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[tea]

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Hiya, just wanted to say welcome, this site changed my life, welcome to the journey.... note that I never said I suddenly became alcohol free.... but what a support group, keep posting, keep looking in, I don't post often but do look in EVERY DAY. Just wanted to say welcome.

Lorna

[tea]

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Maxman, no-one on this site - fecks up so to speak, we are ALL on the same journey, this site had NEVER judged me, and I tell you I have posted drunk and sober !!!! we are a support group, nothing more and nothing less.......... you WILL find this out, the more you log in the more you will find ... we support each others failings and celebrate each others succcesses! Good luck to you and see you here soon.

Lorna

[maxman]

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thanks feeling better now. had a big talk with wife and getting another chance. I will not blow it this time. af so far today & with no grog in the house should make it through ok. It is taking a while to come to terms with it but I have finally realised that I am an alchohlic. time now to do something about it. with your help I think I can do anything.

[sally114]

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Use the support

maxman

It is so hard to look at yourself and see that the drink is in control. I like you have so much to lose but time and again I have 'failed'. This time i've listened to the support on this site and forgiven myself seen it as inevitable but not given up. I started and stopped several times since finding this site in November and just started posting but I cannot tell you how much the support helps - use it as much as you can. Not only great support but wonderful advice on the medication side in the other forums
We are always our own worst critic!



SAl

[sparklem]

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Reading the posts on here help me keep going once I decided to try. You can do it, but it does take time...give yourself a goal to reach and then move on from there to the next...you are not alone and having friends makes a big difference....
today my goal is working out, spending time at the beach, and not drinking more than a 6 pack...wish me luck and back at you & your wife--I'm working on no more hangovers :-)

[maxman]

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no beer so far spending the night watching tv with my wife. I am so lucky she is so understanding.wouldnt it be too cold for the beach over there? its beach weather down here at the moment. my goals wil be to be af, eat properly & to regain my fitness, I am sure I will think of more. GOOD LUCK sparklem. Will make everyone proud

[Serenity]

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Hi Maxman

Althought new to this site, I am not new to trying to stop drinking and stay stopped.

I do know it doesn't happen immediately - however much you want it. If you think how long it took us to get addicted and continue to drink (about 15 yrs for me) we are so used to it and how it makes us feel.

The important bit is that you don't want to drink anymore thats half the battle.

Don't beat yourself up because you need to keep positive to beat this and visualise a life without alcohol.

Good luck to you !! and congratulations - my husband also has a problem but as he is a 'man' thinks he only doing something that all men do - UK culture similar to Aussie culture - makes my task harder - he is no support to me and feel like on my own!!!
Love S: goodjob:

[Arial]

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Welcome

Hi Maxman and :welcome:

Don't underestimate that first day! That 1 day is 'a big deal' - it's the day that you'll be able to look back on and say that's when I took control, that's when I started to get my life back, - and now the journey begins. A brilliant start so keep up the motivation, keep your goals in sight, your dreams - keeping what I wanted to achieve in sight helped me look beyond the alcohol so the focus changed from the drink to the dreams. Find whatever works for you - it's tough but believe in yourself and your own strength - ditto what was said before - if you want it to work, you'll find a way. So you know where to find us, keep talking and we'll support in any way we can.

Here's to day 2!

[aquamarine]

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Maxman- Hang in there and keep trying. It is a long process to overcome this problem . I think one of the worst things we do and which prolongs the process is beat ourselves up after a slip. You need to learn and move on. If you raise the bar too high right off the bat you just experience failure. Make little goals, plod on,and focus on you successes not your failure. You can do it ! Aquamarine

[maxman]

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I did it yesterday af! had a rough night sleep, massive sweats and some awesome cravings which I managed to ignore. feeling great this morning and are going to have breakfast (havent done so for some time) Its a public holiday down here in melbourne, will be spending it with the family. thanks

[maxman]

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days good so far, prepared a lamb roast with a bottle of white in it and the lamb got it all!! and thanks for the advice sk

[maxman]

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I need a good hard belting

[ScoobyDoo]

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Maxman, go easy on yourself. You won't be getting no beatin' from me boy... just a big warm cyber hug from Sydney instead.

How about heading out for a walk before sunset to clear your mind.

Doo

[Kimmy]

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Hello Maxman

I to like you are new to the site - I cant say that I have not had a drink today because just like yesterday I think I am still drunk but well done - and welcome!

These people are fantastic - good luck maybe tomorrow i can say one day without.

Kimmy

[tawnyfrog]

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Sometimes I think a metaphoric cyber belting is better than a metaphoric cyber hug.

But .... what would I know? .....

I do agree though - now would be a really good time to go for a long, long walk