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    Its getting desperate

    Hi everyone,
    My name's James I have been drinking heavily for about 7 years now, in fact I cant really remeber the last time I went more than a day whithout drinking. Im still drinking but this has to be it I cant go on any longer its gettibg ridiculous, feels like its the point when everthing is going to begin to unravel unless I do something soon. My girlfriend does'nt really understand, she knows I have a problem with drink but she does'nt realise that Im an alcoholic and I cant go a day without drink and if I do I get so angry and cant sleep, well im gonna try and make a stand, really need to get some control, well tis all a bit scary.
    James
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    Welcome CT! I would recommend reading the book and see what path you want to take. This program is very effective at helping to control the cravings. I understand the daily drinking thing and did not think it would be possible for me to ever go one day without and with the help of this program and these boards I have had many alcohol-free days. You can as well. :welcome:
    I'm really easy to get along with once people learn to worship me

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      #3
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      Welcome CT, you are in the place that will change your life, just let it. Keep looking, and bravery award to you for posting.

      Lorna
      Rather die standing, than live on my knees, begging Please..... No More.......

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        #4
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        Cheers

        Thanks, Im gonna start tommorow, going to try and not drink for as many days as possible, one day at a time I think, but yeah positive steps..
        James

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          #5
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          Hi James welcome to this site,all of us here have a drink problem some have just realised it others like myself have known for years but went into denial or some attempt at moderating .Why dont you just try one day and keep coming tothe site for support and to get some tips.

          i for one has to really give some thought to planning day one..ie work out the danger zone time..when i start to drink..in my case evenings around 9pm.

          i had to put something else in that time zone...cook, read, watch tv, go to the cinema, keep away from areas where i normally drink..remove booze from my house.

          i found it useful to buddy up with a friend who wanted to cut down /or quit the booze and we text each other am and evening to check in for mutual support (sounds pathetic but its worked for the last 21 alcohol free days0

          Dont despair..some of us have been drinking for 30 -40 years or more!!its never to late to start and boty is it a relieve not to wake up feling guilty with memory fully intact. It also helps me to pray a little at the start of the day and do a bit of spiritual reading...again sounds whacky to some but works for me)

          Develop a strategy and a plan for day one Jamesand see how that goes..its too scary to think of it in longer terms when you are starting out..even knowi cant bear to think no wine forever!!!i live in hope i can moderate eventually but am realistic enough to know for me that may not be possible.

          good luck James and keep posting..dont give up trying even if it takesd a while to do day one. you have shown motivation by getting on this site...I actually find the site inspires me to keep plodding on a day at a time


          Bye for now

          Cassy.........off for a bubble bath and a sober nights sleep...Thank God

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            #6
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            Hi James~
            Glad you foung us!
            :flower: Change a life; make someone feel important. ................. ........................ ..................... ........................ ................. ....... sigpic

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              #7
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              Hi James and Welcome.
              I understand your feeling of how it all just gets ridiculous. Many of us can relate. Keep reading and posting and it sounds like you are so motivated for those AF days. GOOD LUCK
              "Keep your eyes and heart focused on the end goal at all times, and never settle for less."

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                #8
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                well I am motivated but I what Im like and I just fear that i will just fall vack into the ways all to easily
                James

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                  #9
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                  also is it going to change who I am? to many ppl know me as the drunk person who is alwys up for fun, I dont want that anymore I just want to be me but im a bit worried about how my friends will react.
                  James

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                    #10
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                    Forget your friends....

                    Sobriety is a time to be selfish. It's a time for you...to find you...to be you...to care for you...to be the best you.

                    I found that I'm not quite that different from drunk SeaBreez. I'm still fun. I still have that warped sense of humor except now I don't stumble, fumble or slur my words!
                    :flower: Change a life; make someone feel important. ................. ........................ ..................... ........................ ................. ....... sigpic

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                      #11
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                      Hi James, I'm glad you found this site you will get lots of support here. We do it supporting each other, reading the book, taking the supplements, etc. I believe the amino acids are very important to curbing the cravings. Don't worry about your friends this challenge is yours alone.:welcome:
                      Enlightened by MWO

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                        #12
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                        Hi C.T.

                        I never thought I would feel sooo excited at the prospect of a life without alcohol......however I seemed to think that alcohol without a life was a fine thing????

                        I am 94 days sober, and believe me, I have never....and I mean never, felt so good.
                        That doesn't mean it's all been hunky dory 'party time' whoopee!!...it's been easy/tough/high/low and then some...
                        but then, my drinking life was low/tough/guilt/violence/embarrassment/shame/sickness... etc etc...so I know where I'd rather be!
                        Use the tools here my friend...the meds, the supps, the reading, the boards, the cds...there's plenty on offer...and read through back posts of long term abstainers and moderators to find out things that have worked for them that you may be able to incorporate into your drink management plan, whether that be alcohol free or moderation...Go for it....!!

                        It can be tough, but it's also the BEST feeling in the world!!!
                        See you 'round the boards...Weemelon

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                          #13
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                          Thankyou all so much, I know this has to be done for myself only and that is the reason I want to sort it out, for me alone, i recognise you have to be selfish its the only way to do it. Im quite amazed sbout the amount of support available on this site, its excellent thankyou all x
                          James

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                            #14
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                            Hi James

                            I used to live in Portmouth myself as matter of fact- Southsea.

                            anyway, that aside. I really recommend you buy (amazon.co.uk) or dowload the book and gen up on the whole MWO programme. Different approaches work for different people on this site, and some people do manage with willpower, support from this site and the supplements. personally I needed the hypnotherapy and the topamax too. It is a personal choice, but get yourself informed about the various choices open to you. The programme really works, and it does not have to be a huge struggle. Since gettting all my various "tools" I am able to go out with drinkers and say no to alcohol myself, with not much of an effort on my part frankly. I can't tell you what a miracle this is : I was drinking 1-2 bottles of wine a night minimum plus sneaky secret vodka shots before, and hadn't had a dry night in literally years.

                            Good luck James - do be selfish but don;t worry about this being too hard: it won't be.

                            Kate x

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                              #15
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                              Wellcome james, You will still be you without the drunken part. good luck to you , post often as there is always someone here day or night to help and support you. B

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