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[Popeye]

I SUCK!

You don't suck.
You're doing well.
Best wishes to you.

[Bella]

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And you are still doing good.

[Ripley]

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Sweetheart, I know that this is a hard time for you right now. Give yourself a break and a big hug, and then one from me. It's just one day in your life and today is a new one.

Are you trying any of the supps and other tools from the MWO programme to help you? Maybe you could consider adding to your arsenal of weapons! They do work hon and you deserve to beat this.

Thinking of you, K x

[Guest]

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I have ordered them, waiting on it to get here. Downloaded the book...started readding lastnight. I am starting over today....thanks everyone.

[wwbarb]

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The best thing about making a mistake or slipping up, whatever you want to call it, is that it teaches us something about ourselves if we pay attention.

Your first instinct was to thought "I suck" as many of us would do. If this was easy, this forum wouldn't have so many members!

Another thought was going through your head, but you weren't paying attention to it, as many of us don't unless we really try. To paraphrase, in your head something said, "Wonder why I did that". We just choose not to acknowledge that thought out.

The next time the thought "I suck" pops into your head, try changing it to "That's interesting - wonder why I'm doing that". View yourself as if you were an outside observer. Would you tell your best friend that they suck if they made a mistake? No - you'd try to come up with a solution. Once you are able to think clearly about it, you can come up with some viable solutions.

You are doing great. Quitting drinking, or mananging it, is a process. It's not a race to the finish line that you have to be perfect at.

[irishlady]

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Hello tired,
Listen, I have spent the last 10 years trying to stop drinking... I would get up in the morning with a horrendous hangover, swear on every God that I could think of that I wouldn't drink again, ever, 7 or 8 hours later, there I would be, in the supermarket buying not 1 but 2 bottles of wine, saying to myself, okay, I'll start tomorrow....

The longest I was AF before finding MWO was 2 years ago, I actually went for 4 weeks without a drink.... I felt so good, but what did I do????. At the end of the 4 weeks I BOUGHT A BOTTLE OF WINE TO CELEBRATE MY NEW FOUND SOBERIETY...DUH...

I thought, wow, I have this demon under control now, surely I can allow myself just 1 bottle a week... What I didn't know was that it was the demon still in control, not me...

By posting on here you have shown that you are getting that demon under control... You DON'T SUCK.... What you are doing is LEARNING ANOTHER LESSON...

By the way, what wwbarb has said makes a whole lot of sense, rephrase things in your mind, always look for the positive.....

Good luck,

Love, Louise xxx

[free2beme]

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Tired, you don't suck! We're all taking this one day at a time. Heck, if I bought the little four pack I sure couldn't just drink two little tiny bottles! Just think how much less you drank than your normally would. Today is a new day!

[southernbelle47]

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"You are what you think"
Remember "The little engine that could"?
I think I can...I think I can...I think I can!

:l Nancy

[Rocky]

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No... You do not suck....Only if you give up...

and you show no signs of that!!!

Keep on reaching for your goal...

[Rags]

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Hi TOC,
Isn't it a bugger when the liquor shop is right where you have to walk or drive past it. At my shopping centre it is right beside the exit of the supermarket!
So, you bought some wine and drank it. Almost all of us have done the same thing several times over. It's part of the process. How long does it take to wean a baby?
So, please allow yourself the time for this transitional phase. Going cold turkey is an incredible assault to our system. How do you think you'd go by allowing yourself to a couple of drinks every 3-4 days, then lengthening out the period, so you are doing it nice and gradual. That's how I did it and it worked fine. Took about 2 months.
Meanwhile, please be patient and kind to yourself.
Give yourself a hug for coming this far. And tomorrow, you start again. It really isn't a problem. Just keep starting, and after a while it will start to slip into place for you.
Fran

[cassy]

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hi there i know that sinking feeling when you feel you have let yourself down whether its one wine or ten.

For me what works too is i buddy up with a close friend who also wants to moderate her drinking. we are aiming initially for lent..40 days of no booze.We check in by text each am and eve and its become in a way a support but also its released a competitive streak in me which I didnt know i possessed!!!

We did the same with cigarettes 12 years ago..drunk on a new years bet...i,ve not smoked since and amazingly the craving for fags went!!

I admit to some crazy behaviours when cutting the fags...and the wine.

I have to plan a full evening after work...walking, reading, gardening, tv, cooking, cleaning, painting my nails, clear out the wardrobe...anything to get past my danger time when i usually start drinking(any time from 9 -11pm.)

Then as a catholic i also make myself do 2 short sessions am and eve of spiritual reading/preayers..to keep some discipline in my life.

For social activities...things have changed a bit to get me through these early days...so its the cinema, hire a DVd, go for meals but not in usual places where i drank a lot.Go to some church activities. Still see friend but at weekends do lunch (neveai time i drank...not a daytime drinker)or go shopping or walking.

Struggling with the need to "reward myself" and ate a million peanuts and chocs yesterday..Have joined an exercise class a few months back..again in the evenings.

i have drank alcohol since i was 16 and now in early fifties so old habits are hard to break.


dont give and I,m trying t to plod on too. 17 Days alcohol free for me..dont know where this journey is leading and get scared if i think of "never again".working on re programming my thoughts etc.

Went for dinner with a friend last night and had fun(can remember it all too)sometimes I feel God talks to me by the people who cross my path lately. I couldnt help noticing a drunk at the next table. He was fun at firs and then by the time we left he was argumentative and falling asleep alternatively...ring any bells. not an attractive look.

i dressed as best as i could and felt good on arrival and am leased to say i left the restuarant/pub in the same condition.

No i am not being smug...pride comes before a fall. Just so happy that these 17 days . hard as they have been at times have given me back some self respect.

i really hope you get past day one too...its hard but keep reading on this site and maybe buddy up with somebody you trust(not necessarily a drinker)to check indaily/.

for me I hated the idea of AA..although it works for so many.I also didnt want to discuss it with my GP as didnt want it on my records...vanity ..oh vanity and pride.


no doubt my liver funnction is clapped and it will come to light one day by the medics!!

Anyone got any research on whether giving up the booze improved either their blood pressure of liver function???????????????????


good luck and dont despair....Cassy

[betty boop]

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Hi i've only just found this after my holiday....

I totally agree with Lush, Compare how you used to be ...

You really aren't a loser ...

Lots of love....