Feeling very very low on my big milestone :(

[allankay]

I have just made it 1 month without alcohol. First week was by far the hardest, followed by some emotional up and downs all the way to the big 30. I am not having any major cravings but I feel so very very low today. I am not really sure what has brought this on but I really need your support today.

ALLAN

[techie]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

Think of something positive that's not in your schedule and do it. I find it helps to change my approach when I'm in a down state. It will give you renewed strength. Be well and congratulations!!!

[JackieClaire]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

Hi Allan,

First of all Congratulations on your month AF. Blooming :goodjob:

Anyway I don't know if this will help but I felt much the same after my first 30days topped off nicely with a bit of anxiety so started this thread. Doesn't take long to read.

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...bit-35888.html

Honestly it will pass. Promise.

[Wagoneer]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

Congratulations on one month! That's wonderful! I know I have had my highs and lows over the times I have quit. It was a struggle for me always. I felt like that part of me - the drinker - was part of my personality - the creative funny one. When the drinking stopped, I felt like I had lost a friend. Part of me. I know it sounds odd. But I really did. It was depressing to see people in commercials or signage, my friends and family being able to drink without having a problem. I felt like I was getting the raw end of the deal. Sometimes I still do! But I have realized that I will never be able to drink and I need to put my big girl panties on and just suck it up and go on. Life IS better alcohol free for me. Just the way it is. The depression will pass - although if it continues you may want to talk to someone. I needed to.

You have done a wonderful thing and should be very proud of yourself. We are proud of you. You have friends here and we will be with you every step of the way. Best of luck to you!

Your friend Waggy

[allankay]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

Thank you Techie.

Jackie it’s also day 31 one for me and I feel exactly like you described. I have had experienced some major troughs this month but this is one of the lowest. I am still very content with my new sober lifestyle but I have been avoiding social events, so maybe this was brought by a lack of socialising...

AK

[Slaythefear]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

Good job, Allan. Here is a post from my 30 day arrival. I felt horribly low and depressed. I cried quite a bit that day. After about day 32 I started feeling much better and have not had another low like that since that time. For whatever reasons, physical or a mental let down after the climb, I don't think it is uncommon to feel that way. I let myself cry it out and made it through. I, also, comforted myself with a movie and a big chocolate muffin and ice cream. (G) That's something I love, so if there is something you really like maybe you should treat yourself to it and just let the sadness flow and then leave. It WILL leave.



https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...-af-68126.html

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[Byrdlady]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

I wish it were possible for me to post all the links that read like this, Allan. It's the 'Now what?' Syndrome....
Take heart, even tho you have your hat now....there are some things to remember.
We are, essentially, saying goodbye to a relationship...and that's hard to do even when the relationship is abusive. I've seen it named "Euphoric Recall" when we think about the good ole times we had with our companion...in the process of letting go, there are the stages of grief that will happen: Anger, denial, bargaining, depression and acceptance. You've been thru the first three...and now you are entering the phase when, naturally, you wonder 'is that all there is?'. This is NORMAL! I would bet my last penny that tomorrow you will be on top of the world...you never have 2 bad days in a row...and if you really look at it, the bad days aren't nearly as bad as they WERE! The next stage is acceptance, and I'll tell you, this is something to look forward to...at this point, you really can see AL for what it is...you can see its path of destruction...it becomes almost textbook in the way it operates in people.

I remember the first posts you had...I spotted you for a winner those 30 days ago... you had been to another site for support and weren't all that thrilled with it...you have been a great asset here, I can tell you. Not only getting support, but offering it, too. Please trust me when I say that this is a normal and necessary step in your recovery...you are doing a great job. You have made wonderful strides and made new friends. You have MUCH to be proud of!! I, for one, am VERY proud of you!! B

[lolab]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

JackieClaire - that was amazing...to know exactly what he was talking about and be able to pull that thread up...

Allan, sending you hugs and support...you've been busy all month lifting all of us up - starting my party thread - the first to congratulate me. While you were working towards a goal that's hugely emphasized here. It's pretty understandable to feel a little lost once that goal is accomplished. Even though I know you plan to keep going, I do think that our minds keep that 30 day/1 month goal as something very important.

There are going to be times that you feel on top of the world - how you reacted in a situation - and kept your cool - because AL didn't play a part....:-) and just as quickly you have a day where you feel like you do today....like "what now?"...and sometimes you don't even know why. But like JC said - it will pass. I kept saying that each time I had one of these little episodes - where I felt down in the dumps and unhappy - if I could ride it out til the end - til it passed - I came out on the other end a little bit brighter. :-)

Techie and Wagoneer have some awesome words of wisdom for you too....hang tight my friend and have some comfort in the fact that we do understand.

~lola

[vlivengood]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

Allan - What are your plans for today - can you maybe celebrate your 30 days with your absolute favorite food and movie?

[lolab]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

haha - look how many friends come to your rescue! 2 more posts just while I was typing!:l

[JackieClaire]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

Lolab, I'll never forget that thread. It was my very first one when I was still a bit shy.

The 'Now What' or the 'What Now' syndromes. Exactly how I felt.

Perhaps a wee social occasion, nothing huge. Use my favourite arrive late and leave early strategy.

[allankay]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

Techie, Wagoneer, Slay, Byrdie, Lola, Jackie and vlivengood "Thank you very much". You have no idea how much it means to me to hear your kind words of support. I have also read many similar threads by slay and PF but when it comes knocking on your door it’s a slightly different story. I know it was coming but now that it’s here, I feel like a sun dried tomato. Have been binging on food for the last 3 days and trying to reduce the calorie surplus with extra hard sessions at the gym. Bought a pound of sweet prunes that I use for snacks and ate them in one sitting. LOL

Also I went to the clinic today, to see what damage I have done to myself because of Alcohol, and that is there on my mind too. I am a little anxious about the results, won’t find out until next Monday.

[Slaythefear]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

Hang in there, Allan. I know it's tough when it's on your door, but it passes. Don't worry about calories today. Just allow yourself to have some treats. Remember what I said about being too tough on myself? Relax your restraints on the weight for today or until you feel better. We can only take so much change and discipline at once. No need to eat the whole pie at once...well, you can today if you want. (G)

You'll feel better soon. It's almost like magic.

Speaking of food, off to make some.

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[almost free]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

Hi Allan,

Congratulations on your 30 days! Not only AF, but NF as well. Amazing! I'm sorry you are feeling so very low on such a big day. And glad that so many people rallied to support you in your time of need.

Today is only day 7 for me. Not knowing any better, I started a new thread on my first day, thinking that was how to start posting. Even so, I am so grateful to the people who responded my first day and made me feel less alone. I posted on two other threads the next day but never received another response from anyone. I felt pretty stupid.

I noticed, by your thread, that you were feeling very low and I was hoping you were not experiencing the same thing. I just wanted add a word of encouragement. Let me add my warm thoughts to all your other well-wishers. Hope this low feeling passes quickly and you soon experience the feelings of joy you deserve.

[Byrdlady]

Feeling very very low on my big milestone

almost free, I don't want to hyjack Allan's thread, but I'd like to invite you over to the Newbie's Nest...we are a beehive of activity and we have folks with 7 days in just like you, we have some ahead and some just behind. I hope you will come over, we offer great support over there, it's a busy thread. We also have lots of success! Well done on your 7 days!! B