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Lavande;1417550 wrote:
One thing I have learned along the way is what I was fearing the most was the 'unknown'. I didn't know who I was going to be as a sober person. I, didn't know how I would handle stress, etc. Turned out my fears were completely unjustified. I pushed myself to learn healthier, better ways to think & handle life. You can do all this too.
Lav
That is a profound statement and may even be the answer change=freedom was looking for. The fear of success and what that would mean to change when 30 days was achieved... so fear took over and AL won that time. I like how you discovered the other things to do that took the place of AL. I just earned my Masters this year and believe me, it couldn't have and wouldn't have happened if I had been drinking every night.
change=freedom, one of my favorite lines I like to use is just make a You-turn and get back on the wagon. You can do it and you've got a lot of support here.
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Eve11"Control your destiny or somebody else will"
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God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me. ~Author unknown, :thumbs:
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Eve11;1420409 wrote: Lavande,
That is a profound statement and may even be the answer change=freedom was looking for. The fear of success and what that would mean to change when 30 days was achieved... so fear took over and AL won that time. I like how you discovered the other things to do that took the place of AL. I just earned my Masters this year and believe me, it couldn't have and wouldn't have happened if I had been drinking every night.
change=freedom, one of my favorite lines I like to use is just make a You-turn and get back on the wagon. You can do it and you've got a lot of support here.
:l
Eve11
Change: eve is right. The most important thing is to just get back on the wagon! And we are all for that!!!!Alcoholic (or Ally)
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gmc38609;1417844 wrote: Someone said to me once, don't count the days as it is almost like counting how long you can last before you fail,
Just consider yourself no longer a drinker of alcohol less pressure and forget the amount of days
Easier said than done but i can see the logicHonour Thyself
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HA! Still AF! I'm starting to feel in control and to see that I CAN LIVE SOBER AND BE HAPPY :jumpwow:
kuya;1420400 wrote: Good to hear Change ....... Cos you DON'T drink and nor do I .....brilliant isn't it !
It really is Kuya, it really and truly is!
Lavande;1417550 wrote:
One thing I have learned along the way is what I was fearing the most was the 'unknown'. I didn't know who I was going to be as a sober person. I, didn't know how I would handle stress, etc. Turned out my fears were completely unjustified. I pushed myself to learn healthier, better ways to think & handle life. You can do all this too.
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Wildflowers;1417561 wrote:
Change it's OK to be upset, disappointed in yourself for a few, but no longer. You are far to beautiful, smart, good, & kind for that nonsense!!! Listen to Lav & stay connected to others here, it's vital to your sobriety ~ recovery!!! You can do this!!!.... Before you know it you will have 30 days again & you haven't lost the ones you had. You just learn from them like many of us hun. :l You aren't a failure, you are a natural learner.
Thanks also to techie, Lav, Kuya, Mick, Byrdie, Patrick, gmc, RC, Eve, and Alco for your comments, suggestions, and support. I'm going to keep revisiting and re-reading this thread. Like Emily said, there is "some amazing advice on this thread" :h
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hey change, hey everyone, i just found this website 3 days ago. i'm 5 days sober. one thing i wanted to add (and believe me this helps me so much reaffrimimg this in my head and hopefully it might help someone else). For 5 yrs i've been trying to get sober( after 20yrs of daily drinkng). the most clean time i've got is 6months. It started out getting 30days, drinking for a couple, then getting 60days, drinking a couple, etc now i get 5/6 months then fall off for a couple. And it sucks! when i slip i feel awful, ashamed, like a total loser, "will i ever remain AF!?!" And at first i feel like i've got to start over, but thats not true! If i let myself think that way i wouldn't make it, that's my disease speaking. Because tha fact is i am winning the battle, think positive, i went from drinking 100% of the time to 10% of the time. Eventhough i've slipped a lot in 5 yrs i 've done a ton of emtional and physical healing. If i read my journal from just 2yrs ago the change is huge. A slip can just be a hic up in the road, its what i want to make of it, but believe me i could do without these damn hic ups, lol, but when they happen i don't dwell on them." Why did it happen?!, what did i do wrong!", not going there, i did it because thats what alcoholics do. I choose to think about the days i don't drink, those are the miracle's for this alcoholic, that's just not normal in my world! And btw if i didn't screw up how could i be much help to anyone else. If i did it perfect, eveyone could admire me but i wouldn't be much help, because i wouldn't know the pain of relapse. sorry for the long post, hang in there change, just think in one month if you only drank 1 or 2 days that was 28days of your body, spirit and mind having wonderful and not so wonderful AF healing, 2 days of drinking can't reverse all that, love you all, matt
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