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    #16
    Hypersensitivity

    Passing on something...

    Why it can be so hard to break with a bad habit. In some people’s life there has been a lot of trauma. They got hit hard by life, and with every hit it’s like a new layer of scar tissue has been put around their soul. Around the part of them that is pure, loving and trusting. It’s a purely a defense system to keep this pure energy safe.

    As time goes by and more trauma comes along the layer of scar tissue will become thicker and thicker. This person can feel disconnected. His/her physical body cannot communicate with the divine energy that is inside of them. They are operating as two now instead of one body. They can experience a deep feeling of loneliness, emptiness deep inside of them, almost like their homesick. This is because they are disconnected from their divine source. In panic they try to fill this empty space inside of them with everything that comes along, drugs, sex, words, or even more trauma because they feel that all that is hurting so bad inside of them will be gone for some moments if they experience an even greater hurt or destruction. However this is just a temporary illusion, the pain will not go away. At some moment there comes a time that you must start to treat the physical body with respect and loving, avoiding all the things that are bad for you, this in order to make it a safe place, a safe haven in order to try and convince your divine part to break out of the scar tissue that is surrounding it.

    If you make your body a temple, you could very well convince the divine energy in you to expand and break through the layer of scar tissue and fill the whole body again. Of course the more scar tissue the more time and effort it takes to break through. This is where trust comes along. You simply have to trust and do what is best for you even when it all seems senseless, and when this has been done, the divine energy can flow freely again through all parts of your body, filling it with love, wholeness. The kind of wholeness you can only give yourself. If you are feeling this level of fullness inside, this completeness, lovingness, there is no longer a need to pump any negative energy inside your body anymore. There simply is no room. You can let all your bad and destructive habits go because if there is no longer a war going on inside of you, you don’t need any weapons.

    :h:l:h
    Rule your mind or it will rule you. It is from a thought that an action grows. :bat

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      #17
      Hypersensitivity

      Audrey14;1395262 wrote: Thanks Slay for a post!!!
      As i had my crazy Day 1 this nice and hearthful letter helped me somehow...
      I am glad, Audrey. We all need healing and to bring who we are back to life.

      Molly, peace. :l
      Rule your mind or it will rule you. It is from a thought that an action grows. :bat

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        #18
        Hypersensitivity

        Follow up on the who G is question regarding My Dearest Drunken Monkee Friend.

        Author and Blogger of ?Momastery?
        Glennon Melton in her own words:

        I?m a recovering bulimic and alcoholic. For twenty years I was lost to food and booze and bad love and drugs. I suffered. My family suffered. I had a relatively magical childhood, which added an extra layer of guilt to my pain and confusion. Glennon- why are you all jacked up when you have no excuse to be all jacked up?? My best guess is that I was born a little broken, with an extra dose of sensitivity. Growing up, I felt like I was missing the armor I needed to expose myself to life?s risks ? rejection, friendship, tender love. I felt awkward and unworthy and exposed. I felt naked. And I didn?t want to walk through life?s battlefield naked. I didn?t think I?d survive. So I made up my own little world called addiction and I hid there. I felt safe. No one could touch me.

        Glennon Doyle Melton: Simon & Schuster Speakers Bureau
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          #19
          Hypersensitivity

          HSP

          [QUOTE=Wildflowers;1394938]I think this super sensitivity was present b4 alcohol came into the picture for many. Thus the need to depress the central nervous system.


          **As I previously posted, I absolutely agree. I'd like to add some things to this topic moving forward. Some may find it useful in understanding and sorting themselves out.


          Top 10 Survival Tips for the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
          Secrets to surviving a highly sensitive (HSP) life
          Published on May 21, 2011 by Dr. Susan Biali, M.D. in Prescriptions for Life

          I've written about being a Highly Sensitive Person on this blog several times now, and each time I'm amazed by the intensity with which people respond to this topic. There are always a few critics who belittle or question the HSP concept, yet based on the huge number of page reads and overwhelmingly positive (and often grateful) responses, there really does seem to be something to this HSP phenomenon.

          I first learned of this relatively common but misunderstood trait - and recognized myself in it - via the work of psychologist Dr. Elaine Aron (for detailed info on her work in this area, as well as an HSP self-test, see The Highly Sensitive Person ). According to Aron's stats, HSPs make up 15-20 percent of the population yet often don't have a name for what has made them feel or seem "strange" or "overly sensitive" their entire life.

          HSPs are easily overwhelmed by stimuli, get stressed by loud noises and strong smells, are extremely perceptive, have rich and often intense internal lives, and need plenty of quiet and down time to maintain their equilibrium (and sanity, I would personally add).

          It was a great relief to me to finally understand what was "wrong" with me. I now even had an explanation for why I find any kind of violence, even the fake Hollywood kind, so abhorrent. It's not easy to go to a epic action movie with friends and to be the only one sobbing after war scenes (despite having covered my eyes the whole time - having only two hands I'm not able to cover my ears and the battle sounds alone are usually enough to push me over the edge).

          Knowing what I am has helped so much, especially when it comes to supporting myself through experiences that otherwise might overload my hypersensitive senses. Here, for you, are my top ten survival strategies:

          1) Get enough sleep

          Lack of sleep (less than 7 hours, for most people) is well known to produce irritability, moodiness, and decreased concentration and productivity in the average person. Given our already ramped-up senses, I'm convinced that lack of sleep can make a highly sensitive life almost unbearable. Getting enough sleep soothes your senses and will help you cope with an already overwhelming world.

          2) Eat healthy foods regularly throughout the day

          Aron points out that extreme hunger can be disruptive to an HSP's mood or concentration. Keep your edgy nerves happy by maintaining a steady blood sugar level through regular healthy well-balanced meals and snacks. I also take fish oil (omega-3) supplements daily as the brain loves these, lots of studies support their beneficial cognitive and emotional effects.

          3) Wear noise-reducing headphones

          A boyfriend introduced Peltor ear protecting headphones (usually used by construction workers, not pre-med students) to me when I was 19 and studying for exams. No matter where I am in the world I have had a pair with me ever since. HSPs are highly sensitive to noise, especially the kind we can't control, and my beloved headphones give me control over my personal peace in what's all too often a noisy intrusive world.

          4) Plan in decompression time

          HSPs don't do well with an overly packed schedule or too much time in noisy, crowded or high pressure environments. If you know you're going to spend a few hours in a challenging environment - such as a concert, a parade, or a crowded mall at Christmas time - know that you're likely to be frazzled after and will need to decompress somewhere quiet and relaxing, on your own if possible.

          5) Have at least one quiet room or space to retreat to in your home

          If you live with others, create a quiet safe place you can retreat to when you need to get away from people and noise. This could be a bedroom, a study, or even just a candlelit bath (or shower if that's all you have!). I've found it often helps to listen to quiet relaxing music as well, this can even drown out more jarring external noise when you need it to.

          6) Give yourself time and space to get things done

          I mentioned above that HSPs don't do well with a packed schedule. I've managed to structure my work life so that I work afternoon/evening shifts the days I'm at the medical clinic. This way I'm able to get out of bed without an alarm, eat a calm unrushed breakfast and putter around before getting down to business. The calm this gives me carries through my whole day. Another strategy for those who work in the morning might be getting up extra early (after 8 hours sleep, of course) to enjoy the quiet before the rest of the household wakes up.

          7) Limit caffeine

          HSPs are sensitive to caffeine - I usually can't even handle the traces of caffeine found in decaf coffee. If you're a coffee drinker (or dark chocolate junkie) and identify with the HSP trait description, giving up the joe might be a big step towards feeling more collected and calm.

          8) Keep the lights down low

          I've never liked bright lights and learning about HSP helped me understand why. Minimizing light stimulation goes a long way: I only put on low lights in the evening, and prefer to shop in certain local grocery stores which have gentle mood lighting, avoiding the garishly lit, crowded "big box" stores whenever I can.

          9) Get things done in off hours

          To avoid crowds and the associated noise and stimulation, I've learned to live my life outside of the average person's schedule. I grocery shop late in the evenings, run errands during the week whenever I can, go to movies on weeknights, and go out for my walks before the rest of the world hits the jogging path. An added bonus: by avoiding the crowds I usually get things done faster , and almost always get a parking spot!

          10) Surround yourself with beauty and nature

          Since we HSPs are so sensitive and deeply affected by our surroundings, envelop yourself with beauty and calm whenever possible. I've decorated my home simply in a way that's very pleasing to my eye, with minimal clutter and chaos. I also spend as much time as I can walking in nature, enjoying the quiet and its naturally healing and calming beauty.


          Here is a link to a self test if anyone would like to take it.

          Self Test

          Some of us have resorted to drinking because of our HSP, but even those who don't feel they have HSP, can become this way during withdrawal phases from alcohol abuse.
          Rule your mind or it will rule you. It is from a thought that an action grows. :bat

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            #20
            Hypersensitivity

            Hypersensitive? HYPERSENSITIVE?! HYPER-FRICKING-SENSITIVE?!

            What, like you mean being so incensed by my flatmates CONSTANT sniffing of his sniffling, snotty neb due to the fact that he SMOKES, which, if he had any cent in his Clackmannan wee brain, would know contributes to sniffling. And coughing. Don't get me going on his hackin' coughs. DISGUSTING. And then, then he lights up a fag (yes, that's what we call them here, I'm not being un-PC, OK?) and the rancid smell trickles and seeps through into my bedroom, onto my duvet, into my wardrope, onto my clothes. Like? LIKE? Despise. Oh, now don't get me wrong, I was a smoker for 15 frickin' years. Smokers can smoke all they smokin want to, but NOT beside ME. NOT when i can hear you hack yer phlegm up. And swallow. NOT when the stench of the smoke gets into my airspace. Y'hear?

            And while I'm here. WHO the FECK said anyone could climb that mountain i decided to climb today? WHO warranted the two beautiful young couples walking together to be on the mountain ridge the very same time I WAS. It was to be MY TIME. MY MOUNTAIN TIME. Not theirs, not anyones for just those few wee hours. And why on earth, WHY ON EARTH, did they have to speak? No speaking. Don't like the speaking. Keep yourselves shtumn. Hush.

            HUSH because I'm speaking to my Boss in my head here. We are having a conversation. And i need this mountain time to work out whether the boss is being a fecking CONTROL FREAK, or whether i'm just being HYPER-FECKING-SENSITIVE at work. And guess what? 1000ft up, i reckon it's BOTH Hahaha. MAN, it's amazing what my conclusions amount to: truthful... yet useless. That's right, I came up with a useless conclusion. So much for a moment of epiphany on my mountain time

            And then everyone in town. EVERYONE. Don't you ever look and wonder - why? WHY are you HERE? And have you ever listened to their clucking? And have you ever thought WHY do you bother to SPEAK? And then see all of them looking like cliched characters for some 1980's children's TV programme. Pigeon Street. Postman Pat. Sesame Street... Yeah and i think of these people on the street and I want to say to them, "do you like just go home, eat dinner in front of the TV and let that flickering fecking box gently massage your dumb ass brain cells into sedated submission? Do you?" If only i could. Well actually I could. I could just go up to them and say that. But I don't. You know why? Because I'm so hypersensitive that they might cause me to come out in some allergic rash. That's why. Geezo...

            Man, i wish the kids would hush outside. Living in this god forsaken town with god forsaken young people squealing like pigs on their way to some abattoir... the only slaying they're gonna get is from their mamas and their papas when they arrive home after midnight having snogged the face off of the poor lassie down that dark alley. Sure, I was young not so long ago. I remember dubious dark alleys of my youth. But it was different, ok? IT WAS DIFFERENT. TOTALLY DIFFERENT....

            Like, I wasn't a grumpy old man for starts.


            Thanks folks. :l Needed a bit of that... Normally I'd have a glass - no, bottle - of wine... But, no, instead i have a forum of very supportive eyes and hearts... Please do read the above as light entertainment and try not to judge RC as some bigotted arse. And now i'm going to watch that flickering fecking box gently massage my dumb ass brain cells into sedated submission...

            RC

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              #21
              Hypersensitivity

              Great thread: just found it

              As Jane Austen might have written a novel on this, it would have been titled: Hypersensitivity and Sensitivity.

              As human being we all get hypersensitive at times, some more than others. What's important remember is that when a person tells you that their feelings are hurt or that they are feeling somewhat offended, that you either try to apologize, rephrase, or at least acknowledge that you understand why they are feeling that way. That's where the "sensitivity" part comes in. We are of course not responsible for other people's emotions, but we need to be sensitive to other's experiences and be respectful.

              The bottom line is: if you don't show respect to other people, people won't respect you.

              I would have to say MWO is by far one of the best on line forums I've seen in terms of respectful postings!!! I think it's because we have older and wiser members here and not too many young members (most will not be joining until they are our age).
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              A wise man knows how little he knows."

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                #22
                Hypersensitivity

                And I hope my above comment was not disrespectful to the young people.... Or to the old people...or to the ones in between....
                Alcoholic (or Ally)

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                A wise man knows how little he knows."

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                  #23
                  Hypersensitivity

                  RunningCourage;1396716 wrote: Hypersensitive? HYPERSENSITIVE?! HYPER-FRICKING-SENSITIVE?!

                  What, like you mean being so incensed by my flatmates CONSTANT sniffing of his sniffling, snotty neb due to the fact that he SMOKES, which, if he had any cent in his Clackmannan wee brain, would know contributes to sniffling. And coughing. Don't get me going on his hackin' coughs. DISGUSTING. And then, then he lights up a fag (yes, that's what we call them here, I'm not being un-PC, OK?) and the rancid smell trickles and seeps through into my bedroom, onto my duvet, into my wardrope, onto my clothes. Like? LIKE? Despise. Oh, now don't get me wrong, I was a smoker for 15 frickin' years. Smokers can smoke all they smokin want to, but NOT beside ME. NOT when i can hear you hack yer phlegm up. And swallow. NOT when the stench of the smoke gets into my airspace. Y'hear?

                  And while I'm here. WHO the FECK said anyone could climb that mountain i decided to climb today? WHO warranted the two beautiful young couples walking together to be on the mountain ridge the very same time I WAS. It was to be MY TIME. MY MOUNTAIN TIME. Not theirs, not anyones for just those few wee hours. And why on earth, WHY ON EARTH, did they have to speak? No speaking. Don't like the speaking. Keep yourselves shtumn. Hush.

                  HUSH because I'm speaking to my Boss in my head here. We are having a conversation. And i need this mountain time to work out whether the boss is being a fecking CONTROL FREAK, or whether i'm just being HYPER-FECKING-SENSITIVE at work. And guess what? 1000ft up, i reckon it's BOTH Hahaha. MAN, it's amazing what my conclusions amount to: truthful... yet useless. That's right, I came up with a useless conclusion. So much for a moment of epiphany on my mountain time

                  And then everyone in town. EVERYONE. Don't you ever look and wonder - why? WHY are you HERE? And have you ever listened to their clucking? And have you ever thought WHY do you bother to SPEAK? And then see all of them looking like cliched characters for some 1980's children's TV programme. Pigeon Street. Postman Pat. Sesame Street... Yeah and i think of these people on the street and I want to say to them, "do you like just go home, eat dinner in front of the TV and let that flickering fecking box gently massage your dumb ass brain cells into sedated submission? Do you?" If only i could. Well actually I could. I could just go up to them and say that. But I don't. You know why? Because I'm so hypersensitive that they might cause me to come out in some allergic rash. That's why. Geezo...

                  Man, i wish the kids would hush outside. Living in this god forsaken town with god forsaken young people squealing like pigs on their way to some abattoir... the only slaying they're gonna get is from their mamas and their papas when they arrive home after midnight having snogged the face off of the poor lassie down that dark alley. Sure, I was young not so long ago. I remember dubious dark alleys of my youth. But it was different, ok? IT WAS DIFFERENT. TOTALLY DIFFERENT....

                  Like, I wasn't a grumpy old man for starts.


                  Thanks folks. :l Needed a bit of that... Normally I'd have a glass - no, bottle - of wine... But, no, instead i have a forum of very supportive eyes and hearts... Please do read the above as light entertainment and try not to judge RC as some bigotted arse. And now i'm going to watch that flickering fecking box gently massage my dumb ass brain cells into sedated submission...

                  RC
                  LOL!! However, RC, could you please keep your voice down. I'm quite sensitive to noise, you know.

                  Shaken and stirred now has a new meaning. I'm moving out to a remote cave. Care to come with? LOL!!!!!
                  Rule your mind or it will rule you. It is from a thought that an action grows. :bat

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                    #24
                    Hypersensitivity

                    It's a blessing to find scientific reasons behind something you lived throughout life with. I could never really understand it and always put a spiritual spin on it. I knew I was different...more sensitive than others, but never had a way to identify in the science realm. It, also, explains why certain people who are completely different such as hyperactive non stop talkers can make me crazy. Awhile back I started thinking this person has an energy that is in complete conflict with my own. It was almost instantaneous. I could feel my nerves unraveling and being taunted like nails on a chalkboard. Understanding my biochemistry produces a hyper sensitive person to stimuli clears all that up. It, also, shows where this type of persons gifts lie. Instead of taking insults from a more hyperactive drama queen person, I/you can now know there isn't anything wrong with the way we function.

                    One specific person knows I am talking to them and maybe some others, too.
                    Rule your mind or it will rule you. It is from a thought that an action grows. :bat

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                      #25
                      Hypersensitivity

                      I've enjoyed reading this thread this morning. I am definitely a HSP. My husband can play loud music, have all the lights on, have the television on with no sound and work on the computer all at the same time. I can spend hours alone with most of the lights out.

                      Slay. While reading your latest post I had to hide your signature because it's so noisy, lol.
                      :notes:
                      we are human beings with alcohol problems not alcoholics with problems caused by drinking

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                        #26
                        Hypersensitivity

                        nurdl;1397512 wrote: I've enjoyed reading this thread this morning. I am definitely a HSP. My husband can play loud music, have all the lights on, have the television on with no sound and work on the computer all at the same time. I can spend hours alone with most of the lights out.

                        Slay. While reading your latest post I had to hide your signature because it's so noisy, lol.
                        The last sentence is so funny. I actually find it too busy for me as well. LOL!!!! I just changed it a few days ago. I had three things on my mind and accented each. I'll tone it down for the both of us and others who may not handle too much stimuli well. My own signature a trigger? OH MY!!!! LOL!!!!

                        You enjoy your day.
                        Rule your mind or it will rule you. It is from a thought that an action grows. :bat

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                          #27
                          Hypersensitivity

                          I don't know you guys. I think I might be the opposite. When people places and things ratchet up, I will ratchet down and I do mean way down as in almost detached down, trance like....

                          Now I do have my breaking point...Absolutely and the explosion is usually big and fast but only last a few minutes. The I'm Okay. But Lately I'm not Okay. I can't ratchet down anymore. I wake up and I'm pretty level but any stressor, the kids, a banking error, car trouble, I am fricking Off to the races. I am absolutely right along the lines in Slay's 'Monky's Post'

                          I HATE ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING....Really alot. I mean really really alot. I need to decompress to bitch because my anger/stress level is almost stratospheric these days.

                          It's situational of course but of course, this is the first time I am dealing with this any of this sans AL.

                          I hate this.
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                            #28
                            Hypersensitivity

                            I'm one of you.

                            I've involuntarily gone into a shut-down mode tonight. It's a gift my brain gives me on occasion when it can't take anymore stimuli.

                            I don't want to be around rude cell phone users, non-stop talkers, my cat that meows constantly (she's fine, btw), people who go on and on about their children or grandchildren or pets (no offense), loud talkers, or those who tell a story that lasts f-o-r-e-v-e-r. Spare me the extremely long jokes, too.

                            Maybe I don't like talkers....

                            Answer me one thing: why is it acceptable to talk anywhere, at any volume, on one's cell phone, but no one sings along to the music they're listening to? I wouldn't necessarily want them to, but I find that very odd.

                            I was something weird on the Myers-Briggs Personality scale. Not special, mind you, just in a very low minority. INTJ? INSJ? Anyone else? I forget what it meant, but it probably showed I was intolerant of too many stimuli.

                            My, but aren't I a talker tonight.:bat
                            "Remember, you are responsible for creating your life by every thought, action, choice. Choose well." Oprah Winfrey

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                              #29
                              Hypersensitivity

                              Oh you and me Juja - I am ISFJ - and used a drink to help me talk a bit - it is easier for us when we are writing and anonymous!!!
                              “The only courage you will ever need is the courage to live the life you want"

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                                #30
                                Hypersensitivity

                                scottish lass;1397876 wrote: Oh you and me Juja - I am ISFJ - and used a drink to help me talk a bit - it is easier for us when we are writing and anonymous!!!
                                Is the F "feeling?" I forget.

                                Yes, I "speak" better when I'm anonymous, and can edit, too!

                                I bet we're all ponderers (?).

                                Tuckage all.
                                "Remember, you are responsible for creating your life by every thought, action, choice. Choose well." Oprah Winfrey

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