect. Life can seem lonely and cold at times, but it's always there somewhere if you look for it. Even giving it to a animal can bring its joy to you, here on this board you can catch it in action, or just helping an old person get something off a top shelf in a store and have them be so thankful you took the time to care works. We just have to open our eyes to the opportunities to show and receive it in our everyday world.

If you haven't checked out the Newbies Nest yet, that is a popular thread. Some of it may ring more to your needs than others, but plenty to go around here. The toolbox is where I started before I posted. I still don't know everyone here, but I know it can be a hand we need. It's a great place for give and take working together.

Here's a :l today, in case you haven't had one. :goodjob: on the 3 weeks. That's a great accomplishment. You can make it through not only the ups but the downs and you begin to believe in yourself and that is so important on this journey, imo.

Love,

Slay